You don't often think a lot, worry about one more thing there will always be 1000 kinds of ideas.
Tangled procrastination has a lot of inner drama, and always likes to over-interpret the behaviors and opinions of those around him.
Always thinking wildly or often recalling that your performance is not good enough.
If there is one thing that says that you are in the middle, it is mental attrition.
So what is internal friction, and what are the reasons for internal friction? Internal friction is the psychological resources that people need to consume when managing themselves, when the resources are insufficient, people will be in a state of internal friction, which will make people feel tired for a long time.
What are the causes of internal friction:
1 Extremely unconfident in yourself and pay attention to your shortcomings.
2 Sensitive in heart, concerned about other people's evaluations and opinions of themselves, and always think of bad things.
3 Is to put the idea on the past and future things, thinking that the future is about to experience something, will produce anxiety, thus forming a vicious cycle.
4 Set too high requirements for yourself, set ideal goals for yourself, force yourself to implement, once you encounter difficulties and failures, you will have an emotional breakdown and deny yourself.
Internal friction can lead to we are hesitant and indecisive, easy to be affected by the words of others, leading to low emotions, fear of socialization, and no motivation to do things. They will often deny themselves, leading to self-abandonment.
So how do we stop internal friction and change ourselves?
1. Find the direction of life, a life without a goal is unmotivated, and it will fall into blind effort and idleness. [1] Thinking: What is my real goal in life?
[2] Enumeration: Write down all the goals you want
[3] Subtractive life: Remove the relatively unimportant goal until there is only one left, which is to measure what you desire most in your heart.
People have limited energy, focus on fewer things, and get them done well.
No one can be perfect and do everything. What we can do in our lifetime is actually a few. Focus your best efforts on your goals and you'll see effective rewards
2. Find your own material security
Each of us is anxious about life, and the material insecurity makes everyone flustered. Our excessive desires do not match ourselves, our excessive ideals are unrealistic with ourselves, and we feel anxious and uneasy when we do not see feedback! And we have to remind ourselves at all times:
[1] What is our lowest desire need?
[2] Whether I have achieved it now, there is no how I can try to achieve it.
[3] If I start from scratch, what are my abilities and strengths I have those resources.
[4] If I do what I like, I need those realistic guarantees.
3. Enhance blunt sensitivity and do not please others.
To live is to be loyal to oneself, and to selectively shield people and things that are not important. Use your perception on precious things, don't care what others think of me when communicating, let yourself be sluggish, and you will be happier than before.