Delicate college dorm relationships: gregarious to solitary

On September 1, 2021, our school began to report online and allocate a dormitory for four people, and the four of us began to communicate and arrange the necessities of the dormitory through this weChat ID and QQ number, which is also a pre-school negotiation, I feel that everyone's personality is OK, and we are looking forward to the harmonious dormitory relationship in the future.

Report on the opening of the school on September 12. I came to the school a day early to report and waited for them in the dormitory. At about eight o'clock in the morning, the dormitory welcomed the first roommate wearing a small short skirt, which was a sign of appearance, which was a little beauty. I woke up from bed when she opened the door and came in, and I was still a little sluggish about someone coming in. We said hello to each other and she started packing her bags, and I sat idly in the chair next to her and chatted with her. She said: I didn't expect that I was quite cheerful and enthusiastic, and I felt that I was a bit introverted before. This surprised me, I have always felt that we had a warm chat in qq before. The time passed quite quickly, about 12 noon, and all four of us in the dormitory arrived. In order to harmonize the dormitory, we meet to cook together.

For 7 days after the start of school, we got along very well. The four of us cooked together, went to school together, went out to play together, and even went together to pick up the courier. However, it is difficult to do things synchronously with four people, because everyone is an independent individual with their own space. It's like eating, we all have to go to the same window to order food, to order what we don't like. Just like going to pick up the courier, some people may not have a courier, but still go with someone. There are many more things like this, just for the so-called gregarious. In fact, my personality is the kind of external heat and internal cold, the kind of super warm treatment, but I can accept being alone. After spending time with them like this, I feel very tired. Having to do everything together by four people makes me feel like I don't have my own time to arrange my own things.

For the next week, I slowly learned to be alone, to arrange my own time. Slowly, I became more distant from them than before, but I was not alone. Fortunately, I got to know two female classmates in our class, but it was only the kind of person who would say hello and talk a few times, thinking that their relationship was super good, and I kept a certain safe distance from them, worried that it would be bad because I affected them. Harm, the relationship between the dormitories can only be said to have shallow communication, and they both began to hug each other, but this had little impact on me.

After that, I knew what made my relationship with their roommates more and more unfamiliar. First: It was a change in my attitude towards them, not as enthusiastic as before, relatively cold. Second: It was because I didn't vote for them because of a class committee selection vote, which should be counted as my own lack of intelligence. Third: They feel that I am starting to be friends with the other students in the class, and they are very cold to them. Fourth: It is my own feeling that we can't fit in, that is, their mode of getting along I can't accept. I feel that for a long time with them, the relationship is also light.

Now, I'm in a relationship with them like strangers, but I don't think we're at odds with how they can't bother to care. I thought I was in my bedroom, and I would do my own task, and I would not infringe on their interests. My friend also advised me to deal with the dorm relationship, but it really didn't fit in, and I felt so good. I myself belong to the kind of person who is cold, and I really don't have the energy to waste my time on this. Especially after a semester has passed, they all have their own communication circles, and it is difficult to squeeze in as an outsider. I have my own small communication group, and my own friends, which is really good. It's just that in the circle of the dormitory, I am alone.