The real sadness of a family is not that there is no Qian, but that these four secrets are revealed to outsiders

Author/Guizhen

Between people, between home, there is always a sense of distance.

Only by keeping a distance can you maintain a sense of mystery, and with a sense of mystery, others will respect you, and they will also respect your family.

In daily life, what should be said can only be said, and what cannot be said should not be said everywhere. The so-called evil comes out of the mouth, which is all too common. To put it bluntly, the real sadness of a family is not the lack of Qian, but the four secrets of the family, casually leaked to outsiders.

01. Property Status

The property situation of your home should belong to The Privacy of JueDui. Just understand it yourself. Don't tell outsiders. Even if someone asks, you can only be vague. It's your family problem. You don't need to tell it. Others.

Jin Qian is originally a more sensitive thing, and Zui is easy to cause subtle changes in people's minds. As a person close to you, if one day you find that a friend who has always been very similar to yourself suddenly becomes better than you, in fact, anyone may subconsciously feel uncomfortable.

It's just that some people can balance their jealousy with reason, but some people really won't. They will only let jealousy continue to take root in their hearts, and even give birth to slander.

Let's talk about a heartbreaking example.

I have a classmate who married a husband who is quite financially fit. After marriage, her husband directly handed over the financial power to her, giving her a large amount of Qian. She told a good friend about her total. But her good friend is married, and the husband she's looking for is from college. Family conditions are not good. The down payment of the house is borrowed, and the decoration is also borrowed. After marriage, the two have been saving Qian to pay off their debts. , and no deposit.

Originally, their relationship was very good, but since then, her friends have often hinted at her that it is better to marry someone with Qian. Unlike herself, she lived a hard life all her life and often quarreled with her husband when she returned home. Her good friend thinks her situation is no worse than hers. Why is life so bad? Even asked her directly.

She had no idea how to answer. After that, the relationship between the two became particularly awkward. Her good friend basically didn't say anything when she didn't say anything, which was obviously not the case before.

Moreover, if you let outsiders know about your family's economic situation, it will inevitably attract some people with hearts. For example, if you borrow Qian from you, it will be thankless.

02. The "ugly thing" at home

As the saying goes, the ugly family is not ostentatious. There are some things that you two understand for yourself. Don't talk about it around, even if it's a close friend of your Zui.

First of all, everyone has their own life. No one really cares about the chai rice oil and salt in your home, all kinds of details and contradictions. You talk too much and keep chattering. Outsiders won't feel the same way, maybe they just think you're annoying. That's it; Second, talk about the ugliness of the house, maybe the person sitting in front of you comforts you for a second, turns around and treats you like a talker, a person who belittles you. Zui post; People's hearts are separated from the belly, that is, some people's hearts are not good. Depending on how well you do it, someone might be quietly happy behind your back.

I know a girl who is actually a kinder person, but she has a problem: it's easy to get rid of people. Maybe she had just met a friend she hadn't seen for a long time, and the two of them sat down to eat together. She spoke out about the contradictions between herself and her husband. When it comes to feelings, she always cries easily.

Of course, her original intention was to talk and comfort, because her marriage was not so happy.

But in reality, you need to divide into people, occasions, and status. This kind of arresting people and complaining will only make outsiders think that you are like Xianglin's wife, and it is easy to look down on you from the inside. Because she is too easy to expose her vulnerability and vulnerability. And this part should be something hidden in the heart. After all, the essence of human beings is Mu Qiang.

Once, I found a friend of ours complaining about her, saying the importance of her words and saying nothing, and she couldn't tell the pros and cons. No wonder marriage is not happy in the world in such a way.

03. Family relations

Don't walk in front of anyone, just emphasize your connection. No matter who you know, there's no good in overemphasizing it. First of all, sometimes acquaintances are just acquaintances. All you know is oh, great man. That doesn't mean you're great. Emphasizing this point doesn't really WeiHu what others say about you.

Also, knowing doesn't mean networking. The premise of the network to be effective is that the value between you must be maintained at the same level.

Sometimes, you talk a lot, the next time others have a problem, if you really come to you to solve, this time do not help or help, it is easy to offend people. And being alone, asking others for help is also a way to consume personal value. In any case, in general, it Zui will eventually do more harm than good.

At the end of the day, it's actually the same as your family's economy. You talk a lot. Maybe you're sharing normally, but you just feel like you know a nice guy and want to tell the story. But in the eyes of others, you may think that you are just showing off, and may secretly say that you like to show off.

Either way, try to keep a low profile in everything so that you can profit without harm.

04. Your private affairs

The private affairs of two people include not only the contradictions and scandals in your relationship mentioned above, but also some beautiful things, and even some situations of your relationship itself, such as going to a friend to show affection and saying how many people on the other side love you. What you did for you and so on.

If you say it once or twice, others may listen from the heart and express envy.

But if you say too much, you may think that you are telling him on purpose. What's more, the person next to your pillow is not YuCe. Sometimes outsiders are more QuanMian than you know, it's just that they don't tell you.

When I went online last night, I saw a woman complaining. The husband of one of her friends had actually been cheating on her for over a year. Her friends often showed affection in front of them and said how good her husband was. Joke.

All in all, you have to remember one sentence: do things seriously, always do things right.

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