On May 16, 2014, Wang Weinian was doing a kissing show, he looked at Zhang Zongshui, whose hair was gray, and asked this sentence:
"If it's true, would you rather let Hawthorn Sister go and see her mother when she has time?"
This honest Shandong man, with a strong smile, said: "Willing, willing, if not, then selfish...."
The audience at the scene resounded with thunderous applause, and Wang Weinian gave a big hug for the selflessness of this man.
But is he really so selfless?
The man took Wang Weinian's hand and still couldn't help but choke,
“..... And just like that, snatched away...."
At this time, hawthorn sister could not bear it any longer, and ran forward to hug her adoptive father Zhang Zongshui tightly.
She regretted it, she shouldn't have come to confess, she really regretted it...
Hawthorn Sister, whose original name is Zhang Yueqiao, is the runner-up of the "Walk of Fame" in 2013, and the champion is "Coat Brother" Zhu Zhiwen.
She is less than 1 meter 5 tall, hiding a huge explosive power, a song "Live a sample to show yourself" sings the indomitability and tenacity in her bones.
And her life seems to be inseparable from these two words from the beginning of birth.
It all started in December 1984, when Shandong was particularly cold, with heavy snow and dripping water into ice.
Zhang Zongshui and his wife Han Banglan started Zhang Luo's breakfast early, listening to the noise outside, Han Banglan went out with his rice bowl and stood in front of the neighbor's house.
Neighbors told her that in the Bayi mining area near their Zhuangzi, someone threw a child, and she didn't know who had given birth to an extra daughter in order to have a son, and threw it here.
On such a cold day, the child wrapped a small mattress and surrounded many people, that is, no one dared to carry it home....
In those days, it wasn't unusual.
The speaker did not have the heart to listen, Han Banglan was suddenly moved, she and her husband Zhang Zongshui were married for more than ten years, they had three sons, and they always wanted a daughter, and this daughter was not sent to the door!
Without saying a word, Han Banglan put down the dishes and chopsticks and cleaned up a bit, and hurried to the mining area, where he saw the baby girl in the crowd.
The child was only a few days old, his whole face was already frozen purple, he was sobbing quietly, and his breath was getting weaker and weaker.
When Han Banglan saw this, he immediately took off his cotton coat and wrapped her around her, and hugged her home with his heart.
Zhang Zongshui was shocked to see his wife carrying a child home, and later listened to his wife explain the causes and consequences, and acquiesced.
He named the girl Zhang Yueqiao and warned his three sons to love this "sister who fell from heaven".
They knew that the girl had a little problem with six fingers in her left hand.
In some places, superstitious old people believe that the six fingers are an ominous omen and that fate is relatively bumpy.
Zhang Zongshui thought that this was probably the reason why the child was discarded, but he did not believe in fate, so he did not take it seriously.
But a week later, when they opened the package and scrubbed the umbilical cord, they found that the reason why the child was discarded by the biological parents was not simple.
Zhang Yueqiao also had a pimple the size of a child's fist on her back, which looked a little scary.
After inquiring again, it turned out that they were not the first to pick up Zhang Yueqiao, before there were miners who picked up the child home, and after finding that the child was sick, they discarded it.
After such a thing twice, Zhang Zongshui and his wife were the third to pick up Zhang Yueqiao.
It seems that Zhang Yueqiao's illness is not simple.
But they have been with the child for a week, the child is well-behaved and sensible, and every cry has injected infinite joy and vitality into the family.
Let them discard this child now, that is impossible.
Han Banglan held the child and silently shed tears, Zhang Zongshui sat in the doorway and smoked a cigarette, gritted his teeth and stomped his feet, entered the house and said to his wife:
"We must be cured of this disease, to our family is our family, smashing pots and selling iron I will also treat her, pack things, hold the child, go, go into the city." 」
In xuzhou children's hospital, doctors diagnosed that the pimple behind Zhang Yueqiao was a spondle of the periosteum of the spine.
If left untreated, it will get older and older with age, and eventually it is likely to lead to paralysis of the lower body, and may even not be able to feed at all.
To treat and do surgery, medical expenses plus later recovery, about 2,000 yuan is needed.
At that time, 2,000 pieces was an astronomical amount for Zhang Zongshui's family.
Three generations of his grandchildren were planing food in the field, and when the three sons were half-sized children eating poor laozi, the family did not have much savings at all, where did this medical expense come from?
Zhang Zongshui remembered the two Nian pigs at home, he sold the two Nian pigs, and then borrowed 1,000 yuan from relatives and friends, and only then barely made up 1,500 yuan for the operation and operated on Zhang Yueqiao.
Zhang Zongshui and his wife Han Banglan really hurt Zhang Yueqiao as their own daughter,
During that time, in order to treat Zhang Yueqiao, the couple often lived in the city, and their three sons were left at home and asked to be taken care of by neighbors.
When they returned, they were shocked to see that the door was locked and the three sons were missing.
