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Text|fat boy
Editor|Huang Yi is here
If I weren't single moms, my son and I would never be so close.
We have too many different experiences between other mothers and children.
Song Dandan, who said this, was full of endless bitterness.
His own son's biological father ignored him.
Let the mother and son suffer countless grievances.
are all biological flesh and blood, why Yingda gave double her love to her younger son.
But he spoke ill of Batuu, was it just because his birth mother was different?
01
The last thing Song Dandan wants to remember in his life is two failed marriages.
At the age of 24, her boyfriend who had been in love for many years suddenly proposed to break up.
In order to get rid of the shadow of lost love as soon as possible, she made a very irrational decision to "flash marriage".
Entered into marriage with a man who had only known him for 3 months.
Song Dandan, who was married for the first time, feels very happy and can talk to intimate people every day.
But the lack of personality combined into a problem that the two could not escape.
In the end, the marriage lasted only a short year.
In 1987, Song Dandan, who had just experienced a failed marriage, went to work.
I met the equally frustrated Inda on the set of "Arsonist".
His wife stayed in the United States and did not want to return, so she had no choice but to divorce.
The two got together only to feel that they had met their confidant, and there were endless words every day.
After the shooting, the two couldn't wait to get a marriage certificate.
But Song Dandan soon found that this man was unreliable.
Although tall and reliable on the surface, it is very fragile inside.
Even think of yourself as an unreasonable child.
The days went on like water.
Until the sketch "Blind Date of Lazy Men" made Song Dandan a hit.
With her continuous masterpieces, she has become a well-known "sketch queen".
Seeing his lover's career thriving, Yingda's heart is not a taste.
It was at this time that Batuu's birth brought good luck to the family.
This year, the careers of the two reached their peak.
Song Dandan's sketch "Super Life Guerrilla" became popular all over the streets.
Even the green scarf around his neck was snapped up.
In the male-dominated comedy world, she has firmly established her footing.
Yingda also saw the backwardness of the development of TV dramas at that time.
Wrote and directed the first domestic sitcom "I Love My Home".
Song Dandan fully supported him as his wife and provided him with a lot of help.
The play also made Yingda's career improve.
After that, he chased after the victory and shot classic works such as "Northeast Family".
Yingda, who has successively succeeded, is full of spring breeze, and is quite proud.
But as soon as others learned that he was Song Dandan's husband, he immediately lost his name.
You can only live in the light of the "Queen of Sketches".
For a long time, Yingda began to deliberately distance herself from her family.
Young Batuu did not understand the twists and turns, except that his father rarely came home.
Song Dandan felt sorry for her son and could only find time to try to be a good mother.
But even so, Yingda's ruthlessness still surprised her.
02
In 1993, "I Love My Home" began to be filmed.
Liang Huan, a talented daughter of Peking University, agreed to her brother's request and went to the crew to try to write a script.
Before the script was written, she was attracted to Yingda.
In her heart, this man was one level higher than her own knowledge.
How could Yingda, who had lived in the shadow of his wife for many years, refuse this "gentle township".
In his heart, the woman who would hold him high was better than anything else.
However, he already had a family at this time.
Although you can't be blatantly together, it's okay to be intimate.
Liang Huan was also carried away by the sudden love.
The two had an affair on the set.
At that time, Song Dandan didn't think much about it, after all, she and Liang Huan were friends for many years.
Who knows that Yingda is returning home less and less.
When he received Batuu's call, he quickly hung up, as if it was not his son.
When Batuu was 7 years old, the shaky marriage could no longer be sustained.
Yingda and Liang Huan are no longer hidden from the public.
In the face of accusations, he did not care, and both went in and out of the open.
The long "deformed marriage" made Song Dandan feel lonely like never before.
Looking at the home without the slightest sense of family, she couldn't help but cry.
Song Dandan, who desperately needs love, had the only "extramarital affair".
After calming down, she sensibly dialed Yingda's phone:
I'm having an affair, let's divorce.
Yingda immediately rushed home to complete the formalities.
On the third day, he came to the Civil Affairs Bureau again.
It's just that this time he came to marry Liang Huan.
Betrayed by long-time lovers and friends.
Song Dandan's mental state fell into serious internal friction.
