| Never | a sense of coldness about life
I have to say that domestic dramas that are willing to talk about middle-aged people falling in love and not suspending private lives have recently increased, and the topic of middle age seems to have opened up in the first year.
The core topic of "Perfect Partner", which recently took over the broadcast of "Xiao Minjia", is just about middle-aged men and women: middle-aged life has different shapes, and the division of labor framework for men and women in marriage is finally no longer single and rigid, it is not something that can be simply summarized and folded up, and middle-aged life has many forms.
Although Gao Yuanyuan looked too gentle to be spat at by the bullet screen, how to act is not like a strong woman, and others choke like a family, but Gao Yuanyuan chose to play a strong woman role that is fierce and fell with a knife, and her decision is worth playing.
In the play, you can see the high circle in another time and space, your gentle, temperamental, idyllic goddess, she is living a completely different life.
Chen Shan, a securities lawyer, holds the economic lifeblood of the whole family in her hands. Mortgages, car loans, high tuition fees for children... The family's large and small expenses are earned by her day and night.
Chen Shan is like the average number of contemporary middle-aged people - for the sake of family and life, for the work of crazy devils, after an unexpected car accident, holding a face of blood and also have to submit important documents.
Husband Sun Lei is more willing to deliver enthusiasm for the family, transporting children to and from school every day, preparing nutritious meals for the family, and helping his wife choose "battle robes". Although things are more subtle, they are also more able to ignite his firewood.
TV dramas are the closest to the public, the reaction of the times. Whether it is Japanese and Korean dramas, American dramas, or domestic dramas, they have played the sexual transformation of the division of roles.
Chen Shan and Sun Lei are not at all a couple on a typical track. Running out of a "destructive" fork in the road does not prevent them from finding the right way to get along. Compared with many couples with realistic structures, they are much more loving, pleasant, and harmonious.
This is probably also where netizens say that they are not realistic enough. But the drama is also a bright and dangling mirror of reality - more and more people no longer define strength and weakness by gender, but women in the workplace cultivation manual, or because of the identity of gender, morally more questioned.
For example, men in the workplace are more instrumental and rational, pay attention to maximizing efficiency, even if they will be subject to various discord, but they will not be fundamentally denied because of this.
Chen Shan hesitated to help a food company that caused child poisoning to go public, and even quarreled with her husband; she was ready to give up the project she participated in, but was questioned about lack of professionalism: Is this professionalism just to help a bad company whitewash?
The situation is almost the same, and when it comes to Lin Qingkun, a big man in the investment bank, it is a different scene.
He did everything he could to get the snack company public — ironically, his son was one of the victims of snack poisoning.
From his mouth, he became a person who did not carry personal emotions to work and had full professionalism, even if the company he promoted the listing was a company that violated the law and did not guarantee quality. He was calm, restrained, and without the slightest guilt.
He is indeed a man who will stop at nothing for the sake of his career, so many people call out terrible because of his fine points. But really looking at his specific life, there are many people who empathize and understand.
The barrage was different for Chen Shan. Chen Shan's strength in her career and the lack of place in her family, more feedback from the outside world, is a question, is a question. People's attitudes towards the life choices of men and women have always been different.
The balance of family and career is always just a woman's proposition.
This is also Chen Shan's frequent self-questioning.
I happened to read a book recently, which happened to be a reflection of the play in the real world. A London college professor interviewed more than thirty stay-at-home mothers, all of whom were elite women who had been encouraged by the myth of the "all-powerful."
Not only do they believe that women can pick up more stars, but they also use superwoman with one briefcase and one stroller as an ideal female template.
"Return to the Family" also says that elite women who have become stay-at-home mothers will still blame this withdrawal on their own abilities after quitting the workplace.
Times have evolved women, and their vision is no longer to do laundry and cook every day. A new gender contract was born, and they rushed into the workplace to kill their enemies. But the original work in the family did not allow them to fall.
Women seem to have a more optimistic upward passage, but the "mother's" hat stuck in the mind will not be a more terrible spiritual poison?
Therefore, whenever she saw Chen Shan fight on the field, she was eager to do 800 things in 24 hours, admiring the fierceness at the same time, I also felt that she was lucky.
There is an upgraded version of the "master man" in the family, and the "all-powerful woman" is not a myth that only falls on her head.
But this is plated with a dream filter. After all, in the popular view, the desire for equal division of labor between men and women is somewhat rebellious.
"Married Life" is also another good-looking "sexual turn", adapted and remade by Bergman's decades-old film, and the woman has changed from the main bone of taking care of the family in the original version to the side that supports the economy.
The small changes in the screenwriter are more in line with the context of the new era, and the shackles that can be wrapped in the gender model do not necessarily disappear.
Both dramas begin with interviews with couples.
They leaned back on the couch in a daze, answering the questions of the visiting female doctors, while silently counting in their minds, fearing that the deepest secrets would be discovered, and hesitating and retaining them when answering the questions.
In contrast, asking them to describe themselves in a few words can be regarded as a warm-up topic that does not require any mental defense. But when you think about it, it is also quite ironic.
No matter how many years have passed, men can always express their parts of themselves more calmly. In the old version, John, the head of the family, was boastful, successful, sexy, intelligent, and generous, and saw that self-confidence was about to overflow the screen;
In the new chapter, Jonathan's ranking of "father" has advanced a lot because of his father's task, but it didn't take long for him to change his mouth, thinking that he should first be frank about his "scholar" identity.
On the other hand, the flickering words of women only confirm once again that they want to withdraw from the family track and lack confidence.
Just like the old version of Marianne, although she has her own career, the two identities that first pop out of her mind are "mother" and "wife", and beyond that, there is a blank.
In the new version, Mira is already a more successful woman, but "marriage" and "mother" are still the first adjectives.
And the supplement that was hurriedly filled in after saying the vice president position, even if you want to say it lightly, you can't cut any point deliberately after exporting.
I think that if it weren't for the "motherhood" chip planted too dark and too deep, Marianne and Mira might have been more beautiful women, more generously accepting career rewards and more openly distributing housework.
They lack the courage to jump out of the family, but also because the hidden nature has been too high.
I've seen an episode of maureen Fitzgerald, an academic who studies gender bias, and she said she once gave a sensational talk.
That speech invited only 200 female lawyers.
A young guy who looked young & simple gushed for 45 minutes, and there were many pages full of offensive Power Point — the theme was "Seven Fatal Mistakes Women Make", which meticulously informed all the women present:
They wore the wrong clothes and said what they missed; they didn't look confident enough and tough enough; and what was even worse — how they damaged their careers.
The large PUA scene for no reason is the same as our female Durban here, and miraculously, his manifesto is still a bunch of female lawyers. Maureen said that after listening to the lecture, for the next 8 years, she struggled to prove this matter - "What if the way we look at women is the problem?" ”
She uses a pink box as a metaphor for the invisible and abstract absurdities of life. The pink box contains the world's expectations of all women and girls.
It feels that women should be friendly, sweet, and docile at the same time. It installed box plug-ins in the brains of all humans, and since then, girls and women have had a "perfect" model that is not solid.
Torturing women how to balance career and family is also a trap for pink boxes.
The world is still stuffing pink boxes with the obligation of "perfect woman."
Is it also time to loosen the gender concept? Whether male or female, there is no need to ask too much.
Content Editor: Lai Yi
The original article was first published in the public account of "New Weekly" "Miss F Miss F"
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