Men who commit domestic violence, please put down your ruthless fist

Today, the news that the wife of a shaanxi company executive was suspended for domestic violence has become a hot spot on the Internet. The man in the video mercilessly swings his icy fist and smashes his wife's head. What is even more disturbing is that there are even their children at the scene. At this moment, what I was thinking about was what kind of childhood this runaway dad had, and what kind of future his children would have...

Domestic violence is a widespread social problem throughout the world. Many laws, including the Constitution, include the prohibition of domestic violence. However, there are still often news events related to domestic violence in society, and even many popular stars are frequently involved in domestic violence incidents. Domestic violence not only brings serious distress to the current life, but also causes irreparable adverse effects on the spiritual world of the child of one of the family members. Let's take a look at what consequences domestic violence will bring to the future of children.

1． Extreme insecurity

Tingting's father would beat her mother as long as she finished drinking, and her mother was also desperately resisting, and she could only be beaten if she had a huge disparity in strength. Because Tingting's uncle's family and uncle's family have beaten women, she has always thought that all families are like this.

It wasn't until she went to college that she learned that many people's fathers would never beat their mothers, and even felt incredible. The direct impact on her is that she will never like the opposite sex when she is an adult. And has come out with his parents.

2． Irritable and violent.

A netizen on Zhihu said that I will beat people when I treat my best friends, because if I don't go well, I will subconsciously choose to solve it violently. Growing up in a violent environment, slowly you will feel that violent output is the way to solve all problems. This is also the most direct embodiment of family influence.

3. The psychological shadow that cannot be shaken off.

A little boy had just walked to the door, and before he could enter the door, he heard his father's roar. After pushing open the door, he was horrified to see his father with a red face, picked up the wine bottle and smashed it on his mother's face, the green glass bottle broke when it collided with his mother's face, he saw his mother's body shake, like a small tree shaken by the wind on the side of the road, it did not fall, but his mother's harsh scream made him goosebumps... Shards of glass pierced into Mom's face, oozing blood along her face, down her chin, and then to the ground. He vividly remembered that he had just celebrated his 4th birthday that day.

30 years later, when the boy grew up, he said he had a "strange disease" – the urge to pick it up and smash it in someone's face every time he saw a bottle. Even once, after seeing his newborn son drinking milk and sleeping quietly, he couldn't help but see his old father drinking half of the bottle at the dinner table, and suddenly wanted to pick it up... Although this impulse was fleeting, he was frightened by his own thoughts, which were his son who had only been born for a few days!

In addition to the above symptoms, emotional depression, pessimism and world-weariness, cowardice, sensitivity and inferiority, and so on.

Open the comments section of Zhihu and you will know what a huge group of victims this is. Some people have completed their own redemption with age and are trying to live happily; some people are still suffering in the shadow of childhood. It is impossible to complete the life of a normal person who is married and has children in the traditional sense.

Don't always hold on to luck, always have illusions, domestic violence will only happen once and countless times. In order to make domestic violence no longer become a curse that plagues life, you who are experiencing domestic violence must act decisively and use your actions to save your life.

Request help from others or other organizations (e.g., residents' committees, villagers' committees, and work units to which the perpetrator belongs);

Report to the public security organs for assistance;

Initiation of divorce proceedings and requests for legal aid;

Applicants for a personal safety protection order.