This article is accompanied by a screenshot from the program "Poor Rich Man Battle".
In the one-year review season, money, income, job prospects, and financial situation have become everyone's sensitive points.
Dig up a somewhat old reality show "The Rich and the Poor". Let the winners in life in the eyes of everyone hand over their wallets and bank cards, are not allowed to accept any friend assistance, and experience the life of the poor for 5 to 7 days.
Looking back after a few years, it is still a variety of tastes.
One of the female guests, Joyce.
Dad is a director of a private hospital, she studied law in Australia, returned to China to work as a lawyer in Hong Kong for two years, then got married, quit her job and became a happy full-time wife.
Joyce, who has not had children shortly after her marriage, experiences the life of a single parent receiving CSSA.
During these 5 days, she has 40 yuan a day to live on, and she wants to use the money to take care of the living of a family of three, including a little boy with hyperactivity symptoms, Kang Zai.
Wan Fen, a single mother, has been looking for a job while taking care of her son Kang Zai in the past six months. Because of her new immigration status, IF she can no longer go to work, CSSA may have to be cancelled.
Joyce deeply experienced the dilemma of a single mother burning a candle at both ends.
Almost all of wan fen's daily necessities were donated by society, and Kang Zai did not even have a table for eating and doing homework.
Joyce couldn't bear to look at it and decided to go to the market first to buy a low table for her child.
When she "consumption downgraded" to the small grocery store that she would not patronize before, she knew that even the second-hand low table cost 85 yuan, and the money on hand was simply not enough. Helplessly, she asked the grocery store owner for some waste cartons, and started to transform it and make a simple table for Kang Zai to use.
At first, Joyce was confident that he could take care of everything on his own cleverness and diligence.
She couldn't stand it for a while the rice cooker broke, the gas stove couldn't turn on the fire, and the children were noisy on the side, and she became irritable.
Because of the limited cost of living, she does not dare to eat a little better, although she is a temporary mother, she must first ensure the nutrition of her children.
After a day, Joyce was already sleepy and tired, and began to miss the spacious bathroom at home, the comfortable bed, the cool and hot air conditioning...
But she still had to hold on to going out and looking for a job. As long as you pass by the shop with the job posting, you will go in and ask, the boss's first sentence is: Are you part-time or full-time? Often as soon as she heard that she was a single mother and could not do it all day, she shook her head and refused.
After hitting a wall and tiring with children, Joyce finally couldn't hold on. In order to appease, the program team invited her husband.
Joyce blushed and told her husband that what made her collapse was not poverty, but a life without hope.
She decided to quit the show early. Before leaving, Joyce wanted to help Wanfen really solve the problem and find a job as a domestic assistant for her.
However, the employer requires that there must be a "housework certificate". Joyce tried to explain: Wanfen did not have a license, not because she could not do things, but because she had to take care of the children and work, and she did not have the energy to examine. Kind, she thinks that as long as the other party is willing to understand Wanfen's difficulty, she can provide an opportunity.
But the labor market is ruthless, and without that one card, it is a one-click veto.
Joyce was disheartened to leave. She has always been optimistic, but in such an environment she has become dull and helpless. She did not expect that a single mother of her own age would live so weakly.
They knew where the exit was, but because they were bound by the current predicament, they did not have the extra strength and opportunity to rush to the exit.
The second female guest, JuJu.
Dad is the president of the Multinational Corporation Asia Pacific region, she grew up as a favored princess, love beauty to the extreme. The house is full of big-name shoes, high heels, boots, each of which is at least dozens of pairs, often scolded by his mother because he bought too much.
JuJu participated in three beauty contests a year, and only this past summer did she represent the Chinese team in Jamaica. She loves to dance, work part-time as an advertising model, and enjoy the pride of the spotlight.
In the program, JuJu's living conditions were reversed 180 degrees, he lived in the board room of Sham Shui Po and went to the tea restaurant to do handymanship.
Get up at 5:30 a.m. and go to the tea restaurant to start your 8-hour job. After cleaning the pile of dishes in the back kitchen, after two hours of drying and being hungry, tired and sleepy, I wondered when I could have lunch.
