Recently, the TV series "Xiao MinJia" has caught fire.
In the plot of one of the episodes, Xiao Min quarreled with her mother because of the entanglement of her ex-husband Jin Bo, and when she was in a bad mood, Chen Zhuo waved to Xiao Min downstairs, and that moment was like a hero who came to save his lover.
Chen Zhuo took Xiao Min to eat noodles, in order to alleviate Xiao Min's sad feelings, Chen Zhuo kept making Xiao Min happy, Xiao Min wiped away her tears, looked at Chen Zhuo in front of her and said:
"How could I be with you, you say?" A 46-year-old man still bouncing around. ”
"I always thought I'd be with someone I admired, but why did you ask me to go downstairs?"
"When you asked me out downstairs today, your heart was still warm, and when you were full, it was even warmer."
As the line in "Beijing Meets Seattle" goes: He may not take me to a yacht and eat French food, but he can run a few streets for me every morning to buy my favorite soy milk fritters.
It is not important for men to have more money or less money, and finding someone who knows the cold and knows the heat hurts you is the key.
So choosing a man who can take care of your little emotions will have more happiness than finding a man you admire.
【1】
Chen Hengzhe, the "mother of talented women" who has taught Lin Huiyin, Zhang Ailing, Xie Wanying and many other talented women of the Republic of China, her road to marriage and love is also full of twists and turns.
When Chen Hengzhe first went to the United States to study, he met Hu Shi. He was polite and talented, and soon attracted chen Hengzhe's attention.
Talented people always feel sorry for each other, plus they are in a foreign country, and in just half a year, the relationship between the two people has become closer and closer.
At that time, Hu Shi called for a revolution in literary vernacular literature and advocated vernacular literature, but many international students did not agree with it, and even thought that this was "nonsense".
However, Chen Hengzhe supported Hu Shi with practical actions and published the vernacular novel "One Day", which caused heated discussion at the time.
In the coming and going, the two gradually became in love, and thought that they would live a lifetime, but they were completely disrupted by a letter from Hu Shi's mother.
The general meaning of the letter is that he found a wife for Hu Shi in his hometown and asked Hu Shi to hurry home and become a relative.
Although Hu Shi was full of love for Chen Hengzhe, he could not defeat filial piety in the end. After returning to China, Hu Shi obeyed his mother's arrangement and consummated his marriage with Jiang Dongmei.
After Chen Hengzhe knew, he broke down and cried, heartbroken.
At this time, Ren Hongjun, who had been in love with Chen Hengzhe for many years, felt sorry for her, could not bear her sadness, and plucked up enough courage to confess to Chen Hengzhe.
It was also at this time that Chen Hengzhe faced Ren Hongjun's many years of waiting for her for the first time.
Later, when proposing marriage, Ren Hongjun said to Chen Hengzhe: "You are not easy to compromise with the general society, I hope I can be a screen, standing between you and society, for China to worship and cultivate a talented woman." ”
It is also this sentence that makes Chen Hengzhe let go of the obsession he once had in his heart and choose to enter the palace of marriage.
In marriage, if you choose to let yourself worship people, although your heart is happy, you may not be happy.
On the contrary, the person who loves you, hurts you, understands you, and takes care of your little emotions is the one who can make you happy.
Because, once you enter marriage, all the poetry will become chai rice oil and salt, and if you can't shake hands with it, you will become a chicken feather.
And the person who can tolerate your little emotions anytime and anywhere is precisely the light that surrounds the city.
In marriage, it is more important that someone understands your desire to stop talking.
【2】
My sister is 32 years old, still single, my parents broke their hearts, and arranged countless blind dates for my sister, but after seeing them, there was no following.
My sister always used "no common language" as a reason to prevaricate.
In fact, only I know that these blind dates do not meet the sister's mate selection criteria.
In her third year of high school, my sister was deeply attracted by the new English teacher, who was sunny, handsome, tall, and spoke pure English pronunciation, especially his humorous way of lecturing, which could mobilize the cells of every classmate.
