The day before yesterday, I saw "Liu Xuezhou, a child looking for relatives", on the Internet denouncing his birth mother for blocking him, and early this morning I actually saw him go, and my heart ached beyond reproach. I did not believe this news, deliberately went through the Network to find that the news is actually true, volunteer Peng Gaofeng has been waiting next to Liu Xuezhou in the emergency room, but the child is still far away from this absolutely indifferent world.
At this moment, my heart is pounding, I only hope that there will be no internet violence and indifference in heaven, and I hope that he will meet a loving family in the next life.
He was sold to his adoptive parents for 6,000 yuan by his biological parents when he was born; when he was 4 years old, his adoptive parents suffered an accident and he became an orphan; he had the opportunity to live in school with the help of his aunt and grandmother and uncle; his aunt who loved him died tragically, and the village and school bullied him and isolated him because he was an orphan, and he was also molested by the teacher...
Despite his ill-fated fate, he has always been devoted to the sun, volunteering for epidemic prevention, working part-time to earn money to support himself and take care of his grandmother. But the repeated abandonment and accusations of his biological parents once again pushed him into the abyss: "Born light, time is pure", he bid farewell to the world in a decisive way.
I am reminded of a saying by Gorky: "Loving and caring for your children is what a hen would do, but educating children well is an art." "However, for some parents, I don't think even the hens can do anything, let alone love their children.
Parenthood is the most unquenchable profession in the world, a gift from God, but not everyone is qualified to be called a parent.
Not all people are eligible to be parents
The protagonist of the movie "Why Home" Zane begins by suing his parents in court, why did he sue his parents? Because they gave birth to him.
What kind of hatred would make a 12-year-old boy sue his biological parents?
The reason is simple, his parents were born without raising, and used all their children as tools to support themselves. When they give birth to a son, they do odd jobs to earn money, and when they give birth to a girl, they will change some food or goods when they grow up, and the child is just a tool of their labor. For them, children are only sharers of suffering, the more they are born, the better, but they have never thought about their children's lives and futures.
Because of his young sister, Zane has been doing hard work without complaint, just so that one day he can take his sister to escape from the home that was born and did not support. However, before she could escape, her sister was sold to the old landlord by her parents and also left because she was pregnant and gave birth to a child. Enraged, Zane killed the old landlord and sentenced himself to 5 years in prison. However, in prison, his parents actually told him: she is pregnant again, still a girl!
In order not to have innocent children like him, he sued his biological parents in court for not having children, hoping that they would not be born again. Although the ending of the movie is beautiful, the reality is cruel, and eventually some children are like the little protagonists of "How to Be Home", born by their parents but not raised, abandoned by their parents. Like Liu Xuezhou, who has gone today, behind the strong and sunny is a scarred heartache and helplessness.
Some time ago, the biological father and girlfriend of the "Chongqing Sister and Brother Fall Case" were sentenced to death, but the biological father and girlfriend actually appealed, which made people shudder. Tiger poison does not eat children, and the biological father actually extends his evil claws to his own children.
Not everyone is eligible to become a parent, and as the state begins to attach importance to family education and the promulgation and implementation of the Family Education Promotion Law, it is imperative for parents to hold a certificate to work. I hope that all parents should think twice before having children, children are not the private property of parents, children have their mission. We can give them life, give them love and companionship, but we can't control the child's life.
At the end of the courtroom, Zane's mother complained that the judge had no right to accuse her and that her situation left her with no way to love her children. For parents at the bottom of society, they do have a lot of compulsion, but also a lot of helplessness and bitterness. However, since you can't raise children to grow up, don't have children.
What is home? There is only love and companionship
At the age of 15, it is the age when Cheng Huan is on his knees and laborious to study, but Liu Xuezhou has to take up the burden of life early and earn money by working during the holidays to support himself. In bullying and loneliness, in indifference and ruthlessness, he gave up his own self-innocence and used his own experience to warn all of our parents:
"Becoming a parent is easy, but being a loving parent is something you need to learn."
Some parents always simply regard their children as their own private property, scold them when they want to fight, and even abandon them, and feel that it is for the good of their children. As everyone knows, what children need is not food and clothing parents, but loving parents.
Food, clothing, shelter and travel will make them grow up, but they will not necessarily make them happy and happy, and the love and companionship of parents are the background of children's lives and illuminate their way forward.
I remembered a little girl a few years ago, an orphan in a Guizhou welfare home, timid and afraid, and her eyes were full of confusion. But with the love and companionship of her adoptive parents' family, she became confident and sunny, and her face was full of happiness and love. Although her adoptive parents have two sons, they still give her high-quality companionship.
They played wildly with the little girl, rode a big horse on her back, supported her hobbies, painted with her, took her to a picnic in the forest, went to the beach to play... In the love and companionship of the family, she changed from a timid little girl to a sunny girl. And in the photo, she is sweet and happy, like a child who has been kissed by the god of love, and her eyes are full of testimonies of love.
It is not blood relations that make up a home, but love and companionship that make a home.
"To be born without nurturing is the sin of the parents; to nurture but not to teach, to be the scourge of the parents; to teach but not to be good, to be the fault of the parents." When we have children, we have the responsibility and obligation to take care of them, to provide them with food, clothing, shelter, and to help them grow up. Even if it is a coarse tea and light rice, as long as the love of parents is there, the child's life will be brilliant.
Because the child's requirements are not much, just need to give some sunshine to shine. Maybe we can't give them food and clothing, but careful care and companionship is the best psychological nutrition for them.
I wonder how many poor parents in history were able to teach great men? Most importantly, they are nourished and raised by love in the love and companionship of their parents, and their hearts are full of security and self-confidence, so they can be determined, strong in heart, and always walk on the road of pursuing their inner mission.
Write at the end
Gilbert, a harvard psychology professor, once said, "Ten years from now, you won't regret doing one less project, but you'll regret not spending an extra hour with your child." ”
Maybe we're running around making ends meet, maybe we don't have time to spend with our children, but since we've had them, it's our responsibility to take care of them growing up. As long as we have the heart, we will always find the time and way to love them, even if it is a moment of phone call, even if it is a short hug, even if it is a moment of communication, and most importantly, let the child feel that they are worthy of being loved.
Former U.S. President Barack Obama, even if he is busy, will find time to accompany his children to dinner and do the duties of a father, and can we be busier than the president?
May there be no more "Liu Xuezhou" in the world, and may every child be treated with tenderness!