Text/Flying Fish
Carnegie once said: "Love a person to have a degree, leave a little self, will have self-esteem, so that your efforts, others will also value." ”
When you fall in love with a person, you still need to keep a little sanity, don't lose yourself for love, you must keep your bottom line, you can't always be pinched by the other party, otherwise you will lose.
When you choose to pay unconditionally for each other, the other party has not paid attention to it, but feels taken for granted, at that time, when he takes back his love, then you have nothing.
Love a person, love seven points, leave three points for yourself, don't be too blind, learn to love yourself, love another person, and don't do these three stupid things.
1, love a person again, do not easily give up your work for a person.
Remembering a couple I knew before, the boy resolutely dropped out of school in order not to want to have a long-distance relationship with the girl, and went to the city where the girl was and started again.
The girl was surprised to hear that the man had given up his studies for himself, and for him, she was willing to follow him to another city to develop, and quit her stable job for many years.
So the two people together for less than a year, they changed four cities, countless jobs, women followed him to the east, with him to open a studio, but not long, the man said off, want to be a model, so the two people went to a city, began to take the model's work, but the woman paid everything, but in exchange for what job she took, she said it didn't count, but the man had the final say.
Obviously, this feeling has been imbalanced, when feelings and work are mixed together, if you do not control it, then you will only be led by the nose of the other party.
Women have experienced so much with men, men have always been out of tune, what to do is three points of heat, what not to do, but so ambitious, women feel tired, want to go back to their own city to start again to find a stable job, men have never agreed.
When two people have an emotional dispute, the woman always feels that she loves him very much, and the desire to be with him is very strong, but in exchange for a man's "it's okay".
Women give everything, never get the affirmation of men, in the end men say a word "inappropriate", and women lose their jobs, but men have no guilt at all.
Such a man, in fact, loves enough and does not want to love, so he will use a sentence of "inappropriate" to perfunctory, and after the woman blindly loves, she loses not only her work, but also herself.
Therefore, women, at any time, do not easily give up their work for a person, only their own independence, if he loves you, is to take the initiative to run to you.
2, love a person again, do not always seek perfection and obey your words.
In fact, the most taboo thing in feelings is to obey words and seek perfection.
Often some people love a person too much, love too humble, love too numb, pay everything with their hearts and lungs, but in the end have nothing, and they also encounter the dislike of the other party.
Some women come home after a hard day of hard work with men, want to take a break, and ask each other to do some housework, but the other party has a straight face and says that this is what you should do, not what he should do.
Many women with men, think that two people can go to the future together feel very good, but the future is often unpredictable, especially the money that two people save together, suddenly the other party did not tell you a sound, it was spent randomly, he thought it was to surprise you, often what you received was frightened.
Women with men, in fact, are trying to be a stable, even for love, she suffered grievances and still did not give up, thinking that the other party will change, she paid everything, but what she got was to ask men to do some housework, but the face was not good, what she got was to go out to work every day after returning, looking at each other but interacting with others.
If a woman is too humble in her feelings, it is like a kite, her direction is never in her own hands, and wherever the other party goes to fly this kite, the kite will float to wherever it goes.
As we say, duckweed goes with the flow, that is, there is no root, women must find a place, establish their own career, establish their own connections, lay their own roots, have their own roots, so as not to become a kite in the hands of others.
Otherwise, all your forbearance and intransigence are connivance with the other party. The more you are like this, the more the other party does not know how to cherish you, but you are independent and tougher, which is the best protection for yourself.
3, love someone again, and don't forget to love yourself.
The most stupid thing in feelings is to love what he loves, like what he likes, and even lose himself for the other party, always live for him, never know how to live for himself, love too full, in fact, the more you lose.
You will find that in the end, the other party says that they don't love you, then you have nothing, then you have paid for so many years, the other party can't see, so before loving someone, first learn to love yourself, learn to please yourself, live for yourself, don't love too much, otherwise you will lose yourself.
There is a saying, "On the road of life, the person who can really get along with you for a long time will always appreciate your free and independent appearance, rather than the way you pretend to be humble and flattering." ”
In this life, people first make a living, then seek love, first love themselves, and then love others.
Only by first learning to love yourself, others will love you, and learning to let yourself start is the most important thing.
In the feelings, a little more reserved, don't always give up the principle for the other party, lose the bottom line, otherwise, in exchange for the other party's peace of mind and inch.
In fact, leaving someone who will only consume you is not a mistake, but a wise choice, so that you can start your own new life.
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