The store manager looked at her beautifully, let her stand at the door to attract customers, seemingly simple work is not easy, after a few hours, dry mouth and dry legs are sore.
Tea restaurants also have to deal with various sudden situations, such as because the address is not clear, the delivery of takeaway can not find guests.
Is this the end of it? Of course not, JuJu also has to take care of an 8-year-old boy who has been in Hong Kong for less than a year. The program team let her feel the pressure of a newly immigrated mother to take care of her children while running for her livelihood.
The first time he saw him, the child threw a cold face: "We don't welcome you."
This kind of incompatibility was vividly displayed on the first day of social workers carrying JuJu's huge suitcase. Climbing up the 8th floor of the cramped staircase, the two were already out of breath, and the social worker said to JuJu: They (the tenants here) are all a bag and a mat rolled up and gone, there is no one like you.
The house is simply furnished and there is only one rice cooker for cooking. JuJu asked, is there no microwave? Social worker dumbfounded: Microwave oven? It's a fantasy.
The bed was even smaller, and JuJu had something blocking her eyes as soon as she opened her eyes, and the feeling of occlusion came over her face. Here, for the first time, JuJu also pinched the lice, something new in her world of white rich beauty.
The next day was the little boy's birthday, and JuJu cooked him a plate of pasta and poured tomato sauce as a simple birthday meal. On the third day, JuJu tutored her homework and taught hard for an hour, and the boy only learned three words: we, you, they, lack of interest.
JuJu used to take it for granted that children in poor environments knew that life was not easy and that they worked harder to study. After experiencing it first-hand, I understand how difficult it is for children to concentrate under harsh conditions, and the nature of children is so.
Although JuJu seems spoiled, she is more persistent than Joyce, and on the last day, she takes the boy out of Sham Shui Po to play. After a few days together, the little boy's hostility towards her had been eliminated, and there was still a little dependence.
After leaving the show, JuJu quickly joined a non-profit organization, helping a pair of twin sisters in Sham Shui Po every week.
She went on to work as a model, participated in beauty pageants, and worked as an entertainer. However, life has become more three-dimensional, high heels and big brand bags are no longer the protagonists, and she is determined to be an all-round artist who spreads positive energy, because those poor people "need not money most, but hope and self-esteem".
Or rather, what they need most is opportunity.
"Poor rich man" followed the shooting for three seasons, and Douban reached a high score of 9.2.
Let the heirs of the tens of billions of families work as cleaners; let the 4 billion lawyers who produce Maserati work work in milk tea shops; let the presidents of listed companies with silicon valley work experience collect garbage; let the rich second generation who play golf and wine every day live in Qiaodong and find short-term workers to earn food.
In short, let the people at the top of the pyramid fall to the bottom overnight, and see if they can use the skills they have gained from higher education to quickly get a life.
One of the first guests to retire halfway was tian Beichen.
He was born in Hong Kong,one of the "Four Great Families of Gangnam", the Tien family, the Harvard MBA, and the clothing brand G2000 is his industry, with more than 700 stores around the world.
By the way, the four major families of Amway under Jiangnan: Dong (Ningbo), Tang (Wuxi), Tian (Shanghai), and Rong (Wuxi), originated in Jiangnan and have occupied a major role in the economy of Hong Kong for a hundred years.
Tian Beichen's father is "a generation of pants king" Tian Yuanhao, a leading figure in Hong Kong's textile industry, and his mother, Rong Zhiwen, is a descendant of the Rong clan of the four major families in Jiangnan.
Reincarnated in such a home, Tian Beichen's business acumen is more than 10,000 meters ahead of ordinary people at the starting line.
Before the game, he was satisfied, "I believe that the rich can never experience the real hardships of the poor sitting in the air-conditioned room."
Tian Beichen was assigned to experience a week of street sweeping cleaners with an hourly salary of 25 yuan.
He believes in free markets and survival of the fittest, "If you have the fighting spirit, the weak can become the strong." But in less than half a day, he was punched in the face by himself.
Tian Beichen lived in the "cage house", a room densely packed with more than thirty beds, the toilet was shared, and he lost sleep because of this bad environment on the first night.
The next morning, he had to rush to wan chai pier, and without a driver, he inquired around and realized that only the overnight bus could go there.
