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When people are young, they are always proud of their friends, they will be more willing to spend time on making friends, many times for the sake of superficial hilarity, often without distinction, have not yet fully measured this person, only care about the food and drink in front of them, and will not think too much at all.
Time invisibly helps us filter the people around us, and the more we go on, the more we will find that some people are not really friends at all, some people slowly lose from our side and completely cut off contact, and some people need to go through some things to be able to completely see his true face.
Many times it is not clear to see a person without going through one thing, and many things will only be understood with age, and when they reach the age of thirty, the people around them will be less and less, and they are all very important.
In the past, I always felt that friends had more roads to go, and then I found that in fact, the relationship between people is more of an equivalent exchange, and those who are gradually drifting away will not find that they will find that they are no longer different from each other after reaching a certain node, and most of the people who come to the side later are running towards your value.
After the age of thirty, we will find that it is getting harder and harder to make friends, the cost of making friends is getting higher and higher, and when you have no value, others are not even willing to look at you more.
At this time, we no longer need many friends around us, as long as three or two confidants are enough, the rest will be at ease with the situation, and let nature take its course.
After the age of thirty, don't spend all your time on making friends, when interacting with people, learn to "thin affection", is really wise.
Socialize without meaning and don't go anymore
In the past, I would be very envious of those whose lives were lively, and every time I took a break from vacation, I was not embarrassed to say that I was at home alone, and I always felt that a person's life was too boring, and I didn't want others to feel that they were out of place, and life was too lonely.
So whenever someone asks them to go out to a party, they will be very willing to participate, even if some occasions do not like, they will pretend to be very gregarious.
At that time, I just wanted to fill my life as much as possible, and I couldn't bear to be alone, and I didn't think about whether these occasions were meaningful, as long as I wasn't alone at home.
However, it was later found that some parties were just a large-scale comparison scene, some occasions were just to satisfy the vanity of individuals, others catered to flattery, and the whole process came down, not only did not help themselves, but also felt like sitting on a needle felt, very uncomfortable.
After the age of thirty, I will never go against my will to go to some disliked parties, habitually say "no", as long as I feel that there is no point, there is no need to refuse all dates, I will never mind that others feel that they are not social, nor do I mind being alone, but I like to be alone, doing what I like to do, better than participating in some dates that waste time and make myself uncomfortable.
Properly rejecting some meaningless parties, although it seems a little "thin", but the heart is very cool.
Friends who are not sincere enough should be judged and do not have to regret it
Along the way, I have lost a lot of friends who think it is very important in my heart, thinking that I can go for a lifetime, but I will disperse as I walk, and I will be sad in the face of the departure of some people before, and I will find ways to save it.
Later, I gradually understood that some people are just a fate of a journey, and there is no way to force it. We know each other at a certain time, and at that stage we are walking with each other, and as the next path we take is different, the direction we choose is different, and there are bound to be some people who will slowly leave.
And what I've always believed is that all that will leave can only prove that it is not true love, whether it is friendship or love.
True friends, no matter how long it has been, always have a place for each other in their hearts, you will not easily leave, those friends who will leave can only prove that they are not true enough, and there is nothing to lose.
After thirty years of age, in addition to time to help us filter out some friends who are not sincere enough, we must also learn to filter, screen the people around us, take the initiative to learn to give up, give up some hypocritical people, and friends who are not sincere enough should be judged and not regretted.
Such a thin affection is to leave the true heart to the person who is truly worthy, and does not have to waste energy to maintain unnecessary relationships.
Spending more time on improving yourself and improving your own value is the most critical
Many relationships before the age of thirty are established quickly, holding hands to go to the toilet, or two people who have a common dislike, will also quickly build a friendship. But such relationships come and go quickly.
In the final analysis, the root of maintaining a relationship lies in your own value, you have value, others will be willing to come close to you, you have value, you can bring convenience to the people you really care about.
In this world, many things are nothing, only a better self is a visible progress, only to make you better, everything is meaningful.
When the people around you are constantly improving, then you will be the one who is left behind, and when others throw you away, they will not say hello to you at all.
Instead of investing time in some meaningless socializing, some friends who are not sincere enough, it is better to focus on the self, which is the real meaningful and valuable thing.
Thirty years old, you should be able to distinguish between the important, know what kind of things are the most important, know how to give up some things in time, free up time to pursue more meaningful things, such a "thin feeling", the final will bring you infinite value.
Thirty years old is a very important node in life, which means that you will have to take on the pressure of life, your mind will become mature, and you will have to meet the challenges of the second half.
Thirty years old can see a lot of things, you can also see through many people, do not have to pay attention to others, only learn to improve yourself, love yourself is the most important.
Thirty years old, your life does not have to be too lively, there are three or two sincere friends around is enough, to learn to give up, cut off some useless relationships, give up some insincere friends, get rid of some self-consuming personnel, communicate with people to learn thin feelings, free time to focus on the self, this is very critical.
From the age of thirty, "thin affection" is more useful than "deep affection" on the show.