Recently, a news on the Internet about the illegal fetal sex identification in Xiamen has aroused the attention of many people, as a novice mother, in the report of the couple who are bent on seeking children, but because of the wrong identification results, resulting in the induction of the birth of the most wanted baby boy, it is really unspeakably angry and heartache.
A circle of friends advertisement, a car that incarnates as a pregnant woman's blood draw room, a report sheet that cannot be accurately discussed, an appraiser with lost medical ethics, a paranoid and ignorant couple, form a black industrial chain, and the chains are wrapped around countless babies who should be smiling brightly and crying bitterly.
Parents who have always thought that in the 21st century, they have long looked down on the gender of men and women, and the so-called preference for sons over daughters is only a remnant of the older generation's concept of farming, and will soon be metabolized by the progress of society.
In the baoma group, the mothers who have given birth to male treasures are expressing their envy and jealousy for those who have daughters every day, and it is this beauty that makes me have the illusion that no one will be stupid enough to miscarry because of the sex of the baby, but this news has left the hungry in the corner abandoned by the sun, and the copper smell on the ground is bright and shocking.
Before, the mother group has discussed the matter of having boys and girls more than once, although the sample is not large and may lack some convincing, but in the group of several mothers I belong to, almost all of them are the mothers of the male baby, including myself.
And those mothers who already have daughters, most of the daily painting style is in the group to buy which small skirt or which small hairpin for their daughters, never heard of which mother who gave birth to a daughter said that because the first birth is a girl, and want to have a son to make up.
A few days before the news broke, there was also a thing about fetal sex identification in the group, there was a mother who was unexpectedly pregnant with a second child, and at first she made up her mind not to have this baby, because some time ago due to physical reasons, taking medicine would affect the baby.
But after a sleep, she consulted in the group whether there was a channel to know the sex of the fetus, her idea was contrary to the idea of most people in the news, she hoped to have a daughter, and the miraculous mothers also provided a channel for her, that is, the gender identification in Hong Kong.
Now it seems that it should be similar to the channel of illegal fetal sex identification mentioned in the news, providing blood samples and sending them to Hong Kong for testing, and finally this mother did not choose to identify men and women, but decided to go to the hospital for detailed examination and listen to the doctor's advice.
But it also gave me more detailed information about this test, which requires that you be more than 5 weeks pregnant and have not given birth to a baby boy or aborted a baby boy in one year, and the baby girl does not matter.
The reason why it is required that no male baby has been born or aborted is because the male treasure's Y chromosome remains in the mother's body for a year, and the sex is identified by blood, which is likely to be affected by the Y chromosome in the body and cause the result to deviate.
But even if it is a year after childbirth or a year after miscarriage, how accurate is this test? The answer is definitely not 100%, it just gives you a high probability for you to judge men and women, but it does not mean that there will be no errors.
When I was pregnant, some people told me that blood testing can accurately judge men and women, but later I saw many mothers on the Little Red Book that the gender identification results they did were very different from the real gender of the baby, which also indirectly showed that the error in blood testing was not small.
Many people want to identify the sex of the baby during pregnancy, in order to understand the male and female babies in advance, you can prepare things in advance and name them, but after watching the news, I found that there are still many people who do gender identification, because of the preference for sons over daughters. It is precisely because there are many people who have such ideas that this black industrial chain that controls the life and death of angel babies has been born.
In fact, when I was pregnant, my husband and I wanted a daughter wholeheartedly, but out of respect for the birth of life and the preservation of mysterious romance, we rejected all ways to know the sex of the fetus, and waited for the moment when the blind box opened.
However, there will always be experienced and enthusiastic people around me who will constantly play the news that it is most likely to be a boy, and without exception, when everyone says that it must be a boy, they are sincerely glad for me, as if being pregnant with a boy represents the perfection and supreme glory of a woman's merit.
Every time we expressed that we wanted a girl more, they always looked at each other with disbelief, and the answer was as hypocritical and ridiculous as Ma Yun saying that "getting 91 yuan a month is the happiest", which made us feel very uncomfortable.
And when we do the four-dimensional color timeout, we have made it clear that we do not want to know the gender, and we are still splashed with cold water by the doctor's intentional or unintentional sentence "A little handsome guy like my father", and I am also thinking, if it is a girl, will the doctor still try to convey it in such a way?
Until I communicated with other mothers in the group, I found that if it is a male treasure, most of the doctors will show more excitement, and even some doctors will directly give a big close-up of the genitals of the baby in the belly, pointing it to the mothers, but if it is a female treasure, it will be relatively cold, and now it seems that the reason why the doctors will treat it differently may be that many parents will really be more excited when they learn that it is a baby boy.
After the four-dimensional color ultrasound, I silently accepted the fact that it may be a male baby, while constantly brainwashing myself, those people were just casually talking, the doctor did not make it clear, so I still had the probability to turn over, until the moment when the child was born, the midwife happily picked up the baby and said to me, Congratulations you are a boy, I finally accepted this result.
But even if I wanted a girlfriend in my heart, the moment I saw my son, the depression, obsession and unhappiness I had once been swept away, he was so small, so fragile, snuggled up next to me, at that moment my heart was extremely happy, full of only one thought, this is the little angel given to me by God, the person I want to protect with my life all my life.
After giving birth to my son, I once asked my husband, if you give you a particularly cute and special daughter now, would you like to change, my husband said categorically not to change, this determination has nothing to do with gender, but he loves this unique child for him from the heart, he once said that even if he has the superpower to return to the past, the moment the child is born is his eternal time barrier.
I believe that every child is an angel in heaven, and the moment you choose to be a parent, you are destined to be your fate, and you are determined to be the most important part of his life, and how can you bear to cut off your fate with an inaccurate report?
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