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There is still less than a month to go before the Chinese New Year's Eve night in 2022, and when the year is over, everyone should open the "go relatives" mode. And when it comes to "going relatives", I am afraid that many people have to frown, there are many people, and the most annoying thing in this life should be to go to relatives.
Thinking of one of my cousins, she was. Every New Year's Festival, she never went out to visit relatives, even if the relatives chewed the root of their tongues behind her back, gossiped, accused her of not understanding things, and did not show up, she also recognized.
She once told me that every time she went to relatives, as soon as there were many people, she began to have headaches. When she was young, she couldn't do it, she was forced by her parents to go to relatives, forced to receive relatives at home, when she grew up, she came with her own nature, and relatives were willing to say whatever they wanted, and she wanted to make herself happy than to be accused.
I don't know how many people, like my cousin, are upset and headache-stricken when they leave their relatives. Are you like your cousin, choosing to be willful, or listening to your parents' opinions, going to your relatives and receiving relatives.
In fact, in my opinion, the vast majority of people who hate relatives coming to their homes and are unwilling to go to their relatives' homes are these three types of people.
01 Do not like social, do not like many people, do not like to socialize
Some people are naturally reluctant to socialize, do not want to gather in crowded places, and do not like to socialize. They resist not only psychologically, but also physically.
Just like my cousin, she not only psychologically can't accept a lot of people gossiping together, but also physically, once there are many people, she will have a headache and have to sleep until the next day.
Whether it is a relative coming to their own home or going to a relative's house, in fact, it is essentially a kind of socialization, a kind of socializing, in this kind of place where people gather, you must play a twelve-point spirit, pick up other people's words, or find a topic to talk to others.
Otherwise, among the relatives, you will become the target of everyone, others will think that you are lonely, or arrogant, and even people with hearts will say that you despise these relatives.
Under this pressure, people who are reluctant to socialize and socialize naturally hate interacting with relatives. They want to say it behind their backs, just let them say it, just don't put it in their hearts.
Of course, if it is a relative with a good relationship, when the new year is approaching, you can actually walk around, even if you hate to walk with relatives.
After all, if the relationship is better, it is not just an ordinary relative, but also a special feeling of intercourse.
02 People who love to be clean and have cleanliness
Except for my cousin, the person I have ever met who is most reluctant to go to relatives is probably Wu Xiao.
Wu Xiao is a "severe cleanliness" patient, walking on the street, others sneezing while walking, she must always take out alcohol to spray at herself, spray on the air, even if the effect is weak, but also spray a peace of mind.
Others go to her house, even if it is her mother, sister, she is also very careful, never let them touch their own quilt or pillow, the living room to sit on the sofa, but also have to be covered with a thin blanket in advance, wait for others to leave immediately throw the washing machine to disinfect, clean.
In so many years, I have not seen Wu Xiao go to the door once, walk through relatives once. Of course, she also had contacts with relatives. Because her cleanliness is very serious, she herself can not control herself, and she thinks of interacting with relatives, so she will buy a lot of gifts for each family every year, send them in advance, not only that, every New Year's Festival, she will also give others extra red envelopes, indicating that she does not want to go to other people's homes to visit relatives, and does not want relatives to come to their own home apologies.
Because he thought carefully in advance, relatives and friends also understood Wu Xiao. Everyone will not be bored with themselves, they have to go to Wu Xiao's house to visit, or invite Wu Xiao to their own home.
If you are a person like Wu Xiao, who does not want to go to relatives and does not want relatives to come to his home, you can try to take Wu Xiao's approach, not only not to offend people, but also to keep yourself from being troubled by relatives, killing two birds with one stone.
03 People with bad reputation and selfishness
People with bad reputations are unwilling to go to their relatives, nor do they want relatives to come to their homes.
Because of selfishness, they are reluctant to take things to see others, because they are afraid that the gifts returned by others will not be big enough, and they will suffer losses themselves.
Because of the bad reputation, they are reluctant to listen to their relatives chatting and talking, for fear of accidentally hearing relatives crowding with words to them.
I've met one like that. He was a distant cousin of mine, and because he was poor when he was young, he often stole other people's things, whether it was a neighbor's or a relative's, and whenever he had the opportunity, he would definitely steal it.
Over time, he stole into a habit, and his relatives and friends also understood his habit of stealing, and naturally, the reputation became worse and worse.
Whenever friends and family get together, they will intentionally or unintentionally talk about this topic, and he is naturally very unhappy, even if he has not stolen for a long time, he cannot change his impression in the hearts of others.
In his case, it is naturally well understood that he does not want to go to other people's homes to visit relatives, afraid that others will have small actions like anti-thieves to prevent him, so that he cannot get off the stage.
The reason why he does not want his relatives to come to his home is actually very understandable, because the reputation is not good, even if he wants to let relatives come to the house, the relatives will find reasons to shirk, and over time, he will also be interested, and he will no longer invite relatives to his home.
Of course, in addition to these three types of people, there are many people for various reasons, do not like to go to relatives, do not like to let relatives come to their homes, this is not a characteristic, but everyone's ideas are different, meet this type of person, do not need to be particularly regarded.
When most people are young, they are willing to be lively, especially in the New Year, to meet a few relatives and friends, to sing, walk, chat, joke, lively.
But when people reach middle age, most people change their mentality, like to be alone and quiet, drink tea, read books, take a nap when tired, or play with mobile phones, preferring to be leisurely at home rather than crowded in the crowd. There is nothing wrong with having such a thought, and it is understandable.
After all, most of the time people still have to be alone, in our life, the person who can accompany themselves for the longest time, in addition to their own lovers, only themselves are left.
People in this life say that the long is not long, said short is not short, since they are not willing to go to relatives, nor do they want relatives to come to their own homes, then follow their own hearts, do not force themselves, they live comfortably, is the most important, as for the rest, if you can coordinate your mood, willing to socialize, go, if you do not want, you can stay by yourself.
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