How long does it take for a woman after a divorce to be less miserable?

In the event of a cold war between husband and wife, one or both spouses need to face the cold war with a positive attitude. And making the husband bow his head should not be our purpose, the real purpose should be to enhance the relationship between husband and wife, so that the husband loves us more.

According to statistics, among all couples, 60% to 70% of couples will have a Cold War. The Cold War, which originates from one or both parties in the husband and wife, is not very good at using voice communication and the other half to resolve differences and contradictions, and can only solve the problem by cold treatment, which forms the Cold War.

Now let's talk about it, how can we make my husband bow his head?

Suppose your cold war was initiated by your husband, and your husband made a big mistake in this quarrel. At this time, you don't have to talk too much to your husband, and you don't have to rush to solve the Cold War. You need to be silent and be as unspoken as your husband.

The person who often likes the Cold War, he actually enters his own cave, he will feel that when I get out of my emotional distress, when I am no longer bothered, I will ignore you. Therefore, instead of the wife treating her husband in a cold war way, it is better to say that the wife respects her husband and uses this way to ease his own emotions.

To sum up, when the husband launched the cold war, as a wife, you only need to wait silently.

Many wives say that in the process of waiting, I am very upset, oh, I am anxious, what to do? The wife needs to deal with her emotions. If you are very irritable, you can go out to dinner with your girlfriends, chat with friends, or you can find a professional counselor to help you relieve your emotions.

When your husband, he comes out of the cave, he will come to you to admit his mistake, take the initiative to talk to you, bow to you, in addition, our so-called pressure, so-called accusations, so-called criticism, the so-called various ways to make the husband feel guilty, will only be exchanged for the husband to get farther and farther away from us, will let him shrink into his cave.

Having done so many years of marriage emotional psychological counseling, in my opinion, there is no one between husband and wife who is right and who is wrong, no one is high and who is low, and no one bows to anyone. Cold War couples chose the Cold War approach because they could not communicate. Or because they felt that communication was ineffective, they chose the Cold War.

Wives need to reflect on how to get along with their husbands who are used to the Cold War. Husbands also need to reflect on how to better express their thoughts and not let the Cold War hurt the feelings of couples.

I am Wang Siyu, a national second-level psychological counselor who focuses on marriage recovery and emotional restoration. There is any marital emotional distress, emotional confusion, private me in the background.