Later they discovered that three sons were harvesting wheat in the field with sickles.
At that time, their eldest son was only 12 years old, and the third was only 8 years old.
The three brothers never complained that this "sister who fell from heaven" had seized the attention of their parents, but invariably chose to hide their origins from their sister and love her like their own sister.
Because of several major surgeries and perennial medication, Zhang Yueqiao was shorter than the average child and was often ridiculed and teased by her classmates.
At this time, the brothers would tightly cover her ears and embrace her into their arms, glare at each other viciously, turn their heads and comfort her, and say, "They are all blind, you don't listen to them." ”
Of course, in the process of recovery, Zhang Yueqiao also brought infinite joy to the family.
Zhang Yueqiao has been positive and optimistic since childhood, with a cheerful personality, and is the pistachio of the whole family.
She seems to be born to sing, and at the age of 2, she can sing "Shoes are broken, hats are broken..." on TV, but Zhang Zongshui is broken.
200 pieces of Walkman, 1000 pieces of VCD, in order for his daughter to learn to sing, Zhang Zong underwater blood.
Later, when she grew up, she was unsurprisingly admitted to art school and wanted to continue her singing studies.
However, because he could not get the tuition fee, he could only choose to drop out of school, which was a regret of Zhang Zongshui's life.
That year, Zhang Yueqiao's eldest brother wanted to build a house to get married, the second brother also wanted to say daughter-in-law, the third brother was admitted to the Central Academy of Fine Arts, and she was also admitted to art school.
The third brother wants 12,000 tuition fees, she wants 8,000, and the family really can't come up with so much money.
In the end, Zhang Yueqiao took the initiative to choose to drop out of school and gave the opportunity to study to the third brother, who did not go to the Central Academy of Fine Arts and attended an art school in Jinan, with a tuition fee of only 6,000.
In order to save money for her brothers, Zhang Yueqiao ran to Tengzhou to work, and after work, she would sing at the night market, 1 yuan a song, and more than 200 yuan per month.
It is also because of singing in the night market that Zhang Yueqiao met her current husband Lian Jie, as the only thing that disobeyed her father.
Lian Jie is selling fruits in a nearby market, and likes to walk around the night market at night, and is accidentally attracted by Zhang Yueqiao's singing.
Although Zhang Yueqiao is only 1 meter 5, she has a cheerful personality and a loud singing voice, and Lian Jie often comes to take care of her business.
One after another, the two people became acquainted, the more they talked, the more speculative, and slowly the two people fell in love.
After several years of love, the two identified each other and planned to get married, but they were strongly opposed by the parents of both sides.
Lian Jie's parents dislike Zhang Yueqiao for being short, and have had a serious illness, and their health is not good, and they are afraid that they will be inherited to their children in the future.
Zhang Zongshui and his wife also did not look up to Lian Jie's family lineage, the family lived in a ravine, it was more difficult than their family, and marrying their daughter was not suffering.
No matter how Zhang Yueqiao and Lian Jie tried to persuade their parents, they just didn't agree.
In the end, the two young people were forced to be helpless, learning the plot of the film and television drama, and came to run away for love, which was more than half a year.
Of course, just like the plot in the film and television drama, in the end, the two of them were found by their parents and brought home, and after a hard struggle such as hunger strike, the parents of both sides finally agreed to their marriage.
In 2007, 23-year-old Zhang Yueqiao and Lian Jie got married.
It was also on the eve of the wedding that the neighbor said that he leaked his mouth, and Zhang Yueqiao learned that he was not born by his parents, but was adopted.
She had never doubted this before, because her parents and brothers were so nice to her.
In Zhang Yueqiao's memory, usually there is something delicious at home, never need to be explained by her parents, and her brothers know to leave it for her.
In the winter, my mother went to the ground to cut turnips, and my father picked up lamps every day to make money for others to make odd jobs such as root carving, paper cutting, and stone carving, all for her.
Zhang Zongshui and his wife could not hide it, and they also revealed her origins.
Learning the truth about her abandonment, Zhang Yueqiao hugged her adoptive parents and cried, vowing to repay her adoptive parents' nurturing grace for the rest of her life.
In 2008, Zhang Yueqiao and Lian Jie's son was born,
Pregnant in October, let Zhang Yueqiao experience the meaning of mother and child, and also want to know the inside story of his own life.
She wondered what kind of cruel parents could leave their children like garbage on the side of the road in the snow and ice, leaving no way for her to live.
Zhang Zongshui and his wife heard Zhang Yueqiao's idea of looking for relatives and laughed bitterly,
They are sad, a little lost, afraid of losing their only daughter, but they also understand their daughter's heart to find a place to come, so they choose to support.
In the first few years, Zhang Yueqiao searched for relatives online with the help of her husband, and almost no one cared, and gradually, Zhang Yueqiao also lost the heart to find relatives.
But I don't want to start from 2012, things have a huge turnaround, but the search for relatives is not hope, it has become a trouble.
