What is the world? Love is obsession, don't be a fool in the future--Anhui lover Song Hui Teacher Marriage Q&A (Part 52)
1, ask (source netizen mobile phone user 896964): today ended a four-month relationship, I was completely disappointed, for such a person, I can only use hehe to express my current mood ~ four months, I pay how much he understands in his heart, I am a junior and roommate rent a house to live outside, he often comes to eat, I buy vegetables, he eats even if it is, every time I come is particularly late, I wait for him to be okay, I can not let my friends wait every time ~ after eating he actually sat there playing mobile phone, not even taking the bowl! What impression will my friend see? Four months have not seen the movie, last time I said to watch a movie together, he said yes, I invite you to watch the movie, you invited me to dinner, suddenly I was frightened, this word is actually out of his mouth, I don't care about the little money ~ he often asked me to borrow money, did not return to me, I think a man reached out to ask the woman to ask for money himself is not embarrassed about it, he is good and often angry with me ~ I am intolerable, can tolerate it, now it is completely desperate ~ mobile phone no phone bill also let me help him charge, saying that he is inconvenient at home , go home and let me help him buy tickets, hey ~ I think I was so stupid at that time ~ he graduated and moved things at night and called me out, I rented a house, he didn't come to take the handle, and said he loved me, I was also drunk, together I bought him a few things, he didn't buy it for me, it should be said that I didn't spend a dime on me ~ I also couldn't afford to complain, all really saw clearly ~ This is the third time I told him to break up, he said, roll! I will never see you again, and suddenly I feel so relaxed that I have finally unloaded my baggage
Teacher Song Hui answered: Ask what is the world's love, love is obsession. You are just a temporary substitute for him. Don't be a fool again.
2. Q (Source netizen: Shuai fell a street): It is not easy for me to struggle out of the countryside, and now I am finally working in the public institutions in the city. The monthly salary is not high, there is no car, no house, and the total monthly income of my parents after retirement is not high. I am 175 tall, and I met my girlfriend who has been dating for 2 months, she is a girl born in the city, she looks OK, that is, she is really short, and she has only 155 shoes. Every time I went shopping with her, I saw her wearing shoes with very high soles, which were very short and comedic, and on a few occasions she almost twisted her feet because of the high soles. I watched a lot of passers-by, almost every girl was taller than her, and I felt that I couldn't stand a person of this height more and more. I felt a little faceless, and my buddies thought she was short. She worked in a private company with a low monthly salary, and her parents bought her a car and a house on her own. I want to ask rational people, should I break up with her? She was so short, and I watched every passer-by girl taller than her.
Teacher Song Hui answered: According to the current marriage market survey, the girl's barefoot height of 1.55M should be the bottom line of the normal value. The girl is barefoot 1.55 meters and is not too short if she wears high heels. Of course, girls with a height of 1.60M-1.68M are more common in mate selection. However, some tall boys will not mind, and even like small and delicate girls, as long as they are not too short (1.52M or less). But now you have noticed from time to time that the girls on the road are taller than your girlfriends, just as some boys notice that the girls on the road are prettier than their girlfriends, indicating that your psychology has been very resistant to this. It seems that you can only give up your girlfriend, even if her comprehensive conditions are still good, it is a pity.
3, ask (source netizens: mobile phone user 4537445): now very depressed, just slapped my wife twice, it was she who drove me crazy, feelings to the edge, do not force her to go or stay. Only worry that the child is too young to be two years old, and do not want the child to lose his mother's love. I work in Hefei locally, my home is also in Hefei, because I can't go home because I am far from home, but I think of my children, even if it rains, I will brave the heavy rain to come back to see my children. Once I had a rainy fever all night and drove back the next day with an illness, and I had no complaints because I just wanted to see my kids. After spending the night at home, I went back to work the next day, but I actually saw her writing on my wife's QQ: Seeing him go, I was physically and mentally relieved. Then I asked her what she meant? She said she really didn't want to see me, and it annoyed me so much that I was going crazy. I worked hard outside just to have kids. Why did she do this to me? Please big brothers and big sisters show me the direction, how should I go next? Plead for advice. If you have no marital experience, do not spray.