Because of his appearance, my sister, who usually has English scores in her early 100s, has broken through 130 for the first time.
My sister attributed this progress to the English teacher, who gave her the method, gave her motivation, and gave her faith.
The sister buried her admiration for the English teacher so deeply in her heart that more than ten years later, she still remembered it.
My sister always wanted to find someone like an English teacher, not only good looking, but also the capital that made her admire.
Later, the sister learned that the English teacher had been divorced for two years, and immediately began to contact the English teacher, and soon the two established a relationship.
Because the English teacher is a second marriage, my parents resolutely oppose it, but in the end, I still can't resist the power of love, and my sister is forced to die, and my parents have to agree.
However, less than a month after getting married, my sister came back and began to complain:
English teachers, selling at school all day, eating a simple meal early in the morning and going out, never knowing how to make breakfast for my sister; studying every night and night, I only go home in the middle of the night.
Day by day, there is no time to talk together, let alone eat together, which is simply a luxury.
The advantages of the English teacher in her sister's heart have now become worthless.
The sister worships the English teacher on the podium, and when he walks off the "altar", he will lose his original light, after all, life is to land, not to shine.
Once the marriage enters the siege, all the wind and snow are reduced to oil, salt, sauce and vinegar, and all the worship before, like foam, is broken in minutes.
The people you worship can't take care of your little emotions after all.
【3】
The first guest of the third season of "Readers" is Yang Yuanxi, an academician of the Chinese Academy of Sciences, deputy chief designer of the Beidou satellite navigation system.
When he invited his wife, Teacher Wang, to the stage, he showed pride on his face.
He and Teacher Wang, who have known each other for 40 years and have been married for 39 years, have a lot of love and envy others.
Teacher Wang said that although he is not as smart as her husband, what she pursues is a person who studies hard, works hard and is self-motivated.
Academician Yang said: "Therefore, I will work very hard to become the kind of person she hopes to be." ”
And said that since he was a child, he has worked very hard, and in order to wait until this day, Teacher Wang can fall in love with himself.
There was an uproar at the scene, and the barrage was all "too sweet" and "bumped"...
Dong Qing concluded: We all say that the Beidou satellite points out the direction for our navigation, but Teacher Wang thank you, so that Yang Zong can always find where the coordinates of the clearest and most stable home are.
This is what a husband and wife should look like, understand each other, tolerate each other, and make progress together.
The marriage love of "people's hero" Academician Chen Wei is also very interesting.
In 1989, Chen Wei and her classmates met to climb Mount Tai, met her current husband on the train, and the two fell in love at first sight and decided to live forever.
When we have known each other for 10 years, Academician Chen Wei wrote such a paragraph: Ten years ago, I and my husband who fell in love at first sight often couldn't help but hold hands and smile, ten years later, the tacit understanding of ten fingers was still smiling, but the hand holding hands had an extra pair of small hands, and my son's brilliant smile was the source of my progress...
Married for more than 20 years, her husband fully supports her career, willing to be the man behind her, taking care of her, caring for her, and supporting her.
Academician Chen Wei's achievements today are inseparable from the silent support behind her husband.
Acquaintance, love at first sight; companionship, plain years, this is the true appearance of marriage.
Although marriage does not have a fixed mode of getting along, but actually living is the true meaning of marriage.
Because love is romantic, and marriage is realistic.
【4】
Before, I accompanied my sister on a blind date and met a particularly different man.
My sister said to him bluntly, "I want to find the right person and get married." ”
The man listened, and said unhurriedly, "Everyone in this world is looking for the right person, but no one is trying to be the right person." ”
His words at that time made me ponder for a long time.
Yeah, instead of trying to find the right person, let yourself be the right person.
Nothing to worship, no trade-offs, because it's you, so I'm willing.
You understand my little emotions, I understand your big ambition, running in both directions, is the most beautiful look of marriage.