This year is your first Year of the Tiger, and when the next Year of the Tiger arrives, you will be a 15-year-old adolescent. Looking back on your own adolescence, it's like not having been, obedient

This year is your first Year of the Tiger, and when the next Year of the Tiger arrives, you will be a 15-year-old adolescent.

Looking back on my adolescence, as if I had never been, obediently going to school, obediently listening to my parents, obediently participating in various talent competitions arranged by the school... Just like that, I grew up obediently.

But you are different, you grew up in the care of your parents, your parents know you too well, and you know your parents very well. You don't have to be like me then, because you can't understand the temper of your parents, don't dare to be arrogant, and you don't have to over-please anyone to get what you want.

We think we start with a sense of self, giving you a great deal of freedom to explore what you think is interesting without worrying about the consequences.

I remember that rainy summer evening, we specially took you to find a small puddle, you excitedly stepped on the puddle, playing in the water, passers-by are laughing, you are also laughing... I hope this experience has taught you that you are free within the confines of safety.

3 years old, is the second only to adolescence of a small rebellious period, now you are beginning to stubborn, sometimes asking for more, will make us feel "excessive". Fortunately, we explore better solutions together, for example, before going to the supermarket, we make "rules" together - going to the supermarket can only choose an unplanned favorite.

So, two days ago, when we went to buy New Year goods together, you saw a lollipop fudge 🍭, and I promised you that you could buy it. Later you look at a chocolate chip 🍫 cookie again, obviously overshooted. But you made your choice and chose one of them. We are all pleased that you have such a deep understanding of the rules.

One thing we've always wanted you to understand is that the degree of freedom we give is within the confines of our family, and in society, there are all kinds of rules. For example, traffic rules, such as school rules. When you understand all this, self-discipline naturally follows.

I have always felt that adolescence is an important period to really test our parent-child relationship, so while giving you enough attention and love, we are also trying to lay the foundation of rules for you and give you freedom, but this freedom must have a prerequisite.

Whether it is now or in the future, I hope we have a pleasant cooperation! [Heart]

Written to my dearest child

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