Intensive reading mother: As a parent, when the child is young, we should pay attention to the cultivation of their three views and the formation of learning habits, so that excellent children will attract the same excellent people to move forward together.
Author:Yiming (Parents Intensive Reading Author)
Recently, changsha central south university's "xueba dormitory" is on fire.
In the School of Computer Science of Central South University, 4 students in the 512 dormitories of class 1805 were sent to Peking University, Tsinghua University, Nanjing University, and Chinese Academy of Sciences.
Not only that, they have won 26 discipline competition awards in the past four years, including 2 international competition awards, 3 national awards, and 5 provincial level awards, and the total number of scholarships won is nearly 200,000.
Everyone also has the experience of serving as a student leader in school-level organizations, college-level organizations, grades and classes, which can be said to be a well-deserved "all-round student bully"!
In their freshman year, two students passed the direct blog program, and under their influence, the other two students also began to apply for the direct blog program in their junior year.
In learning, they supervise and help each other. They agreed to study on their own during the day and discuss topics together at night.
Spiritually, they are supportive of each other.
"Every time I encounter something bad, I take it to the bedroom and talk about it, and it doesn't feel so bad."
In their common growth, they are like a magnetic field, infecting each other, attracting each other, protecting each other, supporting each other, relying on each other, and feeling the beauty of life together.
Han Han said that how far a person can go depends on who is with him; how good a person is, depending on who he has pointed out; how successful a person is, depends on who he has with him.
Therefore, do not underestimate the subtle and deaf power, in which every child is slowly shaped.
Who the child is with is really important
I saw a news.
Xi'an University of Technology has a dormitory, and the 6 roommates in the dormitory are admitted to graduate school.
One of the two female students was escorted to Northwestern Polytechnical University and the other to Xi'an University of Technology for a phD.
The remaining four female students all took the postgraduate unified examination, one of whom was admitted to Kunming University of Science and Technology, and the other three were admitted back to their alma mater, Xi'an University of Technology.
One of the girls told reporters: "The most important thing in the graduate school is perseverance and determination. ”
Another girl also told reporters: "In fact, she and one of her classmates successfully protected the research institute at the beginning, and after learning the news, the other four students in the dormitory were greatly inspired." ”
In addition to their love of learning, the students are also keen on various competitions, and have received up to 66 certificates in the four years of university, including science and technology competitions.
What kind of person children often spend with, it is easy to become what kind of person.
I once saw a particularly shocking experiment online.
The experimenter placed 24 pendulums in the same experimental field at the same time.
Then the pendulum is randomly dialed, and at the beginning each pendulum is swinging at its own different rhythm, and the entire experimental field is in a state of chaos and disorder.
But later it was found that the pendulum began to adjust its own swing speed, and the frequency of their swing was slowly changing and converging.
At the critical time point of 1 minute and 04 seconds, all the sounds suddenly became uniform.
Starting at 1 minute and 35 seconds, the last pendulum in the opposite direction also begins to accelerate its swing speed, converging with the other pendulums. At this time, the swaying speed and sound of all the pendulums in the experimental site became neat and orderly.
With what kind of people you are with, what kind of influence you will be, for adults, but also for children.
The environment affects the growth of children, and what kind of people the children are close to, what kind of road they will take.
Never underestimate the impact of friends on children
I saw a story online.
A middle school teacher once caught several children who smoked, and one of them was a "school bully".
The teacher was very confused and called the child to the office to talk, and the child said: If I don't smoke, I will have no friends.
It's easy for parents to classify these behaviors as comparisons, which are actually peer pressure.
Peer pressure refers to unconsciously or being forced to do something in order to fit into the circle of peers, to appear sociable, whether it is right or wrong, whether the thing is needed or not.
Peer pressure is also a double-edged sword, if the friends around you are "school bullies", "school scum" can be transformed;
When the value orientation of peer pressure is wrong, it will have a negative impact on the child and harm the child's physical and mental health.
Psychologist Piaget once said:
"There are two worlds in a child's childhood, a world in which parents and children interact, and a world of peers.
Peer groups play an equally or even more important role in a child's development as parents. ”
Pay attention to what kind of friends your children come into contact with, motivated friends drive you to be motivated, and negative friends drive you to be negative. Don't overestimate their resistance, the effects are subtle and silent.
In the early morning of Tsinghua, the campus was already full of people, everyone was racing against the clock to walk on the road of early reading, and some people on campus were sleeping in the all-night game last night.
A good environment sets off the atmosphere of learning, optimism, positivity, and sunshine;
Poor environment creates a downward trend, negative, lazy, gloomy.
For children, the biggest pressure does not come from parents, not from teachers, but from the opinions of peers.
When there is no one to restrain and no one to remind, children whose inner order has not yet been fully established will take the practices of their peers around them as a guideline.
Good friendship and environment, let the child be proactive and courageous
My cousin has a very good friend, because of this friendship, one of them was admitted to Tsinghua University, and the other went to Peking University.
They are in the same class in junior high school and high school. In high school, the two became very good friends, and their grades at that time did not meet the standards of Qingbei.
One day in her sophomore year of high school, the girl said to her cousin, "Do you think we will regret it if we don't fight?" ”
The cousin nodded and said, "Of course, I will regret it, after all, there is only one college entrance examination in life." ”
"Yeah, so, we can't let ourselves regret it, so we have to fight." Even if you fail, you won't regret it. ”
The girl immediately said her goal: Tsinghua, information engineering.
My cousin thought about it and said, "I'm going to Peking University to study psychology, and we urge each other." Work together, fight together. ”
Two girls, two good friends set their own goals on the playground.
As they wished, they both went to their favorite schools.
Encouragement and supervision between friends is often more effective than parents.
When injured, comfort and talking among friends is often the most effective healing medicine.
When there is confusion, friends' suggestions and sticky drinks are often more pertinent than parents' more pertinent and easier to be accepted by each other.
As the saying goes, those who are close to Zhu are red and close to ink, and those who have positive energy around them must bring you a positive and upward light.
Good environment, good friends really affect the growth of our children.
In order to make Mencius have a really good environment for growing up, Mencius's mother took pains to move to two places.
Mencius learned to worship when he lived near the cemetery, and mencius learned to drink when he lived near the wet market.
When she arrived near the school, Meng Mu saw that the child began to become orderly, polite, and liked to read, so she thought that she had chosen the right environment for the child to live in.
In the end, Mencius did not fail to live up to his mother's expectations and became a great thinker and educator.
There is a very hot sentence on Weibo: your level is the average of the 5 people you most often contact.
With people who love to complain, the world will become dark over time; with people with positive energy, life can be full of sunshine.
Who you are, you will eventually meet.
Good people are attracted to each other.
As a parent, when the child is young, we should pay attention to the cultivation of their three views and the formation of learning habits, so that excellent children will attract the same excellent people to move forward together.
In this way, the child's life will become more and more beautiful.
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