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Chen Xiaoyi was a popular female star in the 1980s, and her appearance and acting skills were incomparable.
She has starred in more than 50 film and television dramas such as "The Mist of the Goddess Peak", "Wisdom Cut Jade Fragrant Cage", "Wrangler", "Magical Emerald", "Live a Good Life", "Fate", "The Story of the Editorial Department" and so on, which are deeply loved by the audience.
Chen Xiaoyi has had two failed marriages, the first time was with the popular actor Lu Jun in the same period, and the two were in love because of the drama.
The love was strong when it entered the marriage, but the relationship finally ended for various reasons, without surviving the seven-year itch.
Chen Xiaoyi and Lu Jun
Later, in order to get rid of the pain of the first marriage,
Chen Xiaoyi quickly fell in love with an American power engineer named Myles, and soon entered the marriage.
After walking in, she found that it was a pit...
But then she became pregnant again, and finally she gave up her child and the marriage in frustration.
Now that many years have passed, is she okay?
What is her current state of life?
01 Embarking on the path of an actor is an accident
Chen Xiaoyi is actually a dancer, she was born in 1959 in Ningbo, Zhejiang, in order to cultivate her unique temperament,
Since she was a child, she was sent by her mother to practice dance, and at the age of 14, she was admitted to the China Dance Academy, and after graduation, she was assigned to work in the Beijing Song and Dance Troupe.
Chen Xiaoyi
Originally, Chen Xiaoyi thought that his youth in this life might be dedicated to the stage as a dancer.
But unexpectedly, Lu Jun's arrival changed her fate, and it was he who took her to the road of acting and opened another life besides dancers.
Lu Jun was born in Shanxi in 1957 and is two years older than Chen Xiaoyi. Originally, Lu Jun's life ambition was not to be an actor.
He was a soldier, but because he was handsome and had been a literary and artistic backbone during his time in school, it coincided with the beijing film studio's student class to enroll students in their school, and the teacher suggested that he try it, so he embarked on the road of acting.
Lu Jun stills
Lu Jun's figure and appearance are destined to be the material for playing the protagonist, plus when he graduated, he himself was left with excellent results.
Therefore, his acting road is still relatively smooth, debuting as the male protagonist, and Chen Xiaoyi's acquaintance, also because in 1978,
He was selected as the male number one of "LiJiang Love", but because there was no suitable candidate for the female lead, the drama leader entrusted him to find it.
This search found the Beijing Song and Dance Troupe, as the most outstanding figure in the troupe, Chen Xiaoyi was favored by Lu Jun at a glance.
In this way, Chen Xiaoyi was led to the road of acting,
Although "Li River Love" was later suspended for various reasons, it was suspended not long after it started.
But this does not affect the next development of the two, Lu Jun is a love at first sight for Chen Xiaoyi,
At first, it was because of work, and after contact, I was more certain that the other party was the person I was looking for.
In the face of handsome looks and the pursuit of a popular actor, Chen Xiaoyi was able to resist and soon became a lover with him.
Lu Jun and Chen Xiaoyi
02 with Lu Jun
At that time, the two people who fell in love moved in the same direction, hoping to work together to break out of their own sky on the road of the actor.
But this is a little difficult for Chen Xiaoyi, who is not a professional actor and is just starting out.
It doesn't matter, there is Lu Jun, he looks after his girlfriend, with her conditions and understanding of acting,
He believed she would succeed soon, just a chance away.
Unexpectedly, this opportunity came soon,
At that time, Guangxi Film Studio was preparing to shoot the feature film "The Mist of the Goddess Peak".
The film is directed by Guo Baochang and starring Zhang Guomin and He Ling, but under the strong recommendation of Lu Jun,
Chen Xiaoyi got the role of "beautiful cat", although not the protagonist, but with the youthful and beautiful appearance plus natural interpretation,
Chen Xiaoyi still became famous in one fell swoop, and then when Lu Jun starred in "Wisdom Cut Jade Fragrant Cage", he recommended Chen Xiaoyi to the director, and this time the two were finally able to continue the "frontier" and play a pair of lovers in the play.
