People, perhaps, only at the end of their lives will find that their lives have spent a lot of time and energy on many unworthy things.
As the writer Dostoevsky wrote in "The Idiot" about the psychological description of the last minute of the death row prisoner: "If I am not sentenced to death, how good it would be!" I will definitely calculate every little bit of time and never waste a minute. ”
Except for death row inmates who are about to end the course of their lives, others can only realize the preciousness of time and energy when they are older.
A reminder from a person who came over, the more intelligent people, the more they know how to plan their time reasonably, not to be anxious and not discouraged, and the more incompetent people, the more they like to spend a lot of time on these three things.
1. Spend a lot of time making friends and networking
Want to survive in society, we can not do without the help of friends, because we are ordinary people, no special talent, no special background, only by relying on the help of other strong people, can we continue to move forward on the road of life, often heard people say "at home rely on parents, go out to rely on friends", this is the truth.
Although making friends is important, but more important is how to manage the circle, many people think that "one more friend has one more way out", at first glance it sounds harmless, but in fact it is not practical.
Even if you have made more friends, but sincerely treat each other only one or two confidants, everyone has their own lives, with different dreams, often the more friends around the people, the less likely to succeed.
Confidants are difficult to make friends, but wine and meat friends are very good to make, people's hearts can not see through, so the management circle is particularly troublesome, ostensibly with you to call brothers and brothers friends, may just take you as a guest of the fool.
Too many friends, on the contrary, will lead to the disorganization of the information received, we can find a characteristic from those who are more successful, that is, their circle of friends, although not wide, is very exquisite, which makes them do not need to spend more time to deal with meaningless liquor, nor do they need to spend more energy to perfunctory social networking.
To make friends, you should make like-minded friends, and the more incompetent people are, the more eager they are to get the weight of others.
The praise of others can confuse them and make them confused, unable to recognize their own status, although friendship should be based on sincerity, but to take interests as the starting point, only two people have the same direction, will have a common goal, will choose the same path in the future.
2. Like to brag, good face, create a perfect image
Someone once said a sentence that benefited me a lot:
"When you put down your face to make money, it means that you have understood things; when you use money to earn back face, it means that you have succeeded; when you can make money with face, it means that you are already a character; and when you have been staying there drinking, bragging, sleeping lazily, not understanding anything and pretending to understand, only loving the so-called face, it means that you have been like this in your life." 」
The words are not rough, the life of ordinary people, there is no family background of famous people, there is no blockbuster intelligence, we have only dignity and courage.
Dignity gives us the bottom line of stress, and courage gives us the motivation to move forward fearlessly, people in this life are like driving a boat across the river, there are too many burdens on their bodies, and they will sink to the bottom without wind and waves.
Good-looking people, their personality has two characteristics, one is easy to inferiority, the other is easy to be arrogant, these two words mixed together is actually not in conflict.
Some people are good at bragging and like to show off, but it is only because they cannot be independent and need the approval of others to feel the value of themselves, which is the so-called "good and great achievement".
People who care about face are actually very fragile inside, especially afraid of being denied by the outside world, afraid of admitting their failures, look at those who are successful, they have a clear goal before success, and they are not afraid of how outsiders evaluate themselves.
Before Ma Yun created the e-commerce platform, he only led a team of several people to live in the basement of Beijing, and worked hard for a joke dream in the eyes of others, and these inconspicuous insistences are the shining points of human nature.
Therefore, the more difficult the moment, the more we must recognize our own shortcomings, refuse to accept the facts because of face, and can only stand in the same place for a lifetime.
3. Thinking wildly but being unable to act, thinking too much, doing too little
Always undecided to do something, always afraid that the ending will be unexpected, so pay more attention to the process, hope that everything is perfect, all the way to the wind.
Of course, this is the common sentiment of people, no one will not be afraid of failure, no one will not be afraid of the unknown, people are born with fear genes in their bones, so they always like fantasy, at least they can get a little psychological satisfaction. A few scoff at this, but many more can't stop.
There was once a rich man who planned to go out to play and needed to climb over a big mountain, he carefully prepared for half a month, but on the day of his departure, he suddenly heard someone say that it was raining on the other side of the mountain, so he decided to wait until tomorrow to start the journey.
The next day, the rich man put on his luggage and prepared to leave, but he heard that because of the collapse of the mountain road in the rain yesterday, he had to go through the forest to get to the other side of the mountain, which not only had to work hard but also took twice as long, so the rich man was ready to wait a little longer, and this wait was half a month.
Half a month later, the more the rich man thought about it, the more he felt that this journey was too much of an accident, and he should make more preparations to catch up with the original plan, thinking of the collapse of the mountain road, he decided to buy a carriage, afraid of going through the forest, and hired a tour guide... Gradually, half a year passed, the rich man's luggage filled half of the living room, and he did not know how to choose when he was close to traveling, so he simply gave up his travel plan.
Just at this time, the rich man met a farmer who was farming outside his home, so he asked him what the situation was on the other side of the mountain, but he did not expect the farmer to reply: "During this time, the wind and sun are beautiful, the road is smooth, the scenery on the other side of the mountain is beautiful, and the air is fresh." ”
The peasant did not prepare too much luggage, carrying only a worn-out package on his shoulder, which contained a little silver and clothes, so the rich man asked curiously again: "You carry this little luggage, are you not afraid of accidents on the road?" ”
Who knew that the peasant laughed when he heard it: "Of course, I don't have the ability to prepare so thoughtfully like Sir, naturally I won't think so much like Mr. You, and I can only talk about problems." ”
There is no absolutely perfect thing, and the road of life is full of unexpected unknowns and accidents.
Plans can be made for granted, but not for granted, and most people cannot have the wealth of the rich, but they can have the courage and calmness of the peasants.
When you don't know what you want to do next, don't think too much, try to do the current things well, step on your own footsteps, and one day know how to step out next.