She once thought that even the "old man who saved the car" would not want her.
When he was most desperate, Song Dandan even thought of "death".
Fortunately, Ni Ping called in time to enlighten her, so she came out.
In view of Song Dandan's physical condition, the court awarded Batu to Yingda.
She also felt unable to take care of her son, so she did not fight for custody.
Who knows that it was this decision that she regretted to this day.
03
Children born to women who do not like are naturally not favored.
Yingda, who received custody of Batu, only felt that it was a "big trouble".
After leaving the child to his grandfather, he went to live the life of a newlywed Yaner.
Unlike Batu, he is extremely fond of Liang Huansheng's son.
Perhaps because of his weak heart, he named his younger son "Ying Rudi".
It is implied that this is a child born to the right wife.
When asked what 3 things he would bring with him to space, Yingda said without hesitation:
Mozart's CD, a book, and photographs of Ying Rudi.
He also praised his younger son in public many times:
Seeing him, I feel that our old Ying family has a future.
These words stabbed Batuu's heart like a needle.
Song Dandan immediately drove his son back after learning about it.
Yingda's love for her younger son has also reached the point of "madness".
As long as Ying Rudi likes it, he will also learn ice hockey for millions of dollars.
Liang Huan even obeyed her husband's arrangement and fully accompanied the growth of her children.
In order to give Ying Rudi the best education, the two sold houses and sent him to study abroad.
The most lacking virtue was after the death of his eldest brother Liang Zuo.
Yingda took away the computer in a hurry, just because the new script in it was very valuable.
In contrast, Batuu became a poor child in the eyes of others.
Calling your own father became a luxury.
Without saying two words, he was viciously hung up by the other party.
Even the death of my grandfather was not told by my father.
I wanted to send the last ride, but I only got one sentence: you don't have to come.
All the warmth of Batuu's childhood came from his mother and grandfather.
To compensate for this regret, statues were also placed in the room.
This incident also made him completely disappointed in his biological father.
Since then, the two have been strangers for more than ten years.
Fortunately, the stepfather gave Batu "fatherly love" that he had never experienced.
Even marrying Song Dandan first sought his opinion.
Worried that the children would not adapt to the environment, they moved in with their daughter.
Because he saw that Batuu liked to run barefoot, he paved the ground with wood.
He also replaced the water cup and tablecloth with Batuu's favorite cartoon characters.
If there are any delicious stalls on the side of the road, they will be bought on the way from work.
The original Batuu was a "bad boy" in the eyes of the teacher.
Song Dandan was very afraid every time he held a parent-teacher meeting, for fear that his son would break into trouble.
Under the careful care of his stepfather, he gradually became cheerful and confident.
Slowly forget the bad memories of the past.
04
I didn't mean to give this good.
I treat all children equally.
I don't know if Yingda will feel blush when he says this.
Seeing that the current Batuu is marrying a wife and having children, the more happy he is.
A live broadcast can earn hundreds of thousands.
And his own youngest son does not have such earning power.
His health was not as good as before, and he remembered Batu's son.
But how can the son, who has suffered from cold eyes since childhood, be close to him.
What's more, he personally cut off the last bit of family affection in the live broadcast:
We have doubts about this first, and the name is Batuu.
The youngest son Ying Rudi also said good things for Yingda in the live broadcast.
Indicated that although there was no contact, Batuu was always welcome back.
It is as if Yingda's "eccentricity" never existed.
But the damage he caused to Batu, Song Dandan has never forgotten.
She had already publicly shouted Yingda not to hurt her son again.
And the old Yingda is not the first time trying to ease relations.
When Batu had his first child, he wanted to see his grandson.
but was choked by Song Dandan with a sentence:
What qualifications do you have, the son does not recognize, where is the grandson!
When he was young, he wandered away and ignored his son.
When you are old, you often show favor, and in the end you can only draw water from a bamboo basket.
Even if the blood is connected, it needs the nourishment of love to blossom and bear fruit.
epilogue
Even if there are unreasonable grievances between parents, they should not harm the children.
Not loving is not loving, and any excuse will only seem comical.
Batuu's success today has nothing to do with Yingda.
He has seen the family affection and lived himself!