The pace of the Year of the Tiger is getting closer and closer, and buying New Year goods, buying new clothes, and preparing to go home for the New Year are still the standard for many people to celebrate the New Year.
Some people say that the taste of the year is much lighter.
"Not light, pasting the Spring Festival, making dumplings, eating reunion dinner, and greeting each other for the New Year, isn't it the New Year?" My eldest girl Ling Bao disagreed.
"Of course, you can also collect old money." She added with a grin.
Well, that's the point of that last sentence. The New Year's money is indeed one of the reasons why many children look forward to the New Year.
We are here in a small fourth-tier town, and my two girls can receive more than a thousand points of money every year.
Basically, the children's pressure money is given by these people:
Grandparents: 500 yuan,
Old lady: 200 yuan,
Grandma and Grandpa: 200 or 300 yuan (Grandma gives 200, sometimes Grandpa also gives 100, not sure)
Aunt (my great-aunt): 100 yuan,
Little aunt: 100 yuan.
Coupled with the pressure money that my husband and I gave them, basically, the sisters' pressure money is all.
The second girl, Zhen Bao, is not yet six and a half years old, has no concept of money, and will not spend money, and I have not yet begun to give her pocket money.
The eldest girl, Ling Bao, is a precocious child, and around the age of six, she will buy small snacks, books, and erasers, and since she went to elementary school, I have given her pocket money every week.
One spring festival, when Ling Bao was seven or eight years old, she asked me: "Why did my grandmother give less money than my grandmother gave?" ”
This question was really difficult for me, and I didn't know how to answer it for a while.
Moreover, one or two sentences are not clear, and I don't think it is necessary to explain too clearly to seven- or eight-year-olds.
I asked her, why do the elders have to give the younger generations money during the New Year?
Ling Bao has read a lot of books and picture books about the Spring Festival tradition, and she knows that this is one of the customs of the New Year, the concern and blessing of the elders for the younger generations, and a good wish.
I said, since it is a good wish, the elders give as much as you want, be grateful, don't think about anything else, and don't compare who gives more, who gives less, and sometimes, the comparison will make the happiness index decline.
Ling Bao nodded, and went to play something else, and the topic was temporarily over.
Afterwards, I discussed this issue with my husband, and we both agreed that it was really a matter of attention to sending pressure money, how much it was appropriate, and how to send it.
First of all, the amount of money is determined according to the actual situation.
My husband has two younger sisters, the current third generation has 3 children, my family has two, my husband's eldest sister has one, the younger sister has no children, and the in-laws give the children 500 yuan per person every year. Press the old money this item, the second old to spend 1500 yuan.
In fact, when Ling Bao was just born, her mother-in-law gave her 200 yuan to press the age of money, and later rose to 500, I once felt a little too much, but the mother-in-law insisted.
I think they may be out of the following considerations: First, the three children are married, the father-in-law's annual income is enough for them to spend, plus they save, the body is also strong, should be able to save a sum of money. Second, usually the children are not around them, they do not need their care all year round, nor do they need to buy clothes or anything, giving 500 in the New Year is their intention as grandparents.
Thinking about it this way, we won't say anything.
Of course, as they get older and the children grow older, the amount of money may change, or it is possible that we will subsidize them a little.
Second, if you are pressing the children of the same generation, it is best to discuss it in advance.
My brother's family has two children, my family has two girls, we said well, at the New Year, we will not give each other money to give each other, give trouble to come and go.
Even so, but when my niece was in high school, I would basically give her one or two hundred in the summer vacation, and when I was admitted to college last year, I also sent her a big red envelope of congratulations, which is an encouragement.
Friends said that the three sisters said well, give the children 200 yuan to press the old money, but the little sister's family only has one child, the friend feels that the sister to the two sisters of the four children of the family of 200 each, a total of 800 yuan, can only recover 400, loss.
So one year friends and sister discussed, each gave the little sister's children 500 yuan (she felt that 4 was not good).
But the sister later came to them and said that the child opened the red envelope and saw that there was 500 yuan inside, more than other children, which was very confusing.
The sister said don't do this, every child is treated equally, saying that 200 is 200, otherwise it is not easy to explain to the child.
The friend and sister were relieved and no longer struggled with the little sister's loss.
The elders give the younger generations money to the younger generations, which is a good blessing to the children, and cannot be discussed as a profit or loss.
There are many such posts on the Internet, "Friends gave my two children 200 yuan each to press the age of money, his family a child, how much I give appropriate" There are many such posts, netizens' comments are also various, but most of them advocate doing what they can.
The sister-in-law got married five years ago, and our custom here is that you don't have to give your children money before you get married, and you will talk about it after you get married.
In the year of her sister-in-law's new marriage, she gave 300 yuan to her two children, plus her sister's children, she suddenly sent out 900, and the income was 0. My husband and I didn't want to go and told her not to send it in the future, but she insisted on giving.
In the past two years, her family's economy has also been a little tight, and we suggested that she not give the children money during the Spring Festival, and the sister-in-law said that it was okay, and she would give it once a year.
So we suggested, then give 100, the meaning can be.
So last year, the sister-in-law gave the two children 100 each.
I think it is very good, 100 yuan not only expresses the heart, but also does not lose too much.
Third, don't compare, be grateful.
I often tell my children that someone has given me money, no matter how much, to be grateful.
We are not particularly particular about the form of pressing money here, and we will not deliberately buy a few red envelopes and put money into it. Generally speaking, it is to give money directly.
If someone gives a red envelope to a child, I usually tell the child not to open the red envelope in front of others, in case of a situation, it will be embarrassing.
Someone gives a red envelope, don't compare, thanks is it.
In fact, sometimes, it is not the children who compare, it is the adults who compare.
A friend said that one year her children followed their cousins to their grandmother's house to play, out of courtesy, the old man also gave the child a red envelope, 100 yuan.
My friend didn't know about it at first, and the child forgot to say it. But then my friend's mother said that she had returned the 100 yuan because her daughter-in-law had said it several times, revealing the meaning of her parents' loss. The friend's mother then gave the money to the grandson and told the daughter-in-law that it should be returned, and not to mention it all.
Pressing the old money is one of the traditional customs of the Spring Festival, and it also reflects the mutual relationship between people. However, the development of the times to the present, whether to send or not to press the old money, how much to press the old money, in what form, have become things that need attention, otherwise it will be embarrassing.
However, looking at the old money in the spirit of mutual tolerance and mutual understanding is just a good wish.
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