Text/Hua Mo, Jiang Zuo Mei Niang
The once-popular pop song "Love You In Your Heart" has a few lyrics like this:
Loving you is hard to open in my heart, I don't know what to say, oh, love you is hard to open in my heart, do you know that I am loving you, how to ignore me.
This classic lyric says the careful thinking of an introverted man. In this world, some people are very outward-looking about feelings, and if they like a person, they will say it out loud; but some people are very introverted, like it in their hearts, but they can't say it on their lips.
If a woman has such a man around her, she will often not see his careful thinking, and it is easy to miss a beautiful love, just like a case mentioned in the "First Book of Seconds to Understand the Relationship between Men and Women": a boy once loved a girl deeply, and the girl also liked him, but the boy never said the three words "I love you", and as a result, another brave boy was killed halfway, he took the initiative to confess, and finally, the former boy could only be sad and gave the girl to others, resulting in a tragedy.
So as a girl, how can we be sure that he really likes you and loves you? Or "The First Book to Understand the Relationship Between Men and Women in Seconds" said it well:
"A man's emotions are expressed through action".
Therefore, if you meet a man who has the following kinds of behavior, you can rest assured that you can get along with him, because he is expressing his admiration to you.
01. Be open to you and have no sense of boundaries
When a man will take the initiative to share his joys and sorrows, whether it is work or family, he is willing to talk to you about something, and listen carefully to your advice, then his subtext is: "This is the real me, I want the people I like to know everything about me." ”
In "The Biography of Chu Qiao", Yan Shizi has a good feeling for Xing'er from the first appearance, never treats her as a maid, gets along with her as an equal, and helps her break the siege many times, often using the excuse of looking for Yuwen Yue to come to her. After knowing her real name and identity, he told her his ambitions and wishes, and although there were parts where he wanted Lachucho to help him get revenge, he really admired her and liked her. Even if he knew that Chu Qiao liked Yuwen Yue in his heart, he had always loved her and had nothing to hide from her.
When a man really likes you, he will be sincere and frank with you. Whether he has good or bad things, he will be the first to want to share with you, in a bad mood, want you to comfort him; in a good mood, want you to be happy with him. The more he likes you, the more he wants to be with you all the time, the more he wants to tell him what he thinks in his heart for the first time, he wants you to see the true thoughts in his heart, and he doesn't want to have any misunderstanding or contradiction. Be completely open to you and have no sense of boundaries at all, because in his heart, you are not an outsider.
02. Say to you: With me, I will do what I say to you
Recently read an ancient novel, the male protagonist in the actually not much pleasing, but the male protagonist has one thing that I appreciate: that is, at any time, in the face of anyone, any situation, the male protagonist will say to the female protagonist "Don't be afraid, there I am!" "The heroine's personality is very strong, and she can face everything on her own, but when this man says these words to her unconditionally, she will be moved to tears."
The promise made to the heroine, he also said and did. Knowing that the heroine does not like the deceit of the court, after the two solve the problem together, he voluntarily gives up the high position below one person and above ten thousand people, and lives an ordinary life with the heroine. In ancient times, when power was supreme, it was really difficult for ordinary men to do it.
And when he first asked to marry the heroine, he also told her parents that he would be good to her and would put her first, even when he knew that the heroine might not be able to have children because of injury, he could not hesitate to marry her, and make his own plans for the end, just to be able to be with her. In an age when succession is the purpose, men must love women more to do this.
Of course, a novel must be a novel, and there may not be a man like this in reality, but if there is a man who can stand in front of you and say "There I am!" when you need it! "And really holding up a piece of heaven for you, it can already prove that this man has fallen deeply in love with you, and he hopes to love you, protect you, and make you rely on." These three words are enough to withstand a thousand words.
03. Silently remember your preferences and express love with actions
In "The First Book to Understand the Relationship between Men and Women in Seconds", it is said:
"Men usually express emotions through actions, and women communicate through communication."
Yes, women will want to talk about her emotions more, while men will always want to do something.
If he is in love with you, he will silently pay attention to you and want to know everything about you. For example, he will find that you have a delicate makeup today, he will observe what dishes you usually like to eat, he will know that you are not wearing less clothes today for the sake of beauty, he will peek at you from time to time, pay attention to your every move, if you go to dinner together, he will order what you like, if it comes out cold, he will take off his coat and put it on your body.
