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Source 丨Xiaolai Good Morning and Evening(ID:zhulilaiye)
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Our first impression of WeChat friends is often through avatars.
WeChat avatar is like a silent business card, simple and straightforward.
Through the avatar, although we cannot fully understand the person's life, we can more or less see his recent state.
Some people's avatars represent their mood at the moment; some people want to express their expectations for the future.
But there are always some people who don't change their heads all year round.
And those who do not like to change the WeChat avatar, usually these personalities, see if there are you?
Free and spontaneous
Some people don't like to change their avatars, they simply don't want to toss, as long as they look good, they won't be too calculating.
This kind of person is free and free, never asks for trouble, and has a true disposition flowing in his bones.
When I was working hard in Shenzhen, I encountered all kinds of difficulties, and I had no choice but to go back to my hometown to rest for a while.
It was also at that time that I got to know Mr. Zhang Lao.
The old man is an extremely open-minded person, just like the landscape map of his WeChat avatar, casual and indifferent.
However, his life was extremely bumpy.
When he was young, he worked at the construction site, but he did not step on a steady foot and broke his leg.
Later, he opened a breakfast shop in the city, and before he could think of a big fire, it all burned down.
I asked him if he had any hatred in his heart?
The old man smiled indifferently: "Man, you have to learn to look at it lightly." If you don't have one, don't think about it. ”
Up to now, several years have passed, the old man still has not changed his optimistic nature, and the landscape portrait has never changed.
There are not a few people like the old gentleman in life.
They are truly wise people who can calmly walk through the wind and rain, and can also drink a good cup of tea contentedly under the scorching sun.
Such a person, the spiritual world is richer than the average person, and interacting with him is like a spring breeze.
Nostalgic and affectionate
Time flies, and each of us has our own story.
Some people have warmed the years and always remembered them; some things have amazed the time and cannot be forgotten for a long time.
The host, Sabine, once shared a piece of his own heart.
At the time, his twin sons had just been born.
He burst into tears of joy and told his mother the good news at the first moment.
He said excitedly on WeChat: "Mom, your two little grandchildren were born!" ”
However, on the other end of WeChat, there was no reply.
It turned out that a few years ago, Sabine's mother had left him forever because of a cerebral hemorrhage.
But Sabine has never deleted his mother's WeChat, and his own avatar has never been changed.
I think for many people, the WeChat avatar is no longer an ordinary photo, but has been given a deep meaning that others cannot understand.
I don't change it because I don't want to change it.
For such people, once they put certain people in their hearts, they will not owe; once they really care about certain things, they must use their hearts.
With them, please bring your sincerity, because they expect thin water and long streams, not scattered.
Mature and calm
I once read a saying: "Only by maintaining extreme calm can we look at life objectively." ”
Deeply identified.
Many people feel that they are not mature enough when they recall their youth.
At that time, whenever he encountered a small thing, he was eager to tell the world and wanted to attract the attention of the people around him.
It is not until I have experienced more things that I understand that true maturity is actually the silent consumption of all emotions by myself.
When encountering things, we must solve the problem first, instead of frequently changing the avatar and sending dynamics, begging for the care of others.
In the life of adults, more is to open the road in the mountains and build bridges in the water; less is to dig up people's hearts and be irritable in case of things.
Those who do not change their avatars see through the essence of life.
Such a person never regards attracting others as the whole of life; still less does he regard pleasing others as the premise of communication.
They don't pin their hopes on anyone, they know that life is really hard, and the only way to survive is self-help.
As Sanmao writes in the book:
"If there is an afterlife to be a tree, half sprinkled with shade, half bathed in sunshine, very proud, never rely on never looking." 」
People who don't often change their avatars can be strong without relying on others, and they can grow without relying on others.
They have not been smoothed out by the years, but they have only improved their ability to be unfazed and become their own backers.
Single-minded and sincere
There is a kind of person who does not often change the WeChat avatar because of the special affection.
This kind of person will not play a slippery routine, identify a road, and will go down steadily.
It is enough to associate with them, with a sincere heart.
If you think about it, Yuanyuan and I have known each other for 5 years.
In the past 5 years, her WeChat avatar has never changed.
In that avatar, she held her daughter in her arms, and the two of them smiled sweetly.
Yuanyuan always said that she is a person who is very nostalgic, and anyone who has been around for a long time will have feelings.
What's more, this head is carefully selected by her for a long time, and she is reluctant to change it.
Only during the New Year's Festival, she will make some small changes to the avatar and add a little of her own small ideas.
At the beginning of the outbreak, she added masks to her daughter and herself on her avatar.
On National Day, she will also carefully add a bright national flag to her head.
Seeing that it was going to be the New Year, her head picture added a festive blessing word.
I have to say that Yuanyuan is indeed very careful and very affectionate.
With this kind of person, you may feel very flat at first, but after a long time, you will find:
Their temper is like old wine, and only those who know how to taste it can appreciate the beauty.
Once life goes, fate gathers and disperses.
We don't need to be too entangled in changing the WeChat avatar, after all, this is just a simple behavior.
You know, what is more important than the avatar is the temperature and attitude you have towards the world.
Author: Xiao Lai, Source: Xiao Lai Good Morning and Evening (ID: zhulilaiye), Xiao Lai to accompany you, go to bed early and get up early, become a better self. Reading has a way to publish articles with authorization.
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