Previously, the TV series "Son-in-law", adapted from the novel of the same name and starring Guo Qilin and Song Yi, was being broadcast, setting off a wave of ratings and rising word of mouth.
There are several rather "absurd" and "nonsensical" settings in the plot, such as the men's moral college for men to study and reflect on, and the men who go to the men's moral college for further study in order to get everyone's favor. Many people say that these bridges are "insulting male dignity", but in fact, they are not, this is just a reflexive mirror image, an insinuation of the status of women in ancient feudal society.
Then again, in ancient China, was the son-in-law really as common as in the TV series? What is its status?
As we all know, extra marriage has been widespread since ancient times, the so-called into the extra, now known as "door-to-door son-in-law" or "inverted door", that is, "male marriage and female marriage" marriage, the identity of men and women is reversed, in the ancient society where men and women are distinguished, such identity adjustment also means a change in status. When a man "marries" a woman, he must settle in his wife's house, regard his wife's parents as his parents, and the children follow their mother's surname, and the offspring must inherit the mother's ancestral lineage.
In a word, what women should do in traditional marriages, how men should be in excess marriage.
Because of this, in ancient society, the son-in-law has always been regarded as a kind of "shame", in the TV series "Son-in-law", the "door-to-door aunt" played by Guo Qilin was welcomed to the woman's home by the ceremonial team on the wedding day, and on the way, from time to time, he was also despised by passers-by.
In real ancient times, the bullying and discrimination suffered by the son-in-law was far more than that.
First of all, why do men want to get into the money?
Unlike modern society, most of today's door-to-door son-in-law believe in the so-called "numerology" for the sake of trying to make the first world too peaceful, or for the pursuit of love and "self-degrading". In ancient times, there was only one reason for men's misuse, that is, poverty. The so-called "赘", itself has the meaning of "mortgage" and "lending", the TV series "赘婿" also reflected in this, those men are almost "Redundant" heart unwilling, bent on making enough money to redeem themselves, the male protagonist Ning Yi is also because of the family road, helpless to become the Su family son-in-law.
At this point of view, it seems that entering the fold is no different from "selling one's body", entering the money as a son-in-law, selling oneself as a slave, and thinking that it is not too bad.
In the Notes to the Book of later Han and the Biography of Yan Shu, there is such a record:
In Huainan Customs, selling sons and people as slaves, named Zizi, cannot be redeemed for three years, so they become slaves.
The so-called son-in-law is the meaning of the son-in-law, if you can't redeem yourself for three years, you become a real slave.
From this point of view, once an ancient man entered the fold, he also became a "quasi-slave", and his status can be imagined.
Even if it is the most beautiful son-in-law in a country, when the horse is in the court, he will be treated with a lot of cold eyes and contempt.
Therefore, when the general large household chooses a son-in-law, they often choose a handsome and strong person, first, in terms of image, they will not lose the face of the family, and second, they will work at home and work harder, Chen Ping, the founding prime minister of the Western Han Dynasty, is dignified and tall, and when he was young, he once gave the granddaughter of the local large household Zhang Negative as a son-in-law, but Chen Ping can be said to be a rare "lucky person" in ancient times, after he "passed the door", he was widely loved by Zhang Negative, not only did not treat him badly, but even more financially, let him make friends with Haojie, and even later, Become the weight of the country.
Like Chen Ping, there are always very few "sons-in-law", most of the sons-in-law, can only marry a concubine, the role played is only labor and fertility tools, will not be regarded as an aunt by the wife's family respect.
In the Book of Poetry, ge xue, it is mentioned that the humble status of the son-in-law is mentioned:
Brother Zhongyuan, called the father of others, do not care about me... Called other people's mothers, nor do I have... It is said that others are kun, and I cannot hear it.
The son-in-law sent people under the fence, away from relatives, worried and uneasy every day, and tried their best to cater to the female family, but the female family ignored it, which is a realistic portrayal of the life of the son-in-law after marriage. In addition, the son-in-law must also work for the female family like a slave, endlessly, not being looked at at all, and when the state conscripts the army, the son-in-law will become the first choice in the family.
It is recorded in the Warring States "Wei Law" that the son-in-law was treated almost cruelly, not only was the field house seized, sent out on expeditions, and abused wantonly, but also the heirs were involved.
It can be said that the son-in-law is just a kind of untouchable.
This identity and status can be said to have lasted for thousands of years, and it is recorded in the Qin Dynasty, the Qin Shi Huang Benji:
For thirty-three years, he sent out the remnants, sons-in-law, and Jia people to take the land of Liang and Liang for Guilin, Xiang County, and Nanhai, in order to be suitable for dispatch.
The Qin Emperor grouped together the "scum of society" such as his son-in-law and went to Lingnan Shubian to achieve the purpose of "eliminating the best of both worlds" and "benefiting the border" of "harming without condemnation." Isn't this what we often call the distribution frontier? It can be seen that the status of the son-in-law is almost the same as that of the criminal.
In the Han Dynasty, the status of the son-in-law was still the same, especially during the period of Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty, there were frequent wars, the lack of troops, and where did the troops come from, the low status, the strong son-in-law became the first choice, in the war against Dawan, Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty captured the sons-in-law everywhere, forced them to join the army, and sent them to places with harsh climates and poor people.
It was also in the Han Dynasty, due to the cruel persecution of the rulers, the number of sons-in-law may have undergone a serious sharp decline, and by the Eastern Han Dynasty, it is difficult to find traces of sons-in-law in the history books.
Strange to say, in the end, the son-in-law is just a personal choice, just like selling himself into slavery, and it is reasonable to be despised by his wife's family, why did this vulnerable group of a few people arouse the hatred of the ancient rulers?
It is advisable to examine the group of sons-in-law from the perspective of an ancient feudal ruler.
As everyone knows, the ancient society advocated the ethical program, the male superiority and female inferiority have long been deeply rooted in the hearts of the people, and the husband and wife program is often unchanged, but the son-in-law is undoubtedly reversing this program, and the status of men and women is reversed, the so-called "subjects, sons, fathers, wives and husbands." The three are ruled by the world, the three are in disobedience to the world, and the common way under the world is also", the so-called "shun is prosperous, and the opposite is dead", as the king of a country, I only wish that the world will be peaceful and smooth, and the emergence of the son-in-law, reversing the yin and yang will inevitably cause disorder of rule, chaos in the world, and at the same time, the son-in-law is attached to the female family, does not establish a household registration, thus escaping from agricultural wars and taxes, as a ruling class, this directly affects the interests of the country, how can it be tolerated?
Therefore, regardless of the family or the country, it is not surprising that the ancient sons-in-law were treated with such misery.
However, in today's world, equality between men and women, monogamy, surname is also a two-sided negotiation decision, men marry women, women marry men do not matter, the various forms of extra marriage have been greatly weakened, there is no so-called "inverted door", most of them have become "two-headed marriage".
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