Yes, a man, if he does this for you, it means that he has already liked you, but he just didn't express it.
Colleague Xiao Yu is a girl who loves beauty, in order to lose weight, often only eat a little vegetarian dish, over time the body resistance becomes worse, often cold, and feel bitter medicine, dead support. A young boy often brought her hot drinks, full of a large cup of hot ginger tea, Xiao Yu said that after drinking sweating, the illness was more than half better. At night, he also took her to dinner, in order to cooperate with her weight loss, they all ordered some chickens, fish, shrimp and the like with fewer calories, and there was no lack of nutrition, and they would not gain weight.
We laughed and said: Your boyfriend is so sweet.
Xiao Yu said that they were just good friends and didn't have that kind of relationship. As bystanders, we all laughed at her for being too familiar with others to see the love in the boy's eyes. Xiao Yu was surprised: He never said he liked me?
I said that not everyone can easily say the word "love", especially this kind of getting along with friends, saying that in case the other party does not like himself, he will not be able to do friends in the future, so he will only use actions to silently wait.
After listening to my analysis, Xiao Yu suddenly realized that in fact, she also liked the boy a little, otherwise the ginger tea tasted so big, how could she drink it in front of him, and the difference between them was only that layer of paper that was not broken. We advise Xiao Yu to be brave, he confesses with actions, you use words to stir it.
The next day at work, Xiao Yu smiled like a flower, obviously very successful, and achieved a good story.
A person will not be good to a person for no reason, silently pay attention to you, remember your preferences, either have an intention for you or fall in love with you.
Zhang Ailing said:
"If I don't love you, I won't miss you, I won't be jealous of the opposite sex around you, and I won't lose my self-confidence and morale." 」
In fact, loving a person will be held back by him, but willingly being held back by him, even if it is for him to suffer and suffer, it is also a different kind of sweetness.
04. Take good care of your family
As the saying goes: Love The House and Wu, like you, will accept everything about you, including your family.
Actress An Yixuan talked about her husband Chen Ronglian, it was a face of appreciation and sweetness, she said that he is very filial piety, every time she goes to Taiwan will go to see her grandmother, when eating will give her grandmother a dish, grandma will immediately get up to help, will communicate with her father in the way of friends, will buy birthday gifts for her aunt, are his own personal selection.
In fact, he is so busy, he can let the secretary or assistant to help him choose, but he will personally go to take photos for her, ask her if this is OK, and whether her aunt will like it. He loved not only her, but her family. He would take her younger siblings with him every time he went on a trip.
An Yixuan had indeed found the right lover, and her joy was that the corners of her mouth and eyebrows were exposed.
This may be to fall in love with someone, will love Ya and Wu, and put her family in mind.
In the variety show "Mother-in-law Mother", Chen Songling has been indebted to her in-laws because she cannot have children, and her mother-in-law also has opinions about her at the beginning, but through the two of them, the mother-in-law's attitude towards her has also changed greatly, and she said to her son Zhang Duo: Because the daughter-in-law married to our Zhang family, I like you, and naturally I like her, because we are a family. ”
And Chen Songling is also willing to change for her husband and become friends with her mother-in-law.
If you love someone, you will love even your family, even if there is friction, you are willing to run into it.
05. Mei Niang said
In the relationship, many men and women's way of thinking is not the same, women always want men to say "I love you" anytime and anywhere, as if only in this way can there be a sense of security, and men often do not like to say everything, like to express with actions.
But will an ordinary friend always care about your food and clothing? Will it be in you as soon as you need it, will it always put you first? Will you say "don't be afraid, there I am"? Will it be like his family to your family? Will you completely present your wounds, your own pain, to you?
If men are so obvious, it only proves that the man is in love with you.
Sometimes, love also requires a woman to take the initiative to guide the man, so that he not only has to do it, but also say it, so that the two people will not miss each other and miss happiness because of each other's reticence and temptation.
And men, we must also understand that in fact, girls prefer you to take the initiative to confess, as said in "The First Book to Understand the Relationship between Men and Women in Seconds":
"Love can not wait, love should be boldly confessed." It is better to let the dream of love be shattered in the confession than to let the love disappear in the waiting. ”
Yes, beautiful love, in the end, still belongs to brave people! And if you are always in a bad relationship, then I hope that after reading this "The First Book of Seconds to Understand Men and Women", you will understand the careful thinking of the opposite sex more and make your love road more smooth.
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