Teacher Song Hui replied: Never think that everything in the relationship between husband and wife is over because you see a few words on QQ, or something written on a notepad, or a hateful word that you say in person. In fact, this is mostly the resentment caused by the accumulation of small contradictions that have not been communicated and reconciled in time. But it should be highly valued. It can be seen that you still cherish this family, so it is no harm to calmly communicate with your wife, frankly review and reflect on yourself, and show leniency and thoughtfulness. With children, small couples who are still doing things in normal life should not talk about divorce lightly, even if it is an era when divorce does not matter or is not accustomed.
4. Q (source netizen Fan Ge):
My hometown is Fuyang, my girlfriend's hometown is Huainan, we all went to university in Shanghai and met through the hometown association. After graduation, I came to Hefei to develop, and my parents also planned to buy me a house in Hefei. But the girlfriend does not like Hefei very much, she has been saying that Shanghai is still good, she is the typical very small post-90s, and delicious lazy cooking. She thinks Hefei is small and broken, in fact, I think Hefei is very good, there are not so many people are suitable for living! The most important thing is that we are all Anhui people, in this kind, close to home. She didn't seem to be interested at all when I was looking at the house recently, and kept saying that she didn't want to be in Hefei. But I think my girlfriend is too unrealistic, Shanghai is not at all for people like us to stay! In my mother's words, her heart is thinner than her fate! Eleven holidays I plan to take a good look at the house, set the house down, I let her and me to see together, but she is going to Shanghai to find classmates to play, really annoying!
Teacher Song Hui answered: You have worked in Hefei, and you are also really willing to buy a house in Hefei and get married to your girlfriend, but she is still careless, inappropriate, and has been nagging to go to Shanghai to develop, which has a big heart and wants to challenge the flashy desire of life, it is more likely that she loves you not too deeply, appears hesitant on key issues, avoids you in a corner, or at least does not want to marry you in a hurry.
5. Q (source netizen mobile phone user 896964):
Half a year after breaking up with the ex-boyfriend, I talked about this again, he was not as intimate as the ex-boyfriend, sometimes talking to him he couldn't grasp the focus of my talk, he didn't understand me, but I myself was also very bad, that is, sometimes he did something to make me unhappy, I was patient, after enduring several things, my emotions would erupt in concentration, he would say that I was a little resentful woman, he graduated from college this year and is now studying for graduate school, I am only a junior, I have been with him for four months, at the beginning his ex-girlfriend was still looking for him, he told me that he did not need to buckle, But I just saw his ex-girlfriend calling his husband in his chat history, he called her pig mother, in fact, I always had a shadow in my heart, so when I was with him, I didn't give my feelings without reservation. Recently my ex-boyfriend came back to me, when he was with him he dumped me, and then I was afraid that others would say that I was too unproductive, so I broke up with him, he was very close to me, I didn't know what to do, I didn't want to do sorry for the current boyfriend, but with him I couldn't do the same unreserved as the ex-boyfriend, I really didn't want to hurt him, he studied against the family, only he silently insisted, if I leave him now, is it very immoral? But he is really not very good to me, I have mentioned breaking up twice, and he really has a lot of conflicts, do not know how to reconcile, he also knows that my ex-boyfriend came back to me, he said I actually laughed unconsciously, I myself did not realize, am I really so bad? Last night he was angry with me, saying that I still have an ex-boyfriend in my heart, let me make a decision to choose one immediately, I am also angry, just say that I don't choose one, he should be very angry, the man does not have to grievance himself to let me choose, but I am really afraid that the decision I made is wrong. I know I'm looking for a spray, but I still want someone to give me some advice
Teacher Song Hui answered: You are uncertain between the two boyfriends, and these two boyfriends do not seriously regard you as a marriage partner. Moreover, your age is still young, perhaps you think that marriage is still far away, not something to consider now, just enjoy love at the moment, it is enough, maybe there will be newer friends in the future. In view of this, you don't have to be upset, throw coins, determine the positive and negative candidates, and let the luck be determined.