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Why did Sun Yat-sen's daughter refuse her father to attend her wedding? And why did he resent him all his life?

Sun Wan was the second daughter of Sun Yat-sen, born to Sun Yat-sen and his original partner Lu Muzhen, and was also the youngest child of Sun Yat-sen, and after the death of her sister Sun Jiao, Sun Wan became sun Yat-sen's only daughter, and Sun Yat-sen cherished and cared for her more.

Sun Wan was born in Honolulu on November 12, 1896, on the same day as her father. Sun Wan spent her childhood in Honolulu.

Sun Wan's entire wandering childhood was at the most difficult stage of Sun Yat-sen's revolutionary road, so she rarely saw her father. In her mind, her father was very remarkable, but at the same time very strange.

Why did Sun Yat-sen's daughter refuse her father to attend her wedding? And why did he resent him all his life?

Sun Yat-sen with two daughters

After Sun Wan was born, she has been living with her mother in the home of her uncle Sun Mei in Honolulu, and the family's life depends on Sun Mei to run a farm to maintain. This is 12 years.

In 1901, Sun Yat-sen returned to Honolulu to reunite with his family, when Sun Wan was only 5 years old. This was the first time Sun Wan had seen her father, and she was overjoyed, and she naturally did not understand that this was another exile after the failure of her father's uprising.

Sun Wan met her father again, but it was five years again. She had only met her father twice before she was 12 years old, and her impression of him was very weak.

After becoming literate, Sun Wan often saw reports about her father in the newspapers, and he was wanted by the Qing court and recognized by the court as a bad person. Although her mother repeatedly warned her that her father was engaged in a great cause, the young Sun Wan still could not understand.

Scholars believe that Sun Yat-sen returned to Honolulu 6 times in the era of running around for the revolution, which shows that Sun Yat-sen was still concerned about his children and family in his busy revolutionary activities, but between family, family affection and the great righteousness of the nation-state, he could not choose without a choice.

In 1907, Sun Yat-sen's brother Sun Mei supported Sun Yat-sen, and the farm he ran declared bankruptcy, and his family had to move to Kowloon, Hong Kong.

The young Sun Wan and her sister Sun Jiao also came to Hong Kong with her mother and grandmother, and it was difficult to get by.

In 1910, when Sun Yat-sen was in exile, he wrote to his two daughters, asking for photos from the children in the letters, in order to comfort the pain of his thoughts and reveal his concern for his children, wife and family.

In 1912, when the Republic of China was founded, Sun Yat-sen sent people to take Lu Muzhen and his two daughters back to China.

After Sun Yat-sen resigned as interim president, during his inspections across the country, his sister Sun Jiao and sister Sun Wan have been with him.

In February 1913, Sun Yat-sen went to Japan as the inspector of the national railway, and Sun Jiao and his sister Sun Wan also accompanied their mother Lu Muzhen to Japan.

In March 1913, her sister Sun Jiao studied at the University of California, Berkeley, usa, and due to kidney disease, she could not be cured for a long time, so she was accompanied by a special doctor and nurse from her lover Wu Ping to return to Macao for treatment. On June 20, Sun Yat-sen traveled from Shanghai to Hong Kong to visit his unconscious daughter in Macao, and on the 25th, Sun Jiao died of illness at the age of 19.

After Yuan Shikai became the interim president, He specially approved Sun Yat-sen's son Sun Ke to study in the United States at the official expenses of the "son of a xunren", and at the same time that Sun Ke went to the United States, he won the admission qualification for his sister Sun Wan at the California State University in the United States. Sun Wan studied literature at the university.

In order to take care of Sun Wan, who was in a foreign country, Sun Yat-sen asked Huang Xing to arrange for someone to take care of Sun Wan. Huang Xing arranged for Wang Boqiu.

Who is Wang Boqiu? Why was he looked up to by Huang Xing?

Why did Sun Yat-sen's daughter refuse her father to attend her wedding? And why did he resent him all his life?

Wang Boqiu, also spelled Chuntao, was a native of Xiangxiang, Hunan, and was born into a family of officials and eunuchs. His father, Wang Jinju, served as the commander-in-chief of the Town of Keelung in Taiwan, the commander of the Huaibei Water Army, and the feudal Wei general. Wang Boqiu studied at the Hangzhou Wubei Academy, and later studied at Waseda University in Japan and Harvard University in the United States.

While Wang Boqiu was studying in Japan, he joined the League. Because of this relationship, he became acquainted with Huang Xing, Song Jiaoren and other predecessors of the League, and huang Xing and other people were old acquaintances, and even knew Sun Yat-sen. During his time in Japan, he excelled in his studies and was able to do things, and he was deeply appreciated and valued by Huang Xing, and Sun Yat-sen was also very optimistic about him. Therefore, when Huang Xing offered to let him take care of Sun Wan, who was in the United States, Sun Yat-sen did not object.

