01
The poem says: "When you close the door of artemisia, you don't hear about daytime affairs." ”
As soon as the door is closed, the day's events are over; as soon as the eyes are closed, the things of a lifetime are over.
Think about it, there are so many times in life, more times when you are angry, and less time to enjoy happiness; there is no end to worry, and happiness has no place to stay.
The ancients invented a word for "anger", which in appearance is "slave" and "heart". The heart of the angry person is a slave.
Correspondingly, there is also a word "forgiveness", which is taken apart, that is, "as" and "heart". Those who are not angry live a satisfactory life.
Don't get angry, ask yourself how many more years you can live. "To spare others and to spare others" is to live one's own life.
02
Anger is self-made cleverness, or a joke in the eyes of others.
The Ming Dynasty literary scholar Feng Menglong wrote a story of "Wang Anshi Three Difficulties Su Bachelor".
Su Dongpo official Bai Hanlin bachelor, export into a chapter, admirable.
One day, Su Dongpo went to visit Wang Anshi, the prime minister, and wrote down a line by hand: "Autumn flowers are no better than spring flowers, say and the poet carefully chant." It means to criticize Wang Anshi, too confused, do not know the autumn chrysanthemums, will not fly in the wind, can not be compared with the spring peach blossoms, cherry blossoms.
Wang Anshi took out the poem manuscript and looked at it, feeling that Su Dongpo was proud of himself and demoting him to Huangzhou.
On the day he got the transfer order, Su Dongpo was very angry--he knew in his heart that Wang Anshi had committed a crime for changing his poem and had declared a personal vendetta.
Autumn came, Su Dongpo walked into the courtyard and found that the chrysanthemums in Huangzhou were flying in the wind, and his face was red.
You think you're amazing, but you don't know, in the dark, there are a lot of people watching you laugh. You are angry, but the onlooker knows it, but does not bother to tell you.
People who are stronger than you will take the opportunity to crush you, and people who are weaker than you will avoid you. When you see through the real situation, you can also repent, but the consequences of anger are difficult to make up.
The saddest thing is that some people, going in the wrong direction, go farther and farther, and the pleasure of "waiting and seeing" is given to others.
03
Angry, is it to add fuel to the fire, or to clean up the mess yourself.
Maybe you, like me, have had the experience of messing up your job, but you're not convinced inside and you have to defend yourself. After being criticized, he casually slapped the computer keyboard and threw away the phone casually. As a result, I broke my own thing.
Everyone has to pay for their mistakes. If you don't want to, you'll be wrong again and again.
In the thirty-fourth volume of the Awakening of the Everlasting Word, there is a man named Qiu Yida, who lives in Jingdezhen and makes a living from kilns.
One day, after finishing his work, he returned home and heard his neighbor Sun Da Niang swearing and grinning. It turned out that his son and Sun Daniang's son had made a bet and lost a penny, and his wife Yang Shi was angry and asked for the money back.
Sun Da Niang took out the posture of a shrew scolding the street, saying that the Yang family had betrayed the family and lacked morality.
There is a saying that goes: "We always give bad faces to our families and good faces to outsiders." ”
Qiu Yida was partial to listening, believing that Sun Da Niang was right. So, the wife was driven away. After that, he became a "loner" and got into a lawsuit because he lost his wife.
A piece of money, say big is not big, say small can be small. But there are always people who have to pay a huge price for this.
In ordinary life, we do not lack a dime, but we will be indignant because others have given ourselves less dime, and even scold others because of this.
Calm down, do the math, if you lose a hundred yuan, but you have to spend two hundred yuan to make up, then don't make up. Learn the routine of "making up for the dead sheep", and in the future days, you can start again.
04
Angry, it is nothing to find, and it also burrows into the tip of the bull's horn.
Ever seen a joke.
Someone asked the painter Picasso: "How can you not understand your paintings?" ”
Picasso thought for a moment and asked, "Does the thrush sound good?" ”
The person who asked the question said, "Sounds good. ”
Picasso asked, "Do you understand?" ”
Suddenly, the person who asked the question was dumbfounded.
Some rotten people and rotten things are not "one thing", but you are too real, so you have walked into a dead end and messed up the good days.
In real life, there are often such people: early in the morning, I found that it was raining, but I did not bring an umbrella, so I angrily accused the weather forecast of being inaccurate; driving out, I found that I turned into a dirt path, and scolded the navigation for being too bad... Anything is someone else's fault, but they never find a reason in themselves.
As the writer Liu Na said: "Emotion is a gun, when we pull the trigger of emotion, the muzzle of the gun is actually aimed at ourselves." ”
Tell anything, if you are wrong, don't read it; don't read it if you don't understand it, and don't bother to listen if you don't understand it. If you have to listen and see, then enjoy the process and don't care about the result.
As long as you are happy, you can see flowers in the fog, you can see the clouds in the wind, you can look at umbrellas in the rain, you can make tea in the snow... No matter how high the walls are, you can see the moon as soon as you look up.
Sometimes, learn the Picasso in jokes, I draw, I have fun, talk to entertain myself.
05
Learn not to get angry and you win.
There was a Zen master who, when he went out, asked the young disciple to help take care of the orchids.
The disciple was absent-minded and broke the orchid pot.
When the Zen master returned, the disciple bowed his head and waited for the fall. Unexpectedly, the Zen master smiled and said, "Raising flowers is originally to seek happiness, if I am angry, then what other flowers will I raise?" ”
And so on, and you will find that this man is alive, that is, he is looking for happiness, if not, then why is he still alive?
Finally, send you some wisdom not to get angry.
Before the car reaches the mountain, there is no road, open the car door to go for a walk, just exercise.
Others are angry, you are not angry, go farther to breathe, just read a joke.
Anything, if you're angry, think in the opposite direction.
Get angry for a day, lose a day; don't get angry, win a day.
For the rest of his life, he had no heart and no lungs, and he was not tired.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.