Chen Xiaoyi stills
Chen Xiaoyi's talent in acting has made her more comfortable in the role, and with "Fifi", she began to become popular in the country.
At this time, she did not need Lu Jun's recommendation, there was a director who took the initiative to invite the play, in 1981, in the drama movie "Wrangler" starring Zhu Shimao and Cong Shan, director Xie Jin felt that the role of female secretary Song Shaoying was very suitable for Chen Xiaoyi, so he issued an invitation to her.
After filming "Wrangler" for a period of time, there was no suitable scene, and Chen Xiaoyi returned to the song and dance troupe as a dancer.
It was not until 1983, when Emei Film Studio filmed "The Magical Emerald", that Chen Xiaoyi returned again and played the beautiful Princess Snow In the film.
Then in 1984, Lu Jun starred in the movie "Happiness is Around You", in which Chen Xiaoyi played the female college student Xiao Diandian.
Although she was 25 years old at this time, she was still pure and moving when she dressed as a college student, and Chen Xiaoyi became a public lover.
At this time, she was already on an equal footing with Lu Jun, and they were no longer strong men and weak women.
Seeing her like this, Lu Jun was genuinely happy and proud of her, but what followed was insecurity, because there were too many people pursuing Chen Xiaoyi at that time.
But in fact, for Chen Xiaoyi, she is still the same her, the original intention has not changed, she is still grateful for Lu Jun's guidance to herself on the film and television road, and she still loves him deeply.
In order to reassure each other, after filming the movies "Blue Flower" and "Code 213", the two married in Beijing in a low-key manner.
After marriage, Chen Xiaoyi and Lu Jun squeezed in the 9 square meter wedding room allocated to him by the unit, the house was small, but it was very warm, and the two spent a happy and happy time in it.
At the same time, Chen Xiaoyi's career is also getting more and more prosperous, and he has successively filmed film and television dramas such as "Legend of the Lion Dancer", "Little Red Sail in the Sand Sea", "Live a Good Life", "High Friends Full of Seats" and so on.
Lu Jun's acting career maintained the rhythm of one movie a year, and the rest of his time and energy was used to start a business, when he set up a biochemical development department in Beijing and became the general manager.
The law of showbiz, people are not popular, Chen Xiaoyi's fame is getting bigger and bigger, followed by various scandals.
At first, Chen Xiaoyi would explain to Lu Jun, but as time went on, she was also tired, and she found that there was not even the most basic trust between husband and wife.
For Lu Jun, in fact, he did not distrust Chen Xiaoyi, but his own self-esteem was at work, when he was stronger than her before, he felt that he could completely hold her, but now that her career was getting better and better, he felt that he was a little out of control.
Coupled with the fact that the two of them have gathered less and more because of their work, and they have not had a son and a half daughter in seven years of marriage, he is even more uneasy.
In fact, for Chen Xiaoyi, what she wants is trust, space,
She hoped that the two couples were both one and relatively free, but Lu Jun wanted all of them, and she couldn't do it.
I don't know when the emotional rift between the two of them has become bigger and bigger, once they looked in the same direction, and now they have really arrived, and there are constant differences.
Chen Xiaoyi's bones are Mu Qiang's, and she hopes that she can be an independent woman, not a vassal of others.
So at the peak of her acting career, she also devoted herself to business and partnered with friends to open a karaoke business in Ningbo.
Chen Xiaoyi is developing better and better,
She was no longer the little girl who didn't know anything and could only dance, but a mature woman who could stand alone.
03 Love Break Lu Jun Re-enter the pit
Lu Jun was no longer the Lu Jun he had been, before he only hoped that she would be good, using his resources to find opportunities for her, and at the same time, he did not forget to say that he had discovered such a treasure as Chen Xiaoyi.
But now the gap between the two careers has caused their relationship to be out of balance, and he feels that she does not have to rely on herself.
This made him very disappointed, and he used to drink,
The imbalance of this relationship, coupled with various rumors, made him even more bored, so he drank more and more,
There are rumors that Lu Jun will lose control of drinking too much and will do something to Chen Xiaoyi, perhaps this is the last straw that overwhelms their marriage.
