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I saw a topic on the Internet: How long does it take to forget your first love?
There are many answers, some say, find a new lover, others say, five or ten years, and some say a lifetime.
There is a saying that there are regrets in how to choose life, or it depends on your personal three views, in fact, their answers have their own reasons.
For people with a good mentality, time will eventually dilute the past, people always go forward, it is impossible to live in the memory all the time, five or ten years, gradually fade, even if you think about it again, there is no wave in your heart.
For some people, the personality is cheerful, easy to accept new things, when they meet a good or suitable person, it is easy to come out and start a new relationship.
There are always some people in the world who are lost in the love network they have woven, can't find a way out, always entangled in the past, broken the thread, both bitter themselves and hurt others.
02
A netizen said:
I thought that the days were so plain, but by chance, I was reunited with my first love, although I was separated for 30 years, I could still recognize at a glance in the crowd, at that time, we, you have long been a father, I have long been a mother.
You are more mature than before, more stable than before, more shallow lines on your face, and more vicissitudes left by the years.
The only thing that remained unchanged was the deep eyes, and the inherited red lips, in a man's mouth, a little out of proportion, the eyes were still so gentle, and the voice was still so kind.
"Little sister", that's my breast name, that's what you call it.
Later, we left contact information for each other, and every day we talked to each other across the screen, talking about life, talking about the future, talking about the past, and recalling the days we were together.
At that time, we were just like when we were in love, only each other in our eyes, there was no world, and we felt that God really favored us and let us not be reunited for a long time.
They all say don't chat with a member of the opposite sex every day, otherwise nothing will happen, not to mention the first love, looking at each other's avatars, listening to each other's voices, and the heart is like a tidal wave.
Much hope that back 30 years, we are still holding hands in the sun, and our faces are overflowing with happy smiles.
You took out a picture of you being together 30 years ago and said to me that you've been with me wherever you go over the years.
You also said that I was your first love, the person I loved most in my life.
At that moment, I would rather betray the whole world than have the impulse to have you alone.
03
Zhang Ailing said:
In the midst of thousands of people, meet the people you meet, in the wilderness of thousands of years, in the endless wilderness of time, there is no step earlier, no step later, just caught up.
In the vast sea of people, among thousands of people, no one can predict who they will meet in the next moment.
Some things have obviously been precipitated into the past in memory, but they are remembered again, touching your heart, making you want to say goodbye, and you can't stop.
In fact, for many people, in the face of their first love have the same feeling, if there is no reason, do not bother, as long as you live well.
But in real life, many people are duplicitous, saying that they are not disturbed, but their hearts cannot be put down, such as the spark of stars, and the spring wind blows again.
Can't let go of the first love, can't let go of the person who once loved, always want to pay attention to Ta at any time, to open Ta's circle of friends.
Want to know everything about Ta, imagine Ta's mood at the moment, always can't help but send a message of concern, but also care about Ta's reply.
Can't let go of the first love, can't let go of the person who has loved deeply, the heart always follows him for no reason.
Because ta is good, it is a pity that he cannot accompany ta, if he does not live well, he will be more sad, and his heart is always entangled.
04
Reuniting with the first love, where to go, if you can let go, you can be complete.
When it comes to first love, many people have experienced that first love is the most difficult to put down in life's feelings, because first love is the first love in life, the purest, the most true, and the most profound, so that some people can't put it down for a lifetime, and they can't get out of the love of their first love.
How to choose life is right, how to choose is wrong, and so is love.
People will always love many times in their lives, but the end is only once, and what you have not chosen will always stir in your heart.
If people who are not strong-willed, in the face of the past, are indecisive, the unselected will always become your regret in your heart, become your thoughts, dominate your thoughts, and affect your emotions.
Love is not the whole of life, life will continue, people always have to go forward, if you have been entangled in the past, stagnant, how to face the responsibilities in life.
As Francesca said in "The Dream of the Covered Bridge", love is precious, but responsibility is also what we should stick to in our lives.
Robert also appreciates this sparkle of hers and is deeply in love with Francesca. Because I love deeply, I understand, and because I understand, I leave.
Robert left Francesca, hoping that she would live happily in her original environment, and as long as she was happy, he chose not to disturb.
True love is to make each other happy, not to selfishly think of possession, but to make each other entangled in pain.
05
There is a kind of love called letting go, whether you are reunited for a long time, or if you see each other and hate each other late, you will miss it after all.
If you want to come together again, it is not a matter for the two of you, but for two families.
People who are still hesitant on the edge of emotion must be cautious, true love is precious, and responsibility is what we should stick to in our lives.
Don't hurt the people closest to us because of your own selfish desires, and don't turn a love into hate because of your own selfish desires.
It is difficult to forget the first love, does not mean that you can't put it down, in fact, many times, it is the unwillingness in our hearts to do worship.
There is a saying: what you get is faded, and what you don't get is always in turmoil. People who have loved deeply always want to have it.
Since you have finally dispersed, you can only say that there is no reason, that is, there is no reason and where you have it.
There are too many beautiful things in this world, it is impossible to have all that we want, and some of the scenery is beautiful, and we can only stand and look at it from a distance.
06
Just like this netizen, even if she and her first love are together, she may still live in the dull days of chai rice oil and salt over time, and may still regret that she did not choose another path.
A teacher once told me that whoever marries is married, and everyone who lives with you, it depends on how you live this life well, how to manage your marriage well.
Later, think about it carefully, instead of regretting who you have lived with, it is better to try to live the present well and cherish the people in front of you, after all, the original choice is also loved by yourself.
The reason why people will linger on the past is because the people who have been in love with each other, and they have not been implemented in dressing, eating, counting money, and chai rice oil and salt, when everything is flat, life is the same thing.
The world is so big, there are many temptations, time will teach us to grow, we must treat people and things in life with a mature heart.
Haruki Murakami said:
To be a quiet adult, not allowed to be emotional, not allowed to secretly miss, not allowed to look back, to live their own other life.
Everyone has a past, everyone has a story, we have to learn to cut the complicated and simplify, on the road of life, light up.
The past will let it become the past, let go of what should be put down, cherish the present, meet again many years later, and easily say a greeting, "Hey, I haven't seen you for a long time." A smile overflowed on his face, and there was no wave in his heart.