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The 78-year-old Uncle Ding has a monthly pension of 4500, he has 5 children, three sons and two women. Uncle Ding, who is full of children and grandchildren, used to like to visit the children while they were resting. After the age of 75, he felt that his life was coming to an end, and he chose another way of life to live the rest of his life, very happy, and also made many elderly people envious.
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I'm Uncle Ding, a person who likes to be lively, and after I retire, before the age of 75, I like to go to my children's house to play, because there are my grandchildren there, and it is also lively.
A lot of times, when the kids are resting, I'll go over on my own or call the kids back to get together. This also makes my relationship with the children more harmonious, and the family atmosphere is particularly warm.
Of course, it may also be the reason why I don't live with my children, living separately, getting together occasionally, not stumbling in life, and sometimes feeling missed after not seeing each other for a long time.
My children are filial to me, but I am not that kind of thing, thinking all day about finding things for my children, trying to control their lives, thinking that I am older than them, their father, they have to listen to me.
In my opinion, it is completely unnecessary, after all, everyone has everyone's life, the environment is different, and the way of life and things needed is definitely different.
The way of survival that suits me is not necessarily suitable for my children, so I am very enlightened, they can do whatever they want, they need me, they are confused, I will give them a handle, analysis and analysis.
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I think I'm equal with my kids, friends, buddies, so we're all in a good family.
The children usually care about me, and when I don't go to their house, they will call me from time to time and occasionally bring their children to see me.
Every year, we will have a seven- or eight-day tour, and the family will walk through the mountains and rivers together, leaving a beautiful moment.
When I was 75 years old, I felt that my physical fitness could not keep up, and I could no longer be the same as before, often visiting my children's homes and spending time with them.
Slowly, I traveled less, and instead they came to see me more often.
Perhaps also feeling the decline in my physical state, the children asked me with concern, do you want to take turns to retire, a family to live for three months, or a fixed pension, the other several to pay?
I chose to refuse this proposal, I don't want to cause them trouble, I don't want to be old, I don't want to live for a few years, because the pension thing is unpleasant, affecting the feelings between family members.
The children thought I was going to a nursing home and said to help me find a reliable nursing home.
I said: No, I don't want to go to the nursing home for the elderly, I am old, I don't want to re-adapt to the new environment. The golden nest and silver nest are not as good as my own nest, and I want to live in my own home.
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It's not that I haven't wanted to go to my children's homes for the elderly, but I think about it, after all, I went to a burden. If I live with a certain child for a long time, let the other few pay for it, and the child who has to take care of me for a long time, life will be tired and difficult.
Over time, even if the other children have money, it is inevitable that they will complain. If so, this originally harmonious brother-sister relationship will be destroyed, which is not what I want to see.
I'm 75 up, and I really don't want to get old enough to cause trouble between the children and cause them conflicts.
The children are filial to me and know how to think for me, and I, as an old father, naturally have to think about them. When I'm older, I can't help them, and I can do it without causing them trouble.
In order to let them not worry about me and work with peace of mind, I told them my idea: I have a pension of 4500, and I am ready to take this money to get a nanny, let the nanny take care of me, and accompany me on the last part of the road. If my pension is not enough to ask the babysitter, you will each add some. In this way, I can not leave my familiar home, but also have someone to take care of, and you can work with peace of mind.
Later, after being introduced by an acquaintance, I found a rural aunt and asked her to take care of my life, giving her 4,000 hard fees every month.
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Why didn't I go directly to a professional nanny, but instead found a rural aunt?
First, I think that rural mothers are honest and don't have as many twists and turns as those professional nannies. Second, she was idle, had no skills, wanted to earn money and could only go to work as a waiter or something, got up early and was greedy, too tired. Coming to me as a babysitter will be relatively easy and earn more than being a waiter.
I am a sincere person, there are not so many miscellaneous ideas, she just needs to be responsible for my three meals a day, do the housework at home, and take care of my life.
For the food aspect, I don't have so many requirements, just cook normally. When things are done at home, she can also do her own thing, or take a break, take a nap, look at the phone or something.
Fortunately, the nanny I was looking for was also very serious, she was very diligent in her work, and her home was cleaned up by her. She also took good care of me.
Will often advise me to bask in the sun, do not always nest at home, but also let me not always blow air conditioning, help me to adjust the temperature up, adjust to dehumidification. When there is sun, she will also take the initiative to help me take the quilt, mattress, to the sun to dry...
I felt particularly warm, she could think of some things that the elderly needed to pay attention to in front of me, and would remind me to pay more attention to keep warm.
To be honest, because of her care, my old age was very comfortable and comfortable.
I don't want to take good care like I do in a nursing home, and I have to spend money on what I want to eat, and I don't have to live with the face of a caregiver.
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Ask the nanny to retire in your own home, for the requirements of my life together, such as preparing some water for me in the room every day, so that I can drink thirst at night; if I want to eat something one day, I can directly let the nanny buy it; I feel lonely, and I can also chat with the nanny.
If it is in the children's home, nursing home, the life is not so comfortable, at least, I will not bother the children and daughters, and endure less requirements, suppress themselves.
My relationship with my children is good and intimate, and I am even more embarrassed to ask for it, afraid that they will trouble me and that they will be in a bad mood.
To the nanny, it doesn't matter, I spend money on her contribution, this is the equivalent exchange, her job is to take care of me, I am not embarrassed.
However, in order to thank the nanny for her careful care, I still secretly told my children that if I left one day, they should remember the nanny's goodness, give the nanny some hard work, and have a good opportunity to help introduce it.
I don't like to owe someone else, and if someone treats me well, I will find a way to return it. Even if I am as close as a child, I am not willing to owe each other, only if I do not owe each other, I have the courage to put forward my own opinions and have the right to speak.
Only by respecting each other can we live a comfortable life. You see, I know very well that feelings between people need you to come and go, and none of them can come out of thin air.
For the nanny, I respect her and don't treat her as a person, so we get along happily, and she will sincerely and hard take care of my life.
For my children, I have done a good job of respecting them, treating them equally, and not causing them trouble, so they are filial to me, I have a happy old age, my children are filial piety, life is satisfactory, and everyone envies me.
Write at the end
In old age, people want to live happily, they must be clear in life, do not be self-righteous, and be equal to their children and understand each other. Things that can be solved with money, resolutely do not bother the children, this will not only make the children more intimate, but also their old age will be happier.
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