Author | Small come
Source | Good morning and evening (ID: zhulilaiye)
See someone ask, "What best reflects a person's level?" ”
Someone replied, "It depends on what happens to him." ”
It is true that there will be many things in life that cannot be taken lightly, but we will eventually have to face and solve them.
Those who are at a high level often know how to solve problems in various ways.
How do you become such a person?
I think that when encountering things, there are several high-level ways to deal with them, and I hope that we can all use them freely.
In case of trouble, you can stabilize
Are there any such people around you?
I accidentally bumped into someone while walking, and I immediately cursed and grinned in my mouth.
There is a slight friction at work, the face immediately sinks, and the speech is also yin and yang.
As soon as there is trouble in life, he blows his beard, stares at his eyes, and constantly spreads negative emotions.
A little thing can make him anxious to catch fire, and his mood is not stable at all.
I used to have a friend like that.
One year on National Day, we went out to travel together, but we didn't grab tickets and tickets, so we had to take the bus.
On the eleventh day, the highway was as expected, and it was blocked.
The original 3-hour drive took 6 hours.
Friend A has been restless: "How long will this be blocked?" ”
"I was going to play for three days, but the first day was wasted here."
Along the way, his complaints never stopped, which made several of our peers feel bad.
Suddenly, Friend B interjected:
"The most important thing to come out and play is to have fun, and since it is already like this, it is better to look at the surrounding scenery, how beautiful."
When the two people are compared, the level of handling the problem is high and the judgment is made.
There are many things in life that we can't control, and one of the best ways to solve problems is to stabilize yourself.
There is a saying that goes well: "Tarzan collapses in front of the front and the color does not change, and the elk is happy on the left and does not look at the moment." ”
Big things or small things, hold steady, and you win.
In case of trouble, it will be flexible
Two commonly heard sentences:
"Don't hit the south wall, don't look back."
"A road, go to the black."
This kind of persistence makes people admire, but sometimes it is too persistent and does not know how to be flexible, and it will also harm itself.
A few days ago, I watched the news of the death of a graduate student of Dalian University of Technology, and my heart was very heavy.
The child posted a suicide note on Weibo, which detailed his pain and struggle in the process of scientific research.
All this eventually crushed him.
At the end of the suicide note, he said that he hoped that his family and friends would go smoothly and the motherland would prosper.
What a gentle child, at the best age, with a brighter future than most, who died in this way.
In the final analysis, a person's life is a process of change.
Can't do scientific research, can't do business, can't do business, can't write articles...
There are many places in this world, and there is always one that belongs to you, provided that you have to change, you have to find.
I remember Lin Yutang once said: "It is better to give up wisely than to cling blindly." ”
This reminds me of a man, Jie Zhou.
Call him "Erkang", you must know who it is.
Zhou Jie is well known to the audience because he played Erkang in "Huan Zhu Gege", but it is a pity that he is short-lived.
Because the personality is too straight, the acting road once went to a dead end.
At that time, he was covered with negative labels, "forcibly kissing Lin Xinru", "angry security guards", "hit-and-run"...
In the face of rumors, he did not rush to explain, but gradually faded out of the show business circle to prove his innocence.
Unexpectedly, I ended the acting career of running a small half of my life, but I ushered in my own pastoral.
He returned to the countryside, contracting land and producing organic rice.
Immediately after, he founded a red wine brand and tinkered with art in his spare time.
Although it has disappeared from the public eye, it has become popular in its own field.
In just a few years, his value has doubled several times.
Just a few days ago, he suddenly sent a Weibo, talking about why he faded out of the show business circle.
He said: "I don't know how to face the jianghu, so I show my true face, and I have been ridiculed and despised a lot, but I accept it." ”
A few words, you can see his helplessness, but also a little calm.
To live is to constantly overthrow oneself, to rebuild oneself, to doubt oneself countless times, and to accept oneself.
If this road does not work, then change the road; if the road is not working, then turn a corner.
You know, people change, everything works.
When things happen, know how to let go
I have always liked a sentence: let go of a thought, everything is at ease.
Man wants to do things, things come, don't be afraid of things, and when things pass, they forget.
Carrying too much, it is inevitable that you will be burdened by some troubles.
Real estate tycoon Pan Shiyi once revealed a heart that had been buried for 34 years.
When he was a child, his uncle, who was a teacher at school, carried him to the podium and let 100 teachers and students watch, and he was even humiliated by some classmates.
After Pan Shiyi became an adult, although he soared to the top, he still had a grudge against his uncle.
He said: "I made a list of people I have always remembered in my heart, and the person who hurt me the most was my uncle. ”
The mother gave the useless wheelchair to her uncle, which made Pan Shiyi angry.
Until his uncle died, Pan Shiyi felt unhappy in his heart, and he felt that his brain often appeared uncontrollably in his uncle's shadow.
This incident made Pan Shiyi suddenly realize that it would not work like this.
How unworthy it is for a large living person to be tortured by someone who has already passed away.
Pan Shiyi, who had figured it out, burned the list of hatreds.
After doing this, he walked on Chang'an Avenue, feeling the sunshine and warmth, and the smiles of passers-by were bright.
He said: "That day, there was a feeling of recovery from a serious illness. ”
Yes, no matter what happens, the heart disease is cured, and everything is good.
There is a saying: "The day cannot be traced, but the next day can be expected." ”
When you understand that the old days are really gone, the days to come are still worth looking forward to.
In your eyes, whatever happens, it's not a thing.
The most horizontal way to deal with things is to stabilize emotions, know how to be flexible, and learn to let go.
People live a lifetime and will encounter a lot of troubles.
The way to solve everything may be different, but the only constant is to adjust your mindset.
At the end, you will find that the ability to handle things determines your lower limit, but the mentality of handling things determines your upper limit.
At the end of the day, mindset determines 80% of your life.
People with really high levels may not be only eight buckets high, nor are they necessarily unparalleled in the world, but they must be good at adjusting their mentality.
They understand that living in this complex world, only by constantly pruning the intricate branches of their hearts can they live simply and freely.
Click [watching], for the rest of your life, may you and I become such people.
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