Text/Wei Chen
When I was surfing the web page, I accidentally saw a clip of a life mediation program, a girl who looked very emotionally unstable, crying and laughing to answer the questions raised by the mediator.
After a brief understanding of the specific situation, I found that the truth behind some things is not as simple as it appears on the surface.
The girl said that she rarely left the school and went to Beijing alone. Almost all the hard-earned money over the years has been given to his brother by his father.
Under the mediator's questioning, the girl said that her father had successively taken more than 200,000 yuan from him, and each time he opened his mouth, it was thirty or fifty thousand, neither borrowing nor wanting, that is, the kind of unclear emergency.
When it comes to how to earn these hundreds of thousands, she showed a bitter smile on her face, did e-commerce after school, got up at four or five o'clock every morning to get goods, and finished work at eleven or twelve o'clock at night.
I thought that this kind of thing was caused by the family's preference for sons and daughters, after all, there are still many people in life who insist on relying on their sons for the elderly, and although this kind of thinking is somewhat inappropriate, it is barely normal.
It's just that this family's approach is really incomprehensible, because the parents of this family do not have only one pair of children.
The girl also had a younger sister, but the father never asked the other daughter for money. The sister said that her father only asked himself to take one or two thousand at most, and he never thought that he would ask his sister for so much.
Immediately after that, the girl's mother said that she never knew that her husband asked her eldest daughter to "borrow" money. Her father and brother were not only not grateful to her, but they were still reluctant to admit the cumulative efforts of hundreds of thousands.
Such a chilling thing happened to her, she did not cry, but her face was full of strange smiles, and the expression of emotions that was extremely inconsistent with her heart made people really heartache.
No one can understand why the same child in this family is not only not treated fairly, but also has to hold a ho ho.
Regarding the complexity of human nature, everyone finds it difficult to understand, but in fact, although the appearance of some behaviors does not make sense from the reason, its starting point is very simple, that is probably to see that you are not pleasing to the eye.
We have to admit that there are many things in this world that are simply unreasonable, let alone fair. All we can do is make ourselves realistic and do everything according to our ability.
As the old saying goes, a small amount of power is a burden, and words are not easy to persuade people.
Everyone's abilities are limited, and if you are a mud bodhisattva, on the banks of a rough river, don't think about going to Pudu sentient beings again.
Anyone who is ready to go to the rescue after someone else has fallen into the water must first ensure that he can swim, otherwise the result of going into the water will only add to the chaos.
When you reach a certain age, you must learn to refuse, learn to be cold, take care of yourself first and then care for others. To do what you can is not to be indifferent and unkind, it is to be mature, intelligent and awakened.
The highest state of parenthood is to be the guardian of their children, not the manipulator. You know, the real bowl of water is flat, not to tear down the east wall to make up for the adjustment of the external force of the west wall, but to do our best to make the children's pay and return equal.
Mr. Yang Dai once wrote in "Walking on the Edge of Life": "In this materialistic world, life is really bitter enough. You are determined to be an honest person who has no quarrel with the world, and people will use you to bully you.
If you have a little talent and moral character, people will be jealous of you and exclude you. If you give in generously, people will invade you and harm you. If you don't have to fight with others, you have to have nothing to ask for from the world, and at the same time you have to maintain your strength and prepare for struggle. ”
Real life is like this, not all people know how to reciprocate, your generosity may not necessarily reap the rewards, and even for some people, the more generous and open-minded you are, the more unscrupulous you are for convenience.
Be realistic, don't have too many expectations for others, expect too much, and inevitably encounter disappointment and despair.
Life is actually very short, we have unconsciously completed childhood, farewell to youth, people to middle age.
Probably for everyone, the most difficult time in this life is to reach middle age, but middle age is the longest period of time in a lifetime.
Many things have not yet had time to figure out the original situation, and they are already deeply involved in it. What life is really like, and how to live, it is really not something that others can say clearly in one or two sentences.
The rest of our lives are very expensive, we don't have to live for others, we must know how to love ourselves.
Whether it is affectionate or blood, people can only spare the strength to love others if they love themselves first.
For the rest of your life, please put away your generosity, you must understand that not all people in this world are worthy of your kindness.
Content source public number: Wei Chen [ID: weichenip]
About author: Wei Chen, freelance writer. He loves literature and has a certain understanding of poetry and literary works.
I hope that through words to bring you spiritual relaxation, may your life be more beautiful after encountering my words.