The scientific methodology that keeps men excited about you

In a relationship between the sexes, sometimes you will find that every man has a type of preference, and even a man will like different types,

So as a girl, you have questions, is it necessary to customize your own type according to the needs of each man?

If you really do this, it is really too tired, is there a universal law that makes you invincible in the attention of both sexes, and become a charm in the eyes of men?

Gender relations are different from other utilitarian relationships, and their most basic motivation comes from mutual attraction.

It is the kind of state that wants the other person in particular, or even desires the other person, and not just needs the other person.

The most important attraction is actually sexual attraction, and when it comes to sexual attraction, the first thing you may be very concerned about is how to assess your attraction to a person?

A person's attractiveness score can be divided into two factors, the higher the score, the greater the attractiveness.

The first factor is the initial score, which is the feeling of the initial impression before there is no interaction.

The second factor, interaction scores, through the interaction of two people, will change the attractiveness of both parties to each other.

Let's start by analyzing the initial score.

Here it is explained that the human sexual psychology is actually quite complex, and what I am talking about here is only a universal phenomenon, and each individual may have its own uniqueness.

In addition, since the perception of sexual attraction between men and women is very different, we also need to discuss it separately.

Usually, in the initial stages, if a man can attract more women, he will often have at least one of the following factors: wealth, power, fame, appearance, specificity, specific personality.

Specific personalities include self-confidence, humor, intelligence, aggressiveness, professionalism, enthusiasm, challenge, and intelligence.

Have you ever found that these personalities are basically leadership personalities, why do women like these types of men?

Evolutionary psychology believes that because of the long-term evolutionary perspective of human beings, women need to raise children, while men have a large number of sperm, and women have one egg per month.

From the perspective of survival, in the end, women's mate selection psychology is biased towards finding a nurturer.

In ancient times, those who possessed these qualities were often leaders, just like the leaders of the biota, who had more nurturing resources.

Therefore, the instinct of women to choose a mate tends to look for leaders, such as men who are strong, confident, and in a leading position in social relations.

And then, in turn, what kind of women are men usually attracted to in the initial stages?

On the whole, men's feelings for women, appearance factors still have a great impact.

The appearance characteristics of women who are generally easy to attract men are white and beautiful, chest and waist, long hips and thighs, and the personality characteristics are gentle and virtuous, sensible and understanding of themselves.

Evolutionary psychology believes that males focus on reproducing offspring in mate selection, and the mate selection instincts they have developed in the long run help screen out females who can reproduce and raise high-quality offspring.

For example, a large chest means strong breastfeeding ability, and a correct facial feature means that there is no problem, etc., which is to form a biological instinct in this direction.

Speaking of which, you may wonder, is there no way for women to like and obsess without the above biological qualities?

In fact, the higher the level of a person, the lower the weight of biological instinct in his decision-making.

It's like a first-rate politician who has emotions, but is not likely to impulsively make decisions because of emotions.

In turn, people at the bottom are often dominated by emotions, so it is easy to be controlled by others like animals.

Therefore, if a person's evolutionary psychology is used as a mate selection criterion, it often attracts people with serious biological instincts, and such a person will be at a relatively low level in society.

For example, if a woman develops herself in the direction of mating and fertility tools, she will also attract men who care about these.

So next, let's talk about the second factor in the attraction score of men and women, that is, the interaction score, through the interaction of two people, it will also change the attractiveness of both parties.

The general factors of sexual attractiveness that we have just talked about, especially appearance, or observable external factors, tend to have a large influence on the initial score.

However, once the two parties begin to contact, the score of the interaction becomes a core element of sexual attraction.

Therefore, some beautiful girls, at the beginning of no contact, or initial contact, will have a relatively large attraction to men, but continue, but it is easy to lose interest in contact.

In addition to the obvious flaws, such as serious personality problems, the core problem is the lack of interaction, which leads to a sharp decline in attractiveness.

Conversely, there are some initial scores that are not as attractive, such as appearance, but they are highly interactive and can eventually create a strong attraction.

So how do you create a strong attraction in the middle of interaction? In fact, there is a basic condition for the interaction attraction between the sexes, that is, to accept oneself and others.

That is, you can be yourself with joy, and you can flirt with your lover appropriately, tolerate each other, and get along happily.

This attraction will last longer, and it will eventually overcome the attraction of the initial score that is only a superficial appearance.

So at the end of the day, the premise of your desire to have a good relationship is first to confirm and recognize yourself, and then to confirm the state of interaction with another person.

So next, I'll give you three specific interaction techniques to enhance attraction.

The first attraction interaction technique is to attack implicitly, what is implicit attack?

Such as smiling at him explicitly, looking at him quickly, looking directly at him and stroking his hair, staring at him for a long time, watching him turn his head, then looking at him again, accidentally bumping into him, nodding at him, pointing to a chair, inviting him to sit, tilting his head and stroking his bare neck.

These implicit attacks can often bring good results, do not have to fear that men will feel that you are too active, you do not have to take the initiative to have a dialogue with men, using these non-verbal temptation signals, in fact, you can also achieve the goal.

The second attraction interaction technique, using the threshold effect and the principle of commitment consistency, completely captured him.

What is the threshold effect? That is, if you have any big requests, first make a relatively small and easy to fulfill request.

And what is the principle of commitment consistency? That is, when you promise a thing, your subsequent behavior will consciously or unconsciously be consistent with the thing promised.

For example, let's take a look at the combination of these two.

If you like a guy, you'd say to him: Can you help me take off my clothes? This is very easy to achieve, right? In general, boys are actually less likely to refuse. He would say: Yes, no problem.

And then on this basis, the so-called threshold is that you increase the difficulty of raising the request, for example, you go to the boy and say: Then can you send me home? I can't call a car.

At this time, because of such a foreshadowing before, he usually does not reject you, coupled with the principle of commitment consistency, sometimes even if it may not go well, it will be difficult for him to reject you.

With these small tricks, you can slowly take your emotions a step further, and then use this technique to slowly make your own and his close demands.

The third attraction technique is to soften his heart.

When talking to boys, you actually just need to remember one word. It is "softening", the English is "soften", the secret is the abbreviation of the first letter of this word, follow this secret, you can better grasp a man's heart.

First of all, the "s" stands for smile, which is a smile, and when you listen to the person you want to talk to, you must first keep smiling.

The second "o" stands for open, open body, that is, the body you have to turn completely to each other, nose to nose, belly to belly, arms to maintain a relaxed, friendly and hospitable posture.

"f" represents the forward leaning of the body, that is, forward, that is, tilting the body towards your crush, and when standing or sitting, move the body slightly toward the person you want, indicating that you have been attracted to the other person.

The "t" stands for touch, or touch, and gently or even accidentally touching the person's arm, or removing a thread from his clothes, helps him accept the affection you convey to him.

The "e" stands for eye contact, or eye contact, maintaining eye contact with his slightly longer. So what does it mean to be slightly longer?

Generally we have eye contact with a person, the eye-to-eye time is about 2-3 seconds, when you have another picture of a person, you can actually extend this time.

For example, if you stare at him for more than 5 seconds, or even longer, it may make him feel how you feel about him, which is not the same.

The last "n" stands for the nod, or nod, and you should nod lightly in response to whatever he says.

Isn't this softening technique, the "soften" principle, easy to remember?

No matter how much you talk about, you still need to practice and act bravely.

You can try it a little bit, sometimes when you take the first step, give him the first smile, the first long gaze at him, maybe that kind of atmosphere that you haven't felt and seen before.