Although Zhang Zongshui and his wife had always opposed it at first, they had to admit later that Lian Jie was indeed a competent husband and was really good to Zhang Yueqiao.
He supported Zhang Yueqiao to continue singing, encouraged her to participate in the competition, and inspired her to step onto a bigger stage.
In September 2012, the Shandong TV "Let the Dream Fly" program team conducted a audition in Zaozhuang, and Zhang Yueqiao signed up with the support of her husband, passed five levels and cut six generals, and qualified to go to Jinan.
On the stage in Jinan, Zhang Yueqiao appeared wearing a floral dress and carrying a basket of home-grown hawthorns, not only singing well, but also working hard to publicize how delicious the hawthorns in his hometown were, making the audience laugh.
Her personality is cheerful and neat, just like the hawthorn in her hand, so she has the title of hawthorn sister.
After that, Zhang Yueqiao stepped on the stage bigger and bigger, step by step to the much-anticipated Avenue of Stars, and the life behind her was also paid more and more attention.
From the very beginning, Zhang Yueqiao said that she wanted to gain popularity by participating in the show, and then look for her own biological parents.
So from the day she appeared in front of the media, the report on her life has not stopped, especially when she won the runner-up of the Walk of Fame of the year, and the people who came to her door to recognize her relatives were wave after wave.
This made hawthorn sister both worried and painful, expectant and tired.
According to the statistics of hawthorn sister's in-laws, in just half a year, they received seven or eight waves of "biological parents" who came to recognize their relatives.
Most of them come from Zaozhuang, hawthorn sister's hometown, but there are also some very heterogeneous,
For example, in a Family in Jining, the place where the child was lost was 100 kilometers away from the hawthorn sister's hometown, and when I asked, I knew that the child was 10 years old when she lost it.
Others say they can't figure out the child's physical characteristics, or can only report public information in the media.
The most outrageous is a northeastern couple, they took advantage of Zhang Yueqiao's performance outside, directly found her adoptive parents, knowing that the information was not right, but also in her house for a week, let the adoptive parents eat and drink for them.
This made Hawthorn Sister a little annoyed, "But it's annoying, enough." "I don't think they're here to recognize their relatives at all, they're just here to play."
Later, there were also some reliable media to help her find relatives, such as Wang Weinian Wang Fang,The pair, they did three programs in order to help Hawthorn Sister find relatives.
And accompanying Hawthorn Sister on the show is not only her husband, but also her adoptive father Zhang Zongshui.
Every time when waiting for experts to read the results, Zhang Zongshui always had mixed feelings in his heart, he supported his daughter to find relatives, and he did not want to find them in his private heart.
He told himself to be strong, but when he saw his daughter and the daughter of the suspected biological mother holding hands and crying, he couldn't hold back emotionally.
"I raised it for so many years and was robbed....."
Looking at the tears of her adoptive father Zhang Zongshui, Hawthorn Sister regretted it,
There have also been hosts who advised her not to recognize her relatives, and it is most important to be filial to her adoptive parents.
In fact, hawthorn sister wants to recognize relatives, never want to have one more relative, but want an answer.
A reporter once asked her, "What if one day, you and your biological parents really meet?" So what will you do? ”
Hawthorn Sister thought for a moment, and suddenly calmed down,
"I think that one day, if my biological parents come to me, I will not change anything, or I will be filial to my adoptive parents." You come to recognize me, I just look at you and see what kind of person you are."
In fact, in the heart of hawthorn sister, there is hatred for her biological parents,
She said that for whatever reason, she could not forgive her biological parents.
"If you are really poor, you can not give birth to me; if you are unable to rescue me, you can give me away or even sell me, but you throw me away, why don't you even leave me a way to live?" 」
After the failure of the last confession in June 2014, Hawthorn Sister announced that she would no longer look for relatives and would spend the rest of her life repaying her adoptive parents' nurturing grace.
"If there is birth and no support, the broken finger can be reported; the birth and the support, the severed head can be reported; the unborn and nurtured, the hundred generations are difficult to repay."
After Zhang Yueqiao became famous, her adoptive mother Han Banglan's health has not been good because of the torture of diabetes, and she took the initiative to bear all the medical expenses of her adoptive mother and served at the bedside until her death.
The son wanted to raise and did not wait, and the early death of her adoptive mother became an eternal pain in Zhang Yueqiao's heart, and since then she has been better to her adoptive father.
Over the years, she became famous, earned money, repaired the house for her adoptive father, and provided better living conditions for the elderly.
Hawthorn sister is lucky, although she does not know where she came from, but grew up in the love of her adoptive parents and brothers and found her own place.
She was born in suffering, but grew up in a honeypot, and saw the true meaning of life in one farce after another.
"Blood is thicker than water" will always be the main theme of this kind of story, but not all stories are suitable, because there is another saying that "the grace of nurturing is greater than the sky".
How to grasp the balance between this is an answer for thousands of people.