Wen | West Window
Communicate with you with words, convey emotional life, pay attention to me, and grow together.
In life, there will always be an inevitable intersection with many people.
Some people are you who take the initiative to get closer, in order to find emotional sustenance for yourself; there are also some people who meet by chance, and gradually have friendships when they come and go.
In the process of dealing with others, it is impossible to do everything as you wish, people and human personalities are different, and there will definitely be contradictions and frictions when getting along.
In fact, this is not terrible, as long as you are all people with good character and good hearts and eyes, you must know how to consider each other, and you also know how to turn big things into small things.
There is only one situation that cannot be tolerated, that is, you are sincere to others, but the other party treats you like a fool.
You regard him as a friend, but he does not see you well; you are tolerant and generous to him, but he calculates you everywhere.
When you meet such a person, even if you are kind, you can't impress him, but he will use your simplicity and character carelessness to "make waves" in your world.
To tell the truth, there is no need to contact anyone who is so to you.
If you want to live every day, you must learn to take the initiative to stay away from people who affect your mood and endanger your interests, and break off relations with the following three kinds of people as soon as possible, so that your world will be pure and your life will be peaceful.
The first: people who compare themselves to you everywhere
The more you love vanity in your bones, the more you like to compare yourself with the people around you.
If you have a better life than him, he will not be able to stand it in any way, either saying cool things in front of you, or maliciously touting you on occasions where there are many people.
He always catches up with you, so pay special attention to your life, and whenever you encounter something bad, he will be complacent behind your back.
Seeing that you are down, he feels that he has found an opportunity to get ahead, and he will deliberately come to you and show off what he has to you.
What you are not good, he will compare with you. The tone of speech is extremely flamboyant, and incidentally it will degrade your situation and make your mood particularly bad.
Looking at the way you are compared to yourself, he will feel particularly proud, he wishes you could not turn over for the rest of your life, so that he can always maintain a sense of superiority in front of you.
His mind is despicable and sinister, what does it mean that you are reluctantly dealing with such a person?
From now on, pay less attention to him, let him blow himself into the sky, you just run your own life, and try not to have any contact with him again.
The second type: people who are too selfish and stingy
Getting along with friends can't just be a one-sided effort.
But often there are also some people who are too selfish and stingy in their bones, and they are reluctant to pay for anyone except their own relatives.
Some people may say that there is nothing wrong with a person having only family in his heart, but if this person is particularly fond of taking advantage of the process of getting along with friends, it is another matter.
You must have had such a friend around you:
When he encounters things, you help each other, and when you encounter difficulties, he will stand by and watch, and even if you borrow a small thing from him, he is reluctant to do so;
When he got married and had children, you took the gift money with you, but when it was your turn to have something going on, he either pretended not to know or only used verbal blessings to fool you.
Dealing with such a person, you will find that you are always giving to him foolishly, and he can't even do the minimum courtesy exchange, let alone do anything for you.
His selfishness makes him see only his own interests, and even if he has the ability to help you, he will reject you mercilessly.
While asking for you, while refusing to pay for you, since you really can't get the return you deserve, then please take back your kindness.
The third: people who don't take you seriously
People have different personalities, some people are born with heavy feelings, and some people have a thin and cool nature.
For those who don't care about human feelings, the goodness of others is not something worth cherishing in their eyes.
They never put someone in their hearts, they don't bother to maintain their relationship with others, they don't care about anything, they have you and you are the same.
If you rush to please others, they may not care; if you disturb others every day, they may not reply.
In this kind of person, you can't get the so-called warmth or touch at all, people either perfunctory or ignore you, it can be said that they don't care about your whereabouts.
You contact him more often, and he will still annoy you, saying behind your back that you are not interesting, obviously not wanting to get too close to you.
In the face of a person who rejects and resists you, your demands will only show that you have no emotional intelligence.
People don't take you seriously, so why should you force it? In fact, whoever leaves can live, or let yourself have some backbone, stop doing that humble and flattering thing.
The road of life, while moving forward, while feeling.
With the growth of age, everyone's experience is becoming wider, and when you have seen the sinister and cold world, you should also understand who should be handed over and who should not be handed over.
Selfish, ruthless and unrighteous people, don't care what kind of relationship you have now, break off relations as soon as possible.
Some people, in fact, should have disappeared from your world long ago. When the judgment is broken, it is also a kind of wisdom for people to deal with the world.
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Author: West Window, a post-90s girl who loves to write, if you like my article, welcome to interact with me in the comment area.