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Everyone wants to live more and more smoothly, no matter at any time, say "all things are victorious" and the mood will be happy.
However, man cannot live in wishes, but in reality. If you want to be "smooth", you must clarify the direction, distinguish the priorities, and do not toss blindly.
The writer Mai Jia wrote in "Striving toward Talent": "Diligence can make up for clumsiness, what is the use of clumsiness? Stubbornly making up for it is equal to going in the opposite direction, equal to which pot does not open which pot, is equivalent to finding talent and going against the grain, is equivalent to murdering yourself. ”
As a person, you should have self-awareness, be clear about what kind of material you are, what uses it, and where the limits are. Wood can be made into boats and furniture, but not airplanes; boats made of paper can be viewed, but not soaked in water.
There is a peasant singer Ma Guangfu, who can sing and peel corn, and he has walked all the way to the Spring Festival Gala stage.
Later, he was invited to "Art Life" hosted by Zhu Jun. He said calmly: "After doing this program, I have to go home and farm immediately." I am a farmer, and I am still a farmer when I sing the Spring Festival Gala, and I can't influence farming, because the land is my root. ”
Wherever you go, don't forget the way you came, because if you can't do it, you'll lose yourself. Farming and singing can complement each other. Standing in the vegetable garden and singing to the corn, this is true happiness.
Many people like to complain and blame others at every turn. In fact, they don't know themselves at all.
When a person's things are not going well, most of them are reversing their lives, which is the soberness we should have.
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The heart is not smooth, and the artificial blockage is added.
Life is happy, but we are upset. Why? Because I can't think straight, I can't see through. If you think wildly, it is easy to lead to a mental breakdown.
There was an old lady who had two daughters—the eldest daughter married a cloth shoe seller, and the younger daughter married an umbrella seller.
Since the marriage of her two daughters, the old lady has been worried every day. A well-meaning person asked her, "Why aren't you happy?" ”
The old lady said: "It is raining, and I am worried that the cloth shoes of the eldest daughter's family will not sell well; when the weather is good, I am worried about the umbrella of the younger daughter's family." ”
The well-meaning man smiled and said, "Old lady, you are wrong. It was raining, and the younger daughter made a lot of money; when it was sunny, the eldest daughter sold a lot of shoes. Whether it is sunny or rainy, the harvest is full and happy. ”
In a word, let the old lady be enlightened.
It is often the blessing that the mind comes true. However, in real life, it can't be like this, and it is often "the roof leaks in the overnight rain", which is really unlucky and can't figure it out.
If you know how to "think backwards" when you're worried, it's different. For example, if you lose money, it is "breaking the wealth and eliminating the disaster"; taking the wrong road, it is encountering a different scenery; loving the wrong person is a special fate.
In the Four Precepts of The Great Fan, it is written: "All blessings are not far from the square inch; seeking from the heart, feeling all the same." ”
Idle, put the mood smooth, you will be happy every day.
03
The foot is not smooth, this road is not passable.
We often walk into dead ends, or from good places to ugly places.
Some people like to "die". Even if the direction is wrong, it is still insisting, thinking that "the more self-disciplined, the more successful."
Zhuangzi once told a story: a big turtle from the sea came to a well.
The frog in the well said, "I am very happy, a man has a pool of water, and swimming is also free." Rest at any time and have no quarrel with the world. ”
The big turtle thought, "Good," and stuck his foot into the well. But it had just put its front foot in and immediately retreated. Because the wellhead is too small, the shell of the turtle is too large.
There's a mindset called "Put your own feet in someone else's shoes." ”
It seems that you are taking advantage of someone else's shoes. If you think about it, you will find that other people's shoes are not comfortable at all, even if they are made of gold.
Whether a pair of shoes fits or not, only you know; a road, whether it is suitable, only you can grasp it. As the saying goes, the Tao is different and does not conspire with each other.
This road is not passable, you change a road, turn a few more turns, there is a surprise of "willow dark flowers and bright village".
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It is better to be silent than to speak smoothly.
In the Analects of zilu, it is written: "If the name is not right, the words are not smooth; if the words are not smooth, things will not be accomplished." ”
Many things, can not be said, prove that things are unreasonable, the reason is also a perversion.
For example, in the workplace, an employee gives a signal to a group of commanders, and it is estimated that no one will listen to him; a boss proposes countermeasures, and many people will do it immediately.
You don't even know your place, just talk about it, obviously nonsense. Even if your words are very insightful, no one echoes them.
When a person's words are becoming more and more useless, they should remain silent, speak with achievements, and speak with facts.
As the saying goes, "The mouth is the axe that hurts." ”
Talking too much will cause quarrels with people, say wrong, will bring trouble to themselves, and overstatement is bragging. Needless to say, no one treats you as a mute, but as a wise man.
According to their own level, the environment of life, etc., if you say appropriate words, your words will be warm and you will be recognized.
05
The hand is not smooth, the force is not refined.
Once, I went to a friend's hometown to buy chickens.
The chickens are all in the orchard, bouncing around alive. I put a lot of effort into not catching a chicken.
Every once in a while, the classmate's mother poured a bowl of rice on the ground, and the chickens were all burying their heads and pecking. She grabbed a big hen and said, "You city people are not used to raising chickens." ”
There is a saying in the countryside: "Habit becomes nature." ”
If we are not used to a certain job, a certain environment, then you rush to start doing things, and it is most likely difficult to succeed. The lifestyle of catching ducks on the shelves is not advisable. Unfortunately, many people like "crash courses" and do not like "step by step".
When you feel uncomfortable, you either give up or practice a few more times, and after a while, you will be ready to catch it.
Holding a rice bowl in the left hand and chopsticks in the right hand is the habit of most people; there are very few people who can come in reverse. If you have to do it the other way around, you have to do that.
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Life, if you want to be fast, you can't reach it. Take your time, as long as the direction is right, it will be faster.
When you were a child, your parents forced you to become a prodigy, before you were born, you began prenatal education, and you had to endorse it at the age of three; after you became an adult, you wanted to earn tens of thousands of dollars a month, poor work was not looking, I hope to find an object that meets all my requirements, and the result is not high or low, nothing.
In fact, what is really not going well is not the days, but your thinking mode, which is the direction of your life.
Turn a corner, turn around, start again, although one step too late, but there is still the possibility of a big instrument being late; if you rush forward with a hard scalp, you can only go to the "depth of the water".
If it backfires, there must be another arrangement; all losses will come back in another form.
Understand that the world is good and the bad is yourself.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.