In education, there are many educational methods and different perspectives. But "grasping the big and letting go of the small" can be a good way to solve the problem of insufficient energy. As long as your child's big direction is correct, you can grasp less or no small aspects. So what to grasp?
1. Increase your child's sense of security and feel the love from the family. If the child's usual behavior is the result, then the sense of security and love are the roots of the soil. Only by protecting the roots and flourishing is a matter of course.
As Gu Ailing's mother said, when the child can't do something well, don't blindly criticize and accuse. Criticism and accusation only bring a sense of fear, and do not feel the breath of love.
2. Respect children and build a harmonious and equal parent-child relationship. Become a good friend for your child to talk about. When your child has happy things or sorrows, he is willing to share them with you. If the child is not willing to talk about his things, we must reflect on whether it is too harsh in the usual way, whether it is when he shared with you before, he talked about his life advice on Barabala.
Small aspects, such as what clothes to wear usually, how much to eat three meals a day, dress and undress when hot and cold, etc., give children full freedom. There are also academic performances that can be asked occasionally, rather than being constantly concerned.
