As we all know, it was common in ancient times, and even in recent history, they can be seen in individual regions. Ordinary people call it "door-to-door son-in-law", and in some areas, it is called "inverted door", which is a marriage in which the identity and status of both men and women are completely reversed. The idea of male superiority over female inferiority in ancient society is deeply rooted, and such special marriages are mostly despised by people. The male who symbolizes the power of the woman needs to be attached to the woman at this moment, which is no different from marrying the woman, and in the hearts of the ancients, the man means that the incense is broken. Therefore, the status of the door-to-door son-in-law can be imagined, although it is slightly reflected in the current popular TV series "Son-in-law", but its routine of marrying Bai Fumei to the peak of life can only be unrealistic imagination.
The "son-in-law" originated in the Spring and Autumn Period of the princes of the State of Qi, who had differences with other regions on the issue of the marriage of the eldest daughter, and the people of the State of Qi at that time believed that the eldest daughter in the family needed to preside over the family sacrifice, and that marriage would affect the family fortune. They also have a special title called "Wu'er", Wu'er has a special family status, can not marry but can only recruit a son-in-law to enter, "son-in-law" from this. This custom of the State of Qi lasted for a long time, and it was still popular until the Han Dynasty. Most of the men who are at the bottom of society are almost all economically poor and unable to marry, but most of the men who have an acre and a third of land will not take this road. At that time, the most famous son-in-law of the State of Qi was called Chun Yu Jie, who was himself knowledgeable and knowledgeable, and could speak eloquently and was a famous sage of the State of Qi, and "a blockbuster" originated from him. Why would such a good person be willing to be a son-in-law? In the end, it was the helpless birth, in addition to his humble origins, the "hair" in his name also meant that he was tortured, that is, he was shaved off the hair around the top of his head, and it can be said that his status was inferior to that of ordinary people. However, he likes to read and has a strong memory, and often goes to the Minoru Gakuen Palace to make remarks, and finally is discovered by the Lord of the Ming Dynasty to have the following story.
However, during the Spring and Autumn Period, the sons competed for meritocracy, and Chun Yu's origin was covered by an aura, but ordinary people did not have such ability. Their entry is no different from "selling themselves". The Book of Poetry, Wang Feng, and Ge Xue vividly records the tragic state of mind of the person concerned:
Gentle Kudzu, in the River Margin. Brother Forever, called the Father of others. He who is the Father of others is not in my own hands.
Gentle kudzu, in the river of the water. The brother is called the mother of others. It is called the mother of others, nor do I have it.
Gentle Kudzu, in the river of the whirlpool. Brothers, called others Kun. It is said that others are kun, and I cannot hear it.
The gist is that he saw Ge Xue touching the scene and lamenting his tragic experience, far away from his relatives and brothers, and to call others his parents brothers, even if they called them fathers and brothers every day, they never came and did not regard themselves as sons and daughters, and did not have any attachment or even pretended not to hear. Among them, the miserable drifting zero and the indifference of the world's feelings jumped on the paper, which was deeply moving. It is not difficult to see that the life under the fence has always been full of human feelings. In addition to his own mental disapproval, he was mostly physically like slaves and servants, and in the face of wartime conscription, he was often used as a starting shield by women.
During the Warring States period, special laws were also enacted to exploit this special group, and all of them were deprived of property and sent to the expedition, and their heirs would also be seriously implicated, becoming the "untouchables" at the lowest level of society. The laws of the Qin Dynasty also had special regulations on it:
For thirty-three years, he sent out the remnants, sons-in-law, and Jia people to take the land of Liang and Liang for Guilin, Xiang County, and Nanhai, in order to be suitable for dispatch.
The method of "killing two birds without curing" and "benefiting the side" mentioned in the Book of Shang Jun is brought into play. This shows that not only are the people ashamed of entering the rich, but in the eyes of the rulers, they are even less qualified to be the people. The Book of later Han also has a record of "Huainan customs, selling sons and people as slaves, named Zizi, three years can not be redeemed, then become a slave", which shows that the prejudice against The son-in-law has long been deeply rooted.
In their view, such people have lost the dignity of men, which is undoubtedly a disgrace to male power in the ancient society of male dignity. With the disintegration of feudal society, such ideas are slowly dying out, and people have the same attitude towards "rich women" and "big money".