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I think my life is more wonderful because of you
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Yao Wenjuan
At ten o'clock in the evening, I just put Xiao Bao to sleep, there was a knock at the door, and when I opened the door, I was surprised to see Dabao's classmates standing outside the door. "Auntie, excuse me, I'm looking for a light rain." Dabao heard the sound and led her classmates into her room in surprise.
A few minutes later, Dabao walked up to me and whispered, "She was scolded by her father, but she ran out of anger and didn't want to go home." Mom, can you talk to her? ”
"Are you sure you want me to talk to her?"
"Well, I believe in you!"
So, I warmed two glasses of milk and went into Dabao's room.
As I expected, it is the contradiction between children and parents for mobile phones. After entering middle school, mobile phones once became a "bomb" for many parents and teachers to talk about, for it, teachers and students fought wits and courage, parents and children fought endlessly. In fact, Dabao also had quarrels with us because of the problem of mobile phones before, and even staged "martial arts films", every time he was beaten by his father, Dabao stubbornly expressed her resistance and protest with silence, and every time he smeared the whip marks on her back, my heart was full of pain, but I could not express it. After five times, I felt that this was not a way to solve the problem, so on the day that Dabao left home to participate in the military training of the school, I carefully wrote her a few letters. In the letter, I was no longer a mother, but her friend, I told her that when I was a child, I tried my best to secretly watch TV stories and try to secretly read novels, and I told her that at that time, I was just like her current obsession with mobile phones, it was difficult to resist TV and novels, and my parents' preaching could not listen to them, and I only thought about TV and novels! Of course, the consequence of such willfulness is that the grades have declined all the way, and finally they have not been admitted to the ideal school, and now the regret can not go back to the past!
After Dabao returned from military training, he deliberately talked to me many times about the things mentioned in the letter, and I did not shy away from telling her what I was like back then, and Dabao's eyes were shining. "Yes, Mom, that's the mood, the more I feel like I don't want to play, the more I want to play!" Of course, at the same time, I quietly put down my mobile phone, and from the moment I got home from work, I stopped using my mobile phone (occasionally because I needed to operate it for work, I also carried it out in front of Dabao, letting her know that I did not use my mobile phone to watch videos and play games), so that it was several months. Slowly, I found that Dabao had unconsciously stopped pestering us not to give her mobile phones, and the "thorns" like a little hedgehog on her body had faded a lot, and she was willing to communicate with me when she had a heart, and even asked me to do "ideological work" for her classmates.
That night, I still did not persuade Dabao's classmates in a preachy way, I empathetically understood her grievances, let her vent her anger and dissatisfaction, and then told her in a "girlfriend" tone that it was inappropriate to run out in the middle of the night and how to deal with such problems. I'm not a parenting expert, I just treat her like a big treasure, so that she no longer has to stand up like a little hedgehog to resist all external forces. After giving birth to a child, it is impossible to "return the goods", and the parents are the "class teacher" who never retires, and they have a responsibility for the child's life. I told her, "All parents want to educate their children well, but none of us have had pre-job parenting training and have become parents in a hurry." Therefore, when we encounter some problems, we may not handle them correctly. But please give us the opportunity to correct and give yourself a chance to grow, let us become better together! ”
That night, Dabao's classmates took the initiative to let us call her father and take her home.
"Book of the Later Han Dynasty" said that "teach by example, teach by words", I have always believed that if you want your child to be how, then you must first do it yourself, not to say that let the child go to college, we have to go to a university to see him first, but with our hard work, let the child know what is right and what is wrong! Every child grows up with problems, every parent grows up with problems, not always "you should", but "we should"; not always "I am for your own good", but "we work together"; and not always "not because of you", but "I think my life is more wonderful because of you"!
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