Author: Wei Magazine Editorial Department Mang Mang
At 21:10 on the evening of February 10, the Chinese ice hockey team faced the American ice hockey team, which was the first time that the Chinese men's ice hockey team appeared on the stage of the Winter Olympics.
On the field, the athlete Ying Rudi, wearing the No. 98 jersey, looked quite eye-catching and attracted the attention of the media.
Of course, there is also a reason, that is, he is the son of the well-known director Yingda.
Some time ago, Yingda gave a rare interview, talking about Ying Rudi, the son of his current wife Liang Huansheng.
In the year of Hua Jia, he was full of vigor and his mouth was like a river, revealing that Yingrudi is currently the captain of the Chinese ice hockey national team, and will represent China at the Beijing Winter Olympics in 2022, striving to win glory for the country.
Words are full of pride in the younger son.
From the age of 3 began to practice ice hockey, 9 years old to the United States for professional training, 18 years old signed a contract with beijing Kunlun Hongxing ice hockey club, became a professional ice hockey player, this year only 23 years old Ying Rudi can be called a young talent.
On the other hand, the eldest son Batuu, although Song Dandan used various methods to win him popularity, and often took him to various programs, he was still tepid in the entertainment industry.
People can't help but wonder, why is there such a big gap between Batuu and Yingrudi?
Batuu and Ying rudi can really be called the same father and different fate.
At that time, only a month after divorcing Song Dandan, Yingda couldn't wait to marry Liang Huan, gave birth to a young son, and specially named the child - Ying Rudi.
For the growth of the younger son, Indah has never been absent, and has escorted all the way.
On Yingrudi's 3rd birthday, Yingda, who loves her son, invited all the children in the kindergarten to the clubhouse to celebrate her son's birthday.
Seeing his younger son glued to the piano in the clubhouse, he hooked up with Yingru Di: "If you promise to keep learning, Daddy will buy you this expensive toy." ”
Yingrudi, who often accompanies her mother to go shopping, is obsessed with the ice rinks she passes by, and Yingda discovers her child's new hobby - ice hockey.
In this way, from the age of 3, Yingrudi began to receive professional piano and ice hockey training, and at the age of 4, Yingda hired a foreign teacher for him to exercise his English level and prepare for going abroad in the future.
In 2007, the 9-year-old YingRudi flew to Canada as the core of a children's ice hockey team in Beijing, the Tiger Boys, to participate in the World Children's Ice Hockey Championship.
Unexpectedly, the Tiger Boys won the world championship in the amateur A group, and Yingrudi was also named the "scoring king" because of the most scores in the competition.
Yingda, who was planning to let his youngest son specialize in piano, quickly adjusted the direction of education and sent 9-year-old Yingrudi to the United States for ice hockey training.
Liang Huan, the mother, also gave up her job for her son and traveled across the ocean to the United States to take care of her children's daily life.
Since childhood, Indah has been instructing in Yingrudi's ear:
"You can't change your nationality no matter what, even if you are sent to the United States to learn ice hockey, it is so that you can come back one day to play for the Chinese team."
Yingru Dysprosium did not live up to the careful cultivation of her parents.
The partners who also went to the United States to train gave up one by one, and he was the only one who persevered.
When his peers were still in high school, the 18-year-old Ying Rudi signed a contract with Beijing Kunlun Hongxing Ice Hockey Club for an annual salary of one million.
For Yingrudi, to have today's achievements, father Yingda is indispensable.
However, Indah is a good father to Yingrudi, and to Batuu, it may just be a stranger who is related by blood.
He gave Yingrudi enough love and care, but disappeared into the world of his eldest son Batu, ignoring Batuu for more than twenty years.
In 2011, Indah took her beloved young son to the show, showing the father-son relationship.
He did everything he could to praise Yingrudi's talent and ability in piano and ice hockey, calling himself a "driver, nanny, cook, coach" father, but forgetting another son, Batuu, who had been waiting for him to make a phone call.
Song Dandan, who saw the show, was furious and the scolding war was about to erupt.
She sent two consecutive Weibo posts angrily scolding Yingda for being "not human":
"When Batuu was 7 years old, he begged you to take him out to play once and you ignored it, and at 11 years old you didn't give you a phone call. For 14 years, it has been a strange road, and it is okay to perform a loving father, but I will not allow you to continue to hurt my son! ”
She has not dared to change her mobile phone number for 14 years, hoping that Tianyingda can take the initiative to call and care about Batu, but she has never waited.