It is precisely because of Wang Boqiu's excellence that Sun Wan gradually developed a good feeling for Wang Boqiu. This is the common sentiment of people, not to mention that Wang Boqiu and Sun Wan are both talented and beautiful. The two quickly set up a private lifelong agreement.

Wang Boqiu was born in 1883, and he and Sun Wan were 13 years apart. The brother-sister love is doomed to no happiness.

However, when Sun Yat-sen learned of the marriage, he was very angry and severely reprimanded the two juniors, and warned them that they must be separated. This is mainly because Wang Boqiu is a married person.

When Wang Boqiu was 15 years old, according to his family's arrangement, he married a girl named Li Chengxiang in his hometown, and when they got married, they did not divorce their wives in China.

Sun Yat-sen opposed polygamy and, of course, would not agree to his daughter giving someone else a second house. After he learned the news, he immediately sent a telegram to Sun Wan, asking her to immediately withdraw from marriage and quickly return to China, in which he said: "There must be a conflict between the New Deal and the new marriage, especially when doing a small thing, Wan Er should reflect on it well... Return to China quickly and handle things properly. "

As for her father's objections, Sun Wan could not understand them under any circumstances. She thought that when she was young, her father did not manage her, did not get his father's love, and when she grew up, his father would still control her, which she could not accept. So, when she received the telegram, she was very sad and firmly with Wang Boqiu.

The two sides were deadlocked.

As time passed, Sun Wan and Wang Boqiu had two children, the daughter was named Wang Hui, and the son was named Wang Hongzhi. Sun Wan originally thought that after a long time, her father would understand her and sympathize with her.

However, Sun Yat-sen never let up.

At the insistence of Sun Yat-sen, Wang Boqiu took the initiative to leave Sun Wan with his two children. He started another life with his two children.

It is also because of this relationship between Wang Boqiu and Sun Wan that Wang Boqiu, who originally held important positions in the National Government, was excluded and no longer reused. In 1934, he was recommended by Yang Yongtai, secretary general of the Military Commission of the Nationalist Government, to be approved to serve as the secretary of the Nanchang Xingying Camp, a member of the Military Commission, and soon became the governor of Changle County. He died of illness in 1944 at the age of 61.

Since the divorce, Sun Wan has been very disappointed in her father and has deep prejudices.

Why did Sun Yat-sen's daughter refuse her father to attend her wedding? And why did he resent him all his life?

After Sun Wan and Wang Boqiu divorced, in 1921, under the arrangement of her brother Sun Ke, Sun Wan married Dr. Dain Sai, who worked in the military government of Guangzhou.

At that time, Sun Wan firmly refused to let her father Sun Yat-sen and her brother Sun Ke attend her wedding, and she did not listen to anyone interceding.

This incident made Sun Yat-sen very embarrassed. Reluctantly, Sun Yat-sen asked Soong Ching-ling, who was already Sun's wife, to write to Sun Wan to express his heart, saying:

"Your father and I are very happy, and I hope that you will be very happy and send you a gift of 4,000 yuan, or as your father said, this is your 'dowry.'"

After Sun Wan received the letter, she did not even reply to the letter, and for the 4,000 yuan "dowry", she did not look at it, she directly handed it to her mother, and swore to her mother that she would not use a penny of Sun Yat-sen.

In February 1925, Sun Yat-sen fell ill and died shortly. However, Sun Wan refused to see her father for the last time.

Reluctantly, Sun Yat-sen instructed Soong Ching Ling to forward a photograph of himself to Sun Wan. He wrote in English on the photo:

To Grace and EnSai. (for Sun Wan and Dane Sai)

R.S.SUN. BeiPin March 1925.

(Sun Songqingling, Beiping, March 1925)

In October 1949, on the eve of the liberation of Guangzhou, Sun Wan moved to Macau with her husband Dai Ensai and her daughter.

In January 1955, Sun Wan's husband, Dai Sai, died of illness in Macau. Since then, Sun Wan and her daughter Dai have successfully relied on each other for their lives. Chiang Kai-shek had planned to take her to Taiwan for retirement, but Sun Wan refused.

By 1969, when Sun Wan, who was already 73 years old, was chatting with her daughter and recalled the past of her divorce from Wang Boqiu, she still said to her with a solemn face:

"At that time, I had an opinion about your grandfather."

This shows how deep Sun Wan's prejudice against her father Sun Yat-sen is.

On June 10, 1979, Sun Yat-sen's most beloved youngest daughter, Sun Wan, died peacefully at the Age of 83 at The Mirror Lake Hospital in Macau.

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