There are still half a month to go to the New Year, presumably some people have begun to worry about the New Year, especially young friends, do not like the so-called "sophistication", there is no interest in visiting relatives and friends. Although a generation has the concept of a generation, there is nothing wrong with it, but then again, the New Year's visit to the door is a traditional custom after all, and the New Year is full of joy, people are more tolerant than usual, this is also the best time to improve relations, so the New Year "cumbersome" is not necessarily all bad.
If you want to improve your relationship with people, meeting parents is a necessary link, and the effect is by no means comparable to making a phone call or sending a WeChat. And to visit, gifts must not be less, but what gifts can be brought is a bald problem. The gift is appropriate, the other party is satisfied, and the relationship between the two sides is getting thousands of miles a day; if the gift is improper, the other party is disappointed, and the relationship between the two sides is declining day by day.
China pays attention to the "famous teacher" and "no merit is not lu", and this is especially true of gift-giving. There is no reason to give gifts, the other party will not easily receive, and it may be uneasy to receive them, and this gift will be awkward. Everyone knows that there is nothing to climb the Three Treasures Hall, and gifts are purposeful, but we also pay attention to "tacit understanding", a good reason to give gifts, everyone is comfortable. New Year's celebration, this is the best excuse for gift-giving, there is no need to rack your brains, painstakingly think of a word, directly mention the gift to the door OK.
However, China also has the saying that "eating people's mouths is short, taking people's hands is short", if the other party accepts your gift, it is common sense to take care of you. However, if the gift is too heavy, the other party may produce pressure, if the other party is still a person who wants face to accept the gift, it may be done in the future to return the gift to do something beyond their own ability, it is likely to cause disaster; if the other party feels that the gift is too expensive to insist on not receiving, then the purpose of improving the relationship cannot be achieved, and even the relationship between the two sides will be affected in reverse. Another point is that gifts are too expensive, and they may also constitute bribes, and if they are not good, they will also cause trouble. Therefore, do not think that the more expensive the better, the appropriate is more important.
Speaking of appropriateness, it is not only the price that is right, you can afford to buy it, the other party can also afford it, and you must also pay attention to the right amount, the right preference, and the right identity.
Everyone wants to have an important place in the hearts of others, and the same is true of receiving gifts. Therefore, the gift should make the other party feel that it occupies an important position in your heart, highlighting the importance and particularity. For example, I brought it to you from somewhere; it took me a lot of effort to get it; I know you lacked something, sent it to a friend who asked for it. Regardless of the value of the gift, it will make the other party feel that his status in your heart has increased a lot, just as the so-called "courtesy is light and affectionate", the price is not enough, and the affection is to make up.
Since it is a gift, you cannot act according to your own feelings, your preferences are not important, the important thing is to make the other party feel good, that is, to do what they like. This may require some careful thinking, usually pay more attention to each other's preferences, you can also learn from other people, find each other's preferences in order to take targeted actions. Otherwise, the gift sent out is not interested in the other party, no matter how valuable the gift is, it will not attract the attention of the other party, which is not good to achieve the purpose of improving the relationship, if the gift sent is just the other party's evil, it is inevitable to counterproductively, and it is more than worth the loss.
The identity is appropriate, that is, the gift sent should match the identity of the other party, otherwise the other party will not be able to use it, and there is not much difference between it and not sending it. For example, if the other party is in business, and you send the other party a promotion seal, the family can only press the bottom of the box.
For parents and elders, peace and health are the greatest blessings. Elderly people generally no longer want to be rich and noble, as long as they can be quiet for a good time, no disease and no disaster, that is the most gratifying thing. Therefore, gifts to the elders are generally based on mascots that protect the body and ensure peace, such as jinfu peace fruit, peace and health charms, and unicorn beasts, which are very good choices, to protect the elders' health and health, peace and happiness.
For friends, generally are the same generation, internally everyone hopes that the relationship between each other is stable and harmonious, externally they all hope to eat and wear without worry, especially in the past two years, prices have soared, and more people want to make a fortune, so it is appropriate to send gifts to friends to promote the type of wealth. For example, cornucopia, gold yuanbao, fortune cat, etc., golden sparkle, the source of wealth rolls in!
Many people will also give gifts to leaders, but leaders basically have no shortage of anything, so it is a bit difficult to choose gifts. Gifts are too tacky for the leader to look at, gifts are too expensive and important to bear themselves, or may make the leader misunderstand, thinking that you are showing off your wealth, so that the leader left a bad idea. This requires the selection of some gifts with good meaning and new ideas, such as calligraphy and paintings with the atmosphere of official and noble, such as the strong energy mascot of the combination of the beast and the official seal like the dragon seal, and the exquisite jade such as the psychic Baoyu, which is a very good choice to make the leader's career prosperous!
Gifts to children are also common, most people will buy toys, but also buy learning aids, books, but this is a bit cheesy hardcore. Sending toys is certainly pleasing to children, but when you are tired of playing, you will press the bottom of the box, and parents may not appreciate it; books and learning tools are the natural enemies of children, parents may be happy to send these things, but children will hate you. And if you send some gifts that can be placed for a long time and can guide children's interest, it is likely to have a different effect, such as some interesting musical instruments, harmonica, flute, electronic organ, etc., and then such as Wenchang Pagoda, poetry scrolls, Fish Leaping Dragon Gate ornaments, etc., which can stimulate children's interest in art and traditional culture to a certain extent, and can also increase the child's Wenchang luck, killing two birds with one stone.
Finally, there is the gift for those who accompany you for life. As the saying goes, "home and everything is happy", when a family husband and wife are happy and harmonious, the aura of the whole family is more harmonious, and wealth and blessings will flow at home, and family luck will naturally prosper. Therefore, when giving gifts to their partners, everyone should choose to promote the harmony of husband and wife feelings, guard the gifts of a happy marriage, and let the family prosper!
The above is all the content of this issue, I wish everyone can choose the gift of their choice, and send it perfectly at the New Year, so that the relationship between the other party and you is getting better and better! Welcome to leave a message, we will meet again in the next issue!
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