For Song Dandan's accusation, Yingda had no remorse, but retorted it with vigor and vigor.
He said in an interview:
"I myself believe that divorce should not come to me again, nor should it look for me.
The main thing I don't want to hurt is not my current wife, but my current child (Ying RuDi), because my current child cherishes me very much, and I don't want to bring him any psychological waves.
I feel like I still care about him (Batuu), but in this case, I can no longer play the role of father.
This is not good for him (Batuu) first, and unfair to his stepfather second. ”
In Indah's view, his father-son relationship with Batuu had long since ended.
If he wants to start a new life after the divorce, he must turn the original page completely, including not seeing the children.
After The death of Grandpa Batuu, Batuu wanted to attend his grandfather's funeral, but Wastanbul refused.
He even claimed: "I am proud of my father, who is called Yingrudi." ”
But he said: "It is doubtful whether Batuu is now called Inbatu. ”
Even onlookers feel chilled by this remark, is it true that only excellent and successful children deserve to be called the descendants of the Ying family?
In this marriage, there is no doubt that Batuu is the most innocent and the most hurt person.
In his childhood, his father was absent and ignored him, and his mother was injured due to divorce and could not take care of herself.
At the most difficult time, Song Dandan even thought about committing suicide.
"I was 36 years old when I got divorced, which is the age at which a woman is most insecure.
At one point I fell into despair, feeling abandoned by the world, washing my face with tears during the day and talking with pillows at night. ”
The only son, of course, became the only belief and life-saving straw in her life.
She has high hopes for Batuu, but pursues a repressive education.
Unfortunately, Batuu always lived up to his mother's expectations, not only did he not get good grades, he was more active, he was not concentrated enough, he was simply full of shortcomings.
In the most desperate time, Song Dandan even said: "I married a scumbag and gave birth to a waste." ”
What impressed the audience the most was that a few years ago, Song Dandan took Batuu to participate in "Longing for Life".
In front of the guests and the camera, she frantically spat on her son the whole time.
Everyone praised Dahua for getting up early to make breakfast, and Song Dandan began to criticize Batuu as soon as his words turned:
"Look at people."
Seeing batu's toe hair inflammation, he obviously wanted to care, but blurted out:
"What's wrong with your feet?" You nibbled on it yourself, right? You perform it to everyone, you nibble every time. ”
"Not once did Batuu have a happy parent-teacher conference when I was a kid."
He wanted to motivate Batuu to build a chicken nest, but what he said was: "You must be able to put up the chicken nest, and your child will not be raised in vain." ”
She has been nagging, and she has also shaken out the troubles of Batu's childhood, and has not hidden her poisonous tongue and disgust.
Devastated, Batuu could not intimidate his mother and could only walk away in silence.
In fact, Song Dandan also reflected on how to educate children.
Of course, she loves her son deeply, and she does not hesitate to say "I love you" to her son, but some old educational concepts have long become stereotypes and are difficult to be completely corrected.
Fortunately, Batuu, who was kind and easy-going enough, gradually reconciled with himself and had a happy little home when he grew up.
For many people, it is also a comfort.
We often hear something like this from some parents:
Criticizing you is for your own good, I'd rather you hate me in the future, I don't want you to grow up and regret it, you must be a person with a good reputation.
They want to motivate their children through repression, but they don't understand:
Children whose emotions are suppressed and whose values are denied may also be able to achieve good results, may be able to find good jobs, but have deep inferiority and pain in their hearts, and need to spend a lifetime to heal themselves.
There is a saying that goes like this: "Suppress the child, the child will not stop loving his parents, but he will stop loving himself." ”
Only adequate and healthy love can make children's hearts truly full of confidence, so that they can bravely explore their own life path.
Putting aside the grudges between the parents, looking back, compared with Yingrudi, what Batuu lacks is not just a father, but also a healthy love.
In a way, the essence of education is to fight for parents.
It is not to fight for how rich the parents are, but to fight whether the parents have love, whether they can respect each other, and whether they can create a loving growth environment for their children.
Marriage is not only about finding a partner for yourself, but also about finding a good father/mother for your children.
Actor Qin Hao's concept of parenting is worth learning from many people:
"I have a consensus with the child's mother that every time we see the child laughing, we can't bear to let her smile disappear in this life, and we will try to make her happy." 」
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Author: Wei Magazine Editorial Department Mang Mang, this article was first published in the public number: VIKAN Wei Magazine (ID: kawa01). Wei Magazine, let millions of people see a better life.