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Those who plant peach and plum get it, and those who plant tribulus get their thorns
In real life, many people think that the more friends the better, and the more friends a person has, which means that he has strong communication skills, large circles, wide connections, and many ways.
In fact, this is not the case, there are many friends in people's lives, but there are few friends who can really make hearts, and in times of crisis, wine and meat friends can not help at all.
For example, people's energy is limited, people's hearts are limited, and when you share your true heart with most people, it is established as a general friendship.
Ji Xiaolan, a scholar of the Qing Dynasty University, has such a story in the "Notes on Reading Wei Caotang":
After the death of one person, he went to hell and cried to Yama, saying that the friends he really treated were ungrateful.
A total of dozens of people were listed, telling him how they were when he was in power, and how he was when he had no power, and the more he said it, the more angry he became.
Yan Wangye listened and listened, and his face gradually showed a disapproving expression, and when he finished, he bowed his hand and said:
"You said that these people are running around, calculating, and squeezing each other out, and they will eventually be punished by the Yinji." But the ghost god can punish it, and the sir scolds it is not right.
Those who plant peach and plum must actually get it, and those who plant tribulus have their thorns, haven't you heard of it?
Most of the people you like to make are inflammatory, and once you lose power, they will leave you. Now you blame them with morality, isn't that chiseling ice for fire?
Your own fault, why blame others? ”
This person listened to Yan Wangye's words, was speechless, and looked annoyed.
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Choose the good people and the gentleman
Zeng Guofan once said: "Choosing friends is the first meaning of life." The success or failure of a lifetime is related to the merits of friends, and you must not be careless! ”
Tell us that choosing friends is the most important thing in life, whether a person's life is successful or unsuccessful, and whether the friends they have made are virtuous, outstanding, and virtuous, closely related to. Therefore, the choice of friends cannot be careless.
Zeng Guofan interacts with people and makes friends, and the most important thing is his "morality", followed by whether he is "ambitious".
He firmly rejected the so-called "loss of friends", that is, people who have no ambitions and do nothing, but like to laugh at others.
Zeng Guofan said: "It is also of great benefit to seek friends and not to catch oneself." ”
It is very beneficial to remind yourself of your mistakes through friends and improve your shortcomings.
Only by getting along with people with good character can we improve ourselves.
In the early years, when he followed Tang Jian, Zeng Guofan's greatest gain was to receive Tang Jian's teaching on "Jing" and benefited a lot.
Especially in the Taiping Heavenly Kingdom War, "repeated defeats, repeated defeats and repeated battles", "Jing's" internal strength is that he has more certainty, certainty, and concentration, allowing the wind and waves to rise and sit firmly on the fishing boat.
Friends with good character will not only send you charcoal in the snow, but also may escort your life.
People should bow their heads and do things, but they must also open their eyes to people, choose good people to make friends with, and choose gentlemen to deal with.
When Zeng Guofan rose up early to become an official in Beijing, there was a man named Jiang Zhongyuan, who was debauched, possessed bad habits, often gambled, and was controversial.
However, Zeng Guofan saw Jiang Zhongyuan as he had always been, became a close friend, and predicted that in the future, he would "make meritorious contributions to the world, but he should die with righteousness."
On the other hand, Zeng Guofan's attitude towards Jin Anqing was completely different. Jin Anqing was very capable, but his heart was not right, zeng guofan saw his character clearly, even if he met seven times, the last time did not see him.
Some people were curious to ask why Jiang Zhongyuan was so highly rated, and Zeng Guofan replied: "Mortals' words and deeds, such as the blue sky and white sun, without any literary ornaments, will become a great instrument." ”
Zeng Guofan looked at Jiang Zhongyuan, although he looked debauched on the surface, but in essence he was a bloody loyal man, frank and straightforward, and consistent in appearance.
Jiang Zhongyuan has always regarded money as an external object, and when a friend unfortunately died in the capital, he pawned all the valuable things, including clothes, and drove on foot, sending his friend's coffin back to his hometown.
This kind of chivalrous courage, deep sympathy and morality for friends is very rare. Later, he was recommended by Zeng Guofan to the Xianfeng Emperor.
After that, Jiang Zhongyuan did die in the Taiping Heavenly Kingdom War as Zeng Guofan said.
People with good character not only accompany you when you succeed, accompany you to enjoy the glory and wealth, but also be able to not give up when you fail, and accompany you to make a comeback!
They will give you support, not ridicule, but also accompany you out of the shadow of failure. Happy things, they are happy for you, celebrating for you; sad things, they give you comfort, help you share, so that you no longer swallow tears alone.
In life, there are many people you meet, but there are not many people who can communicate with your heart, and the people who laugh with you when you laugh do not necessarily cry with you when you cry.
Friends are not more expensive in the fine, as the saying goes: "life is rare to have a confidant", get along with people with good character, in order to improve themselves, so it is true!
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