Wen | West Window
Communicate with you with words, convey emotional life, pay attention to me, and grow together.
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Opening Remarks:
If people live a lifetime, if they have too many things in their hearts, they are doomed to be unhappy.
In the face of all kinds of people around you, whether the other party is important or not, you must pay attention to it, and you will repeatedly ponder the attitude of others to you.
Maybe it's out of lack of confidence, or maybe it's because you pay too much attention to relationships with others, so you're always afraid that you're not welcome.
You are afraid that you will accidentally offend others, afraid that others will have a negative evaluation of you, so all the time, you can say that you are careful.
No matter who you interact with, you always put other people's thoughts and feelings first, and habitually ignore yourself, which is not a good thing.
This state of affairs continues for a long time, and your situation will become more and more humble, and everyone can point fingers at you, but no one cares about your feelings.
If you think about it, why bother? Why should you allow yourself to be held back by people who don't really matter?
You know so much about thinking for others, but all along, who around you has been considerate of you, and who expects you to be better?
Those selfish and mean people, in addition to sneering at you, bullying and hurting, have never given you any good treatment.
It's a bit redundant for you to make friends with them. If you really can't get along, it is better to completely look down on those people.
Looking down on all the people and things that make you uncomfortable, caring less about others, and pleasing yourself more, this is the best way to live.
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If you care too much, you will be swayed by others
A person's experience is too shallow, and he is easily affected by the gossip of the outside world.
Hearing that others said bad things about themselves, I thought about it day and night, and while getting angry, I began to doubt myself.
Others say that you can't earn money and have no ability, you feel that no one looks down on you, you can't look up when you go out, and you are inferior enough to dare not face others;
When others make fun of your emotional problems or family problems, you feel that you have failed in life, and you can't be happy all day.
Did you know that the people who are always talking about you behind your back don't really care much about your life?
They just need an after-dinner conversation, their own life may not really be better than yours, and you are stupid to take their words seriously.
If you care too much about the praise and criticism of others, you will gradually lose your own direction, and always want to explain yourself to others, which will only show that you lack confidence.
That's your life, why should others mix it up?
What others say about you, let them go, you just have to do your own thing, live according to your own wishes, and have no shame.
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If you care too much, you will always endure grievances
The more you care about a person, the more you are afraid of losing.
Whether it's friendship or love, when you can't leave each other, you lose.
Having seen too many people, once they have identified a relationship, they can't bear to let each other's feelings end, and the more they go back, the more humble they will be.
The so-called friends take advantage of you everywhere and dismantle your platform, but you care too much about each other, so you would rather swallow your anger than talk clearly;
The person you love deeply has deceived and hurt you five times, but you are so soft-hearted that you can't force yourself to let go.
To put it bluntly, you, as a person, once you have paid your heart to whom, you are reluctant to drive the other party out of your world.
It is precisely because of this that the people you care about are becoming more and more unscrupulous in front of you. People know that you don't fall out easily with people, so they are more excessive than anyone else.
If you are fed up with grievances, you should persuade yourself to change your way of life.
Since people won't treat you well, you don't need to take them seriously anymore, don't bother to please anyone, just love yourself.
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Too much care, the more you live, the less it tastes
When people live and care more, they will have "heart diseases".
A heart is so big, you are always entangled in those unpleasant things, over time, the whole person will become depressed.
What others say about you, you think about it every day, obviously that thing has passed for a long time, you just won't let go.
The fundamental reason why you are troubled a lot is that you always like to get entangled with rotten people and bad things.
Life could not have been so tired, but your personality is too sensitive, too stubborn, others are persuading themselves to want to open, but you are not competing with others, you are competing with yourself.
Learning will not let go, all the bad encounters in the past will always pile up in your heart, in that case, your life is destined to pass more and more is not a taste.
Being a person, sometimes it is really difficult to be confused, try to throw away the happy knot, live in the moment, maybe you will not be so upset.
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West Window Message:
I once heard someone say that life is a practice.
On the way forward, there will be all kinds of unsatisfactory things, intermittently playing out in your and my lives.
Whether it is the contradictions and resentments when getting along with people, or the hardships in individuals, after experiencing them, they should not be entangled.
If you care too much, you will be troubled; if you think too much, you will be bitter and angry.
These bad emotions can be avoided. After all, people live a lifetime, and there is nothing in their hearts, which is the best state.
Try to "don't care", look down on everything, and you win.
In the future, just be yourself, with a faint mood, live a light day, it is very good.
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Author: West Window, a post-90s girl who loves to write, if you like my article, welcome to interact with me in the comment area.