2021 has passed, 2022 has arrived.
Say goodbye to the past, the past can not be traced; say hello to the future, the future can be expected.
What is the greatest wisdom of man?
It is not to compete for the first place, not to achieve the ultimate, but to maintain a normal mentality and be the best you can within your ability.
There are many roses in this world, but not everyone has to grow into roses.
If you want, you can make a daisy, a nameless little flower, a weed on the side of the road.
Everyone has their own unique value, and everyone is unique to themselves.
Being an ordinary person is also a kind of great wisdom.
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Catfish effect: not good enough, but also has its own value
There is an interesting effect in psychology, known as the "catfish effect."
Refers to:
Through a stimulus and means, a mediocre person can also get more motivation from it, and then keep getting better.
There's a story behind it.
Norwegians like to eat sardines, but sardines are not easy to store and transport, and live fish are the most valuable.
In order to transport the sardines perfectly to the shore, the fishermen came up with a way to put some catfish in the sardines.
Catfish like to move by nature, and catfish are not picky in taste, and all kinds of fish can become its food.
Therefore, the catfish mixed with the sardine school constantly stirs the air in the water, which greatly increases the activity of the sardines.
Relatively speaking, sardines are high in value and catfish in value.
Sardines are like the good people in our lives who are born ahead of the starting line.
And catfish are people with low value and low starting line.
On the surface, there is a big difference in value between the two.
But without catfish, how can the value of sardines be highlighted?
Without catfish, how can sardines remain active?
The relationship between sardines and catfish is a win-win situation; sardines can survive with catfish and retain their own value.
And catfish, because they are mixed with sardines, also make their value magnified.
The same is true of life.
Some people are not good enough and are born to lag behind others, but this does not mean that you do not have your own value.
Everyone has their own unique shining points, we don't need to be jealous of others, we don't need to compare, as long as we work hard in the direction we want, we can become a better version of ourselves.
Together with the strong, it is to stimulate our inner fighting spirit.
Even if we are not good enough, we are not the best, but we have our own value, don't we?
In a company, there are people with strong ability and high income, and naturally there are people with poor ability and low income.
But it is undeniable that everyone in their own position, play their own value, can not be replaced.
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Not to be the first place is the wisdom of the middle
First: When you are not good enough, look at people who are inferior to yourself
Many people around us like to "compare".
Compare wages, compare happiness in life, compare houses and cars, and compare dress.
As long as there are people, there is never a lack of "comparison".
However, if you always compare with the first place, always compare with people who are much stronger than you, in exchange for jealousy and self-hatred.
Over time, you become extreme, narrow-minded, with only negative energy left in your eyes.
However, if you compare yourself to those who are not as good as you, you will feel satisfied and become tolerant and peaceful.
For example:
The house you live in is only 100 square meters, driving hundreds of thousands of cars, but you compare with those who drive luxury cars and live in villas every day.
But if you compare yourself to people who can't buy a house and commute to work in an electric car, your happiness is high.
We don't necessarily have to compete for the first place, and a lot of times it's not something you can get with your efforts.
Instead of worrying about what you can't get, why not keep your own happiness?
Second: Don't always compare your shortcomings with the strengths of others
Do you remember the story of "TianJi Horse Racing"?
Superior horses, medium horses, win.
Medium horse vs. inferior horse, win.
Inferior horses against upper horses, lose.
Many times, we can not only consider our own shortcomings, but also amplify the advantages of ourselves.
When I used to read, I was comparing for a while.
The liberal arts are good and the sciences are poor.
So why should I compare science with those who have good grades in science? I can compare liberal arts grades with them.
If you think about your self-worth from another angle, you will live a more peaceful life.
No one can always be the first place, in this world, more "ordinary people".
When you can accept that you are an ordinary person, many of life's troubles will naturally disappear.
Since childhood, our parents and teachers have told us: you have to study hard and become the first.
But no one told us:
Even if you can't be the first place, it doesn't matter, you are unique.
Think you are not good-looking, then work hard to exercise and have a good body;
If you think that you don't make much money and have average working ability, then learn other skills and cultivate side jobs.
Admit that you are a normal person and then go and look for your advantage.
No quarrel, no anger, no arrogance, no impetuosity, this is a person's great wisdom and foolishness.
Today's Topic:
Can you accept yourself as an "ordinary person"?
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