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When I was a child, I just could talk, and my mother said: I will study hard in the future;
Although I don't understand why I should study well, I must listen to what my mother says;
Therefore, studying well is a top priority;
A full score can be satisfied, and one point less cannot be made.
Growing up slowly, my mother said to clean up every day and keep it clean and tidy;
Oh, remember;
People should pay attention to cleanliness and hygiene.
When I was a child, every New Year's Day, my mother would prepare new clothes and shoes in advance and put them on the bed Chinese New Year's Eve night;
Wear new clothes on the first day of the Chinese New Year;
Therefore, children like the New Year the most, because there are new clothes to wear in the New Year.
When I was a child, my mother's words were the most reasonable words;
Who is not a mother holding the heart liver baby in the palm of her hand.
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As he grew older, his shortcomings were gradually revealed;
He is not a person who excels;
On the contrary, among their peers, they seem to be more and more introverted, less and less like to be lively, dislike more and more people, and do not like to take the initiative to express.
The mother looks in the eyes and is anxious in the heart;
The more anxious the more panicked, the more they did not choose the way, complaining, blaming, and disgusting all used:
You want to be a little more cheerful, like your cousin how good?
How did you come to this?
You look at people xxx and then look at you;
You're not even as good as xx!
In fact, I know that my mother did not say a word: You let me have no face in front of my relatives!
Mother's generation is very face-conscious, and mothers are strong people;
She wants her children to be outstanding, to want her children to perform well and be her pride;
And I, can't do that;
I let my mother down.
The more the mother wants to save her child, the more she wants to put pressure on me to change me, the more counterproductive it is;
Cracks quietly arose.
I wonder why I can't make mistakes?
Why does it hurt or itch for others to make mistakes, but I make mistakes in exchange for endless scolding and disgust?
To make matters worse, I began to blame myself and blame myself;
Feeling that she is a burden to her mother, adding to her troubles and is a burden to her;
If she hadn't given birth to me, her life would have been easier and happier;
And I can't bring her these beautiful things;
I am probably a numerological child who has come to seek revenge in this life!
I want to stay away from my mother, only by staying away can I not increase her burden and reduce the drag on her;
Mom's words were like a thorn, piercing deep into my heart.
Why listen to your mother?
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Finally, one day, I left my mother far away;
You can not live in the face of the mother, you can not listen to the mother's nagging, do not listen to the mother's intentional or unintentional number;
I don't want to be a burden on others.
I began to find that because the phrase "read well" penetrated deep into my bone marrow, I never slackened off;
Because you are not good enough to deeply sting my dignity, I always pursue progress;
Because you are not as good as others a few words always plague the inner identity, you can't do it on the spot to make salted fish;
Therefore, I am more determined, braver, more targeted than others, and more aware of what I want and what I don't want;
Therefore, I gradually run faster than others and go farther;
More knowledgeable than others;
Things that I feel are commonplace, and others are silently envious.
Listen to your mother's words and let yourself earn the first pot of gold in your life.
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The mother revealed rare joy and relief;
Since then, the relationship between my mother and me has silently subverted the past.
No matter how many calls there are, the phone call home for the New Year will definitely come on time:
When do you get home? Home cold, wear thick point back.
Every time she came home, her mother always thought of Fa'er making the dishes she liked to eat;
I like to eat, without opening my mouth, my mother has already seen in her eyes;
I like to eat bean bun stuffed steamed buns, my mother prepared early for me to come back to eat;
Eat every meal until I get tired of eating.
Every time I left, my mother prepared the things she would bring early, afraid of bringing less.
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As an adult, my mother's words can no longer provide substantive guidance;
However, at this moment, silence is better than sound;
Silence is better than a thousand words.
In fact, the mother's nagging, complaining, and blaming years ago were only out of responsibility;
I am afraid that my children will not be able to survive, will be eliminated by society, and will not be able to live a good life.
In fact, my mother's dislike many years ago was only to hate iron not steel;
Too much to make you good, and the reality is disappointed, resulting in entanglement.
In fact, the mother's wish is very simple, only hope that her children can live the life they want, without being forced to make a living.
She doesn't want to be rich and wealthy, she just needs her children to support themselves and be responsible for their own lives;
She just acted a little too hasty;
Do not understand that a person's growth includes many stages, ups and downs;
The important thing is not that life has never encountered difficulties, but that it is still persistent when encountering difficulties and setbacks.
Maybe this is the lack of people of their time;
After all, they are the generation that grew up in the era of the planned economy, in a resource-poor environment;
Life is in order, there are no big ups and downs.
The mother's blame, the number falls only out of love;
It's just that she didn't grasp the boundaries of the depth of this love and responsibility.
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In fact, the emotional connection between mother and child is very delicate;
She sometimes seems to hurt you so hard;
You will remember unforgettable.
But are you still on some big days, some important occasions, will you remember where she is? Is she doing well?
The mother's words may not all make sense, but the child will be more willing to listen to the mother;;
Because that's what Mom said;
Obedient children are good children, aren't they?
If you don't think about what to do, then listen to your mother.
(Author: Han Feng, MBA of East China Normal University/ Lyon Business School, Lyon Business School, European and American enterprise human resources director, if you read this article want to tell me your ideas, welcome to leave a message to me)