Why do twins react differently when they encounter the same thing? Because their personalities are different.
When a person survives and develops in society, he has formed a unique mode of doing things, thinking mode and emotional mode.
Especially after experiencing the Wang Lihong incident, many small partners have issued the following questions about the twins:
It has always been the sister who is doing it, but the sister has to follow the scolding?
Why do twins with almost identical looks have completely different personalities?
Why does BY2 sister Sun Yu love "being a demon" so much?
In the whole incident of Wang Lihong, the BY2 sister with the strongest sense of existence, Yumi, made a oolong who took drugs to commit suicide, and was ridiculed by netizens. Why did she jump out and ask for a hammer?
In fact, from the interaction of the sisters for many years of debut, it can be seen that the original family education has a great impact on the personal growth of the twins, and we can explore the reasons behind the behavior from the perspective of psychology.
As can be seen from the video, the interaction between the sisters is often the sister attacking the sister first, making the sister embarrassed and ugly, and can't get off the stage, and the sister always shows tolerance. From these details, I can almost see the personality of the younger sister, which is much more competitive, and the sister is often a humble attitude.
In fact, there are many misunderstandings about twins, even if they are identical twins, like the BY2 combination, the two people have a very high degree of similar appearance, but their personalities, achievements or emotional patterns may be very different.
There are two reasons for this:
First, even the same genes may be in the process of translational replication or growth, because of small variations in appearance and other aspects of differences;
Second, highly related to the environment in which they grew up, it is impossible for parents to treat their two children in a completely consistent manner, and even very subtle differences are likely to lead the twins to a completely different emotional pattern.
Essentially, each of the twins is actually an independent individual, not a replica of the other. Not only that, but twins are even more sensitive than the average person, why?
Because they have lived in the shadow of comparison all their lives, two genes are the same, the standard of living is the same, the parents are the same, ah, then if one has good grades and one has poor grades, imagine what kind of nightmare it will be? So the growth process is very challenging to people's mentality.
The BY2 sisters went to two extremes in the process. This can infer the impact on their family education.
Once in an interview, her sister Sun Han wrote a paragraph to her sister, she said: "As long as I am alive, no matter whether we will be separated in the future, I will not give up on you, I will always be your umbrella." ”
This passage explains Sun Han's family philosophy of being the eldest sister, but they are twins born at the same time, so the sense of responsibility of this "big child" should be the concept of family indoctrination, such as "You want to let your sister Oh". Therefore, Sun Han rationalized with reason and tolerated his sister for many years.
Why does the sister always like to tear down the sister's stage in front of others and pick up the sister's short?
From a psychological point of view, there is a huge motivation behind everyone's behavior. BY2 sister is almost subconsciously competing with her sister, because that is his biggest psychological need, what is this psychological need?
It's: it doesn't matter if you win or not, I win you enough.
This shows that it is likely that in the early life of the competition, the sister has lost too many times, such as parents paying more attention to the sister, neighbors praising the sister for being good-looking, relatives praising the sister for being sensible... Because twins are more sensitive, then these traumatic memories of the early years will drive her to win back from her sister for life.
So, for Sun Yu, the outside comments can even be ignored, her subconscious sister stepped on, but because of the motivation in the subconscious, winning you is winning the world. So the last thing everyone sees is that BY2 sisters are competitive and constantly "demonizing".
I hope that parents can get some educational inspiration from it, especially for families with many children, they must learn to "level the bowl of water".