Is your father in charge of money or your mother in charge of money?
Most families are mothers in charge of money.
Men often do not mind paying their wages, women also pay great attention to the ownership of financial power after marriage, and some women have the view of "where is the money, where is the love".
But I still have to say: stupid women like to manage money after marriage.
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When it comes to talking about marriage and marriage, many things must be put on the table and said.
A Douban netizen discussed marriage with his fiancée and failed to reach a consensus on the ownership of financial power.
It is known that the income of the two sides is not much different, the girl moonlight, the boy is thrifty. The married man prepares a motorhome and bears the mortgage alone.
The man means that after marriage, everyone is in charge of their own salary. The man is responsible for 60% or 70% of the family expenses, the woman pays a small part, and the salary other than the family expenses is freely used by both parties, and it can be saved or spent.
The woman has a different opinion, she wants to manage the money after marriage, the reason is that "each of them manages the money and has no feelings" The man did not agree to let his fiancée manage the money, and the two sides did not negotiate. So, the woman proposed to break up, and a love that should have entered the marriage accidentally walked into the grave.
Is it the most scientific way for women to manage money? After all, "men become bad if they have money"! Don't monitor your husband's expenses, don't control your husband's expenses, don't hold the money tightly in your own hands, and wait for the betrayal to have nothing?
You see Sha YiHu Ke, Xie Na Zhang Jie, Guo Xiaodong Cheng Lisa... Celebrities have such high incomes, and it is the wife who is in charge of the money.
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Celebrities have so much money that they want to spend it, can ordinary people spend it when they want?
There is a classic line in "Spider-Man": the greater the ability, the greater the responsibility.
The converse is also reasonable: the greater the responsibility, the higher the demands on your abilities.
What is the actual management of money? It is the expenditure of every sum of money, the implementation of everything.
My family is the mother in charge of the money, the father pays the salary, and then does not go to the board. My mother had to buy daily necessities, take care of people's relationships, support her parents and in-laws, and raise two children. In my father's opinion, life is orderly, and there is a surplus of income per month, which is what my mother should do, because the money is under her control! If there is no savings in a certain month, my father will complain that my mother did not spend the money well.
It can be seen that managing money is a laborious and unflattering thing.
Requiring men to hand in their wages gives them an excuse to avoid family responsibilities.
My brother chose a school and tuition fees, my dad never bothered, it was all my mom who was on the run. Dad's reason is simple: I don't have any money on hand, it's useless for you to ask me, and you can only solve everything. What can my mom say? Managing money is painful!
Sometimes it is felt that women often do things that appear to be beneficial but are actually harmful and unhelpful, and asking for money is one of them.
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People who want to maximize happiness in their marriage, why not learn Yuan Yongyi?
Her principle is: her money is hers, and Zhang Zhilin's money is also hers.
Yuan Yongyi's money was used to invest and buy a house, and to buy a bag or jewelry, she swiped Zhang Zhilin's card.
In this way, you can enjoy the fun of spending your husband's money, and you can also have your own small treasury and strive to achieve financial freedom.
Of course, the most suitable way for ordinary people to manage money is: to open a card held by two people, according to the proportion of income of both parties to deposit a fixed amount of money every month, family expenses from this card, the rest of the money is freely consumed by both parties. This ensures that both men take on family responsibilities and achieves the goal of financial transparency without the suffocation of being restricted from spending.
"Where is the money, where is the love", it may be more appropriate to change it to "where the money is spent, where is the love".
There is a truth, although extreme, but occasionally applicable: what men do not rush to do, must not be a good thing.
Think about it, if managing money after marriage is really a matter of many benefits, why don't men collectively ask for money after marriage? Even if they oppose their girlfriends to manage money, they just want to manage their own affairs and don't want to manage their girlfriends.
Don't take money for good!