But I didn't expect the bus fare to be so expensive, one-way to 13 yuan, a day's living expenses of only 50 yuan, the rest of the three meals are not enough.
But what? Tian Beichen could only grit his teeth and sit in the car.
He was given the task of cleaning up a street of more than a dozen trash cans in two hours. More than half an hour passed, only two were cleaned, tired and sweaty, and many people threw garbage into the buckets that had just been cleaned.
The most disgusting thing is that it was found that someone was actually defecating in the garbage can, and Tian Beichen was so angry that he said "too hard", "too exaggerated", "too much"...
He used to be recognizable everywhere he went, but after putting on the cleaner's clothes, no one recognized the rich man, and some passers-by had to bypass his garbage truck.
It was hard to stay up until lunchtime, and he felt like a century had passed. I went to a convenience store to buy food, only to find that my budget was only enough to buy the cheapest sandwich.
He sat down on the stairs and ate a rudimentary lunch.
In the evening, when Tian Beichen was tired and ready to leave work, he found that the young men in the same group actually had to rush to the night shift, because a salary of five thousand yuan was not enough to support the family, at least three or four thousand yuan.
After two days, Tian Beichen sighed that his brain had degenerated, "It's very strange, these two days are just thinking about eating, and there is no other hope at all." I couldn't plan what would happen next week, next year, or the future, and just wanted to fix the next meal. ”
Only to be beaten back to poverty by the touch of a button is how pale the thinking of the rich that he originally believed in was when he was pressed to the ground by life.
Tian Beichen did it for two days and quit the show early.
This experience brought him many changes. He no longer stands on a high place like others, throwing out the next sentence "This society is punishing those who do not read."
What he said was: "This society punishes those who cannot read books with extreme severity."
In the days of precariousness, you can see the faces of all beings.
The wife of the president of a foreign bank who "does not know the price of rice" has an emotional breakdown in the back kitchen, saying that she has washed enough dishes for a lifetime.
The business elite and the cleaning aunt make friends, and finally finish the 19 floors of garbage in the allotted time, happily facing the camera than V.
Young talents working in milk tea shops have learned to quickly prepare cup after cup of drinks, but their thinking has stagnated, "like a gear spinning, and they can't see any future", causing migraines.
The rich second generation with a good life, who was happy to get a tip, received a message from the owner of a fast food restaurant: there is no need to deliver food, you don't have to come again.
He burst into tears at once, both because he was fired and because of the 5-hour delivery man's work, a feeling of desperate devotion that had not been experienced for too long.
Model JuJu has begun to enjoy the sense of accomplishment of wrapping up a beautiful Wonton.
Everyone's emotions are different.
The same thing is that let the rich start from scratch, and they don't have the time and strength to think about change.
The terrible thing is never poverty itself, but the mind that is bound in poverty, completely occupied by the problems of the present, and even the energy to plan for the future.
In such a situation, what is lost is a dead hole - bargaining power.
From childhood to adulthood, we are constantly instilled with various inspirational truths, always thinking that as long as there is fighting spirit, we will be able to change our lives against the sky.
But there is no golden rule in this world, as long as you follow it, you will be able to succeed.
Some people live in tall buildings, some people live in deep ditches. There are always some people whose hardships you can't see, who don't experience it firsthand, so don't think about labeling others as "you don't work hard enough" of course.
Source: The movie "Little Times"
Today I didn't hold back a little bit of fragmentation, which is a small sigh at the turn of the old year and the new year.
Two years ago, the female scholar Chizuru Ueno tore open the mythical "veil of effort" with one sentence. She said, "There are still people in this world who can't get rewarded no matter how hard they try, who want to work hard but can't get started, and even because they work too hard, they are physically and mentally hurt." ”
I would like to add: No matter how hard you feel and how touched you are right now, please be grateful for the power of fate.
This is not playing with metaphysics, it is cherishing what you have.
And long-term good luck generally belongs to those who cherish the blessings.
On the first day of construction in 2022, I wish you hard work and good luck!
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Zi Chen, a woman with a fragrant soul, signed the author. Senior editor, media commentator, national second-level psychological counselor, new list of original top 20 authors, in-depth research on Chinese women's emotional and social psychology.