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In your concept, what are the characteristics of women that are easier to find?
I am afraid that many people will say these standards: to be beautiful, to have culture, if you can earn money and have a high income, even if it is the icing on the cake. That's pretty much a treat.
But in reality, there is such a person, high appearance, high education is also a high income, according to what we commonly call "three high" women, but in the search for a partner but repeatedly hit a wall, even the marriage agency has begun to dislike her. Why?
This is a post I look at from the internet. The poster recounted her experience, she is beautiful, 985 school undergraduate and master's degree, and now she is working, with a monthly income of more than 10,000 yuan, which can be regarded as the best among her peers.
Because she was busy with her studies in the early years, at the age of 28, her family began to urge blind dates, and the girl had no choice but to enter a marriage agency, hoping to introduce some young men.
At a glance, this is its own high-quality customer, such a good condition is still worried about finding a partner? So actively arranged blind dates.
Unexpectedly, the girl went on blind dates more than 60 times and still failed to succeed. At this point, even the marriage agency is afraid: Girl, it's not that I don't work hard, it's really that we are here for you, please let it go!
Why do marriage agencies react like this? First, because the girl's requirements are too high, in line with the girl's high requirements, people have long had an object and will not come to the marriage agency to find; second, the girl's blind date failure rate is too high, which has seriously reduced the performance of the marriage agency.
As a party, how could the girl be willing to give up? But a sentence from the marriage agency made her very convinced: single men of the same age as you are generally inferior to you. If you don't adjust the standard, you won't find it.
The girl said to herself that her requirements were not very high, and she only hoped that the other party was almost the same as herself. Why can't I find it?
The reason why the girl is confused is because she does not understand the "unspoken rules" of the blind date market.
◆ Women's beauty is a consumable and will depreciate with age
In fact, this girl seems to belong to the relatively high-quality "three high" girls, but she also has a natural disadvantage: she is a little older.
Some people may retort, is 28 years old? After graduating from a bachelor's degree at the age of 22, if you go to graduate for a few more years, come out at the age of 25, and work for three more years, will you not reach this age?
Don't worry, listen to my analysis.
◆ Matching principle of the blind date market: A man with B woman, B man with C woman, A woman is easy to be left
I don't know if you have found such a phenomenon: the elderly women who are single around are generally relatively excellent. Why, can it simply be said that they are "demanding"?
In fact, the main reason is caused by the pairing principle in the blind date market.
If the quality level is divided according to A, B, and C, in the blind date market, A men will generally tend to find B women, B men look for C women, so that A women are easy to be left.
This is because when women are looking for a partner, they generally have a "Mu Qiang" mentality, hoping that their other half is better than their own. This leads to the better women, the more they will want to match, the better men. A woman will hope to find A man, it is not easy to downgrade to find B man.
But what is Man A's mind? When they look for a partner, they don't necessarily look for A woman.
They are more inclined to find women whose minds are not so complicated, who do not have to be so highly educated, and who are preferably a little admiring of themselves. And it's better to be young and good-looking.
That is to say, A men are more inclined to find young and beautiful B women than older A women.
Because they already have wisdom and genetic considerations for the next generation, they will think that women with good looks and younger age will produce a better quality next generation.
And because women have passed the golden reproductive age, the age increases, the risk of fertility increases, and the possibility of eugenics decreases, so the older the age, the smaller the advantage.
【What do you think about that?】 】
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