After divorcing Lu Jun, Chen Xiaoyi was very sad, and the 7-year married life was over.
But if you really go all the way to it, it's not good for anyone, so it's better to let go early and be free with each other.
But Chen Xiaoyi at that time did not know,
The best way to get out of a failed marriage is not to start another new marriage right away.
After the divorce, Chen Xiaoyi turned his grief into strength and was admitted to the English specialty class of Beijing Foreign Chinese College, intending to further improve himself.
It was also during this period that she met an American power engineer named Myles, a tall and handsome man, a confident and beautiful man, and two souls attracted by appearance soon collided with a spark.
Chen Xiaoyi thought that this was love, so soon after dating Myles, he stepped into marriage again.
She thought it was true love she had found this time, and was full of joy and ready to start their new life.
But when they really started to live, she found that there were too many differences between them, not to mention the differences in Eastern and Western cultures, that is, the eating habits of the two people were completely different.
It doesn't matter if you can't eat together, because love can accommodate, you can make two portions of food that you like,
Chen Xiaoyi, who ate together at the same table and experienced a marriage, knew very well that marriage needed to be managed.
So she was willing to spend this time communicating and running into each other, but in the end she found that the two people were not just a matter of not being able to eat together, but Miles did not want to live at all.
In Chen Xiaoyi's bones, she is a person who values her family, and she has always believed that home is more important than anything else.
But in Miles's life plan, there is almost no Chen Xiaoyi, he is still like a bachelor, I do my own thing, spend days and nights, Chen Xiaoyi questioned him, he said that this is their way of life, if you can't accept it, you can leave.
Chen Xiaoyi realized at this time how ridiculous it was to pin the bitterness of his previous marriage on a new relationship.
But the beginning of a relationship, which is said to be put can be released, she hopes that she can use the truth to impress him,
She tolerates Miles and respects his habits, and she expects him to change, especially when she finds out she is pregnant, and perhaps the arrival of the child will increase his sense of responsibility.
Yet she was still too naïve.
At that time, the doctor said that Chen Xiaoyi had a threatened miscarriage,
The doctor told Miles, as a husband, to take good care of his wife, but Miles did not take this seriously.
Discouraged, Chen Xiaoyi gave up the child and ended the marriage at the same time.
The failure of two consecutive marriages made Chen Xiaoyi begin to reflect on himself.
She thinks a big part of her first marriage failed because she had a lot to do with being an actress.
So after entering the second marriage, she minimized filming and focused on the family, but she was not ladylike.
She knows that a woman should not gamble her happiness on marriage, so she began to be herself.
When she recognizes what she really needs and is in love again, she is no longer hasty, no longer sustenance for emotional healing,
Instead, according to their own rhythm, listen to the call of their own hearts, understand the suitability, know how to make trade-offs, and use their strong self to soothe their inner desires.
04 Happiness again
As Haruki Murakami said:
"No matter what everyone in the world says, I think my feelings are the right ones, no matter what others think.
I will never disturb my own rhythm, I can naturally stick to what I like, and I can't last long if I don't like it. ”
After finding himself, Chen Xiaoyi re-threw himself into the acting career he loved, filming dramas such as "Little Red Sail in the Sand Sea", "Sun Woman", "Long March", "Li Dazhao" and so on.
At the same time, she also regained a period of true love, the other party is a businessman, but also her loyal fans, almost from her debut since the beginning of her followed her, so many years have not abandoned.
Chen Xiaoyi recently took a photo
Chen Xiaoyi was touched by the other party's true feelings, and finally chose to hold hands with them.
Now that she has settled in the United States for more than sixty years, she posted a recent photo on her social platform, and she was in a very good state, even like a frozen beauty, presumably this is the result of happiness.
Writer Bi Shumin once said: "The most rare thing for a woman is wisdom." They are more clever, and what they lack is great sobriety. ”
Especially when I was young, I did everything with my heart and lungs, full of enthusiasm, no remorse, no soberness at all,
Only at a certain age can you understand that once you are in the world, once you use too much affection, you will inevitably hurt yourself.
After waking up, Chen Xiaoyi lived to become his favorite look, and at the same time, he also gained his own true happiness.
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