First of all, I need to explain two points, so as not to confuse readers who have only seen the drama version.
First, after the novel "Double Sided Glue" was adapted into a TV series, the ending was beautified, and in the finale of the drama version, Hu Lijuan did not die at the hands of Li Yaping, Li Yaping's mother died, and Hu Lijuan and Li Yaping showed signs of reconciliation, leaving a suspense. In the original work, there were no children who fell down the stairs to stop the crazy Li Yaping, and after Li Yaping punched down like a construction worker smashing stones, punching and punching, Hu Lijuan lost her young life.
Second, the title mentions that Hu Lijuan was almost strangled to death by Li Yaping, which does not refer to the one at the end. In fact, Li Yaping did it to Hu Lijuan more than once, and the first time he did it was in the hospital, almost strangling Hu Lijuan.
Ya Ping jumped up, grabbed Li Juan's neck, riveted down, the back of Li Juan's head was smashed the wall, Li Juan did not resist, even did not kick and struggle, her face soon turned purple, desperate and grumpy rolled her eyes to look at Ya Ping, the whites of her eyes were getting bigger and bigger.
Li Yaping twice touched his wife, in fact, for the same nature of things, that is, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. As we all know, Hu Lijuan's mother-in-law is a person who still stays in the old society with three views, and the idea of male superiority over women is particularly serious, believing that women are men's vassals, free nannies at home, should take care of all the housework, should work during the day and take care of the sick father-in-law at night, should eat leftovers, Hu Lijuan as a highly educated young woman, but also the palm pearl of her parents, how can she withstand such a strange idea of mother-in-law? Soon, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law was tense.
As a result, Li Yaping acted on Hu Lijuan for the first time, and there were three inducements. First, Hu Lijuan and her mother-in-law have a bad relationship, and Li Yaping has the idea of "filial piety first", only think that it is Hu Lijuan's fault, his mother has been wronged, although he has not broken out, but his heart has already accumulated a lot of dissatisfaction with Hu Lijuan. Second, in Li Yaping's view, Hu Lijuan refused to lend money to her sister Li Guanhua, refused to give her all her strength to see her father, was unreasonable when her family encountered trouble, did not ask for money back, did not take his family seriously, and did not take his husband in his eyes, making him even more angry. Third, Hu Lijuan's knife mouth and opening her mouth to scold her mother-in-law became the fuse.
After reading "Double Sided Tape" three times, when I read that Hu Lijuan was almost strangled to death by Li Yaping, I summed up 3 lessons, women must learn in order to protect themselves as much as possible.
First, for the sake of men to endure again and again, in the end there is no way to retreat the person is you;
After her mother-in-law came, Hu Lijuan did not have a good life for a few days.
Hu Lijuan's mother-in-law saw her son Li Yaping doing housework, as if she wanted her life, she brainwashed Li Yaping, told Li Yaping that men should not do housework, while personally demonstrating, from encouragement to order, transforming Hu Lijuan, wanting Hu Lijuan to take over all the housework and serve Li Yaping.
Hu Lijuan also works and makes money, and after her in-laws came, Hu Lijuan even ate a few pieces of braised pork to make her mother-in-law grumpy and preachy.
Hu Lijuan bought a dress as if she had committed some unforgivable sin.
Hu Lijuan naturally could not accept such a life, and went to Li Yaping to complain, hoping that Li Yaping would come forward to reconcile the contradictions between his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. If Li Yaping is willing to come forward and unswervingly protect his wife Hu Lijuan, the mother-in-law is no longer reasonable, and she will not be able to help Hu Lijuan.
As Sheng Minglan said in "Knowing or Not": "The matter of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is, in the final analysis, a husband and wife affair." If the husband's heart is like a mirror, there are not so many things. ”
However, Li Yaping is a down-to-earth mother,peg-oriented parents, who only asks Hu Lijuan to look at his face, listen to his parents, and be a daughter-in-law who satisfies his parents.
The man asks you to endure the in-laws' difficulties for him, and if you listen, it will be over. You swallow your anger in order to make the husband and wife feelings and family harmony, but the in-laws and men do not think so, they will only think that you are nested, and they will only think that they are reasonable, you are reasonable, and when you bully you, you will be even more unscrupulous.
If the tiger does not threaten, it will be treated as a sick cat, and marriage is even more so. Li Yaping and her in-laws had the strength to advance and force Hu Lijuan to a desperate road, which was given by Hu Lijuan.
Second, even parents may turn against you for money, let alone in-laws and men?
For his own selfish interests, the director of Li Guanhua's husband drew a big cake for employees and asked them to raise funds. Li Guanhua could not come up with this money, and in order to keep her husband's job, he cried and made trouble and threatened his brother Li Yaping. The sister has difficulties, Li Yaping naturally will not sit idly by, and started the idea of the mother-in-law, letting Hu Lijuan borrow 100,000 yuan from her mother-in-law.
At first, Hu Lijuan was still sober-minded, knowing that she should not mix her mother's money with her husband's original family's money, so as not to let her relatives have nothing to do, but she could not stand Li Yaping's soft and hard bubbles, or borrowed this money. Then, the factory director rolled up the money and ran away, Hu Lijuan's mother 100,000 yuan hit the water, did not spare, asked Li Yaping's family to repay the money, the relationship between the two families completely deteriorated.
Baby Anne said: "Don't easily challenge human nature, human nature can not stand the test, it needs to be preserved and covered, if you go straight in, it will be full of flaws." ”
Whether it is love or affection, it may not be able to resist the test of money and become vulnerable in the face of interests. Brothers clearly settle accounts, and the interests are entangled more, and family affection may really be ruined.
Third, people who can't control their temper, if you can't, there are one and two, you will not be so lucky forever.
In the hospital, Li Yaping did something to Hu Lijuan for the first time, almost strangled Hu Lijuan, what did Hu Lijuan do after she escaped from death?
Although she returned to her mother's house, she still had illusions about Li Yaping, who almost did not kill herself, and made excuses for Li Yaping.
"It's my bad, I'm in a hurry, I scold my mother, my mother is already in the hospital." I don't know if there are any sequelae. You don't blame Apin, I'm all scared of myself, but thanks to his mother saving me. ”
"Without his mom and dad, Yaping and I would still be pretty good." I think Yaping is quite conscientious in general. His father's illness, his mother does not care whether it can be cured or not, he must still be cured, he is a good person. If I hadn't looked at him pitifully, I would have ignored his family's affairs a long time ago. ”
At this point, she also simply blamed the marriage problems on the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
In marriage, whether it is a contradiction between relatives or a contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the problem lies in the husband and wife. It's his relatives, it's his parents, he can't figure it out, what can you do? If he really loves you and treats you as a wife, he will protect you and take the initiative to get his relatives and parents, instead of letting you suffer all the grievances.
At this point in the arm, marriage is actually incurable, and this is the bottom line, the bottom line that cannot be touched.
People who can't control their temper, if not, one will have two, you will not be so lucky forever. There is no way out but to make up for the dead sheep and leave him early.
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