All our lives, we are just lonely people

Hearing the story of Alice the Whale of 52 Hertz for the first time, I suddenly felt like I was hit by an electric current.

There is a lone whale in the world - Alice, which can make a sound of 52 hertz, while other whales can only make 12-25 hers, so it means that her voice can never be heard by her companions.

The loneliness of such a lyric must have aroused the resonance of each lonely individual's wailing. We are misunderstood by the world, suffering from the loneliness of thinking, and we are like the whale walking alone in the world.

I have tried to collide with the world over and over again, and when my head is broken and bleeding, I will think of the 52 hertz whale.

A person's life is not lonely, the shadow is only not lonely, no one understands, no one resonates with the spiritual world, is lonely.

Because life is not long, it is not short, we need our companions to move forward together.

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Writer Richard Yates said in "Eleven Kinds of Loneliness": "The so-called loneliness is the person you face, and his emotions and your own emotions are not on the same channel." ”

A new friend, a young writer, said he didn't like to write poetry, he liked to write more novels, because it would be sad to write poetry. In his poem, there is a "kappa", which is probably a kappa looking at the human world on the shore in the water, and no matter how lively the fireworks are in the world, the kappa are lonely.

The neighbor has a child, cute, quiet, do not cry or make trouble, she likes to go to the play area of the community to see ants, play with sand, do not like to play with other children, others make him not laugh much, which makes her mother sad, once suspected that her child has autism.

In fact, this child is a child who is very willing to help others, takes the initiative to share his toys with other children, does not cry or make trouble, and will comfort the crying children. He is just too addicted to his own world, he can play with himself, and he is enjoying the joy and loneliness of his world.

When we are not connected to the world, we deeply understand loneliness; when we are in harmony with the world, we are prone to lose ourselves and become the person we did not want to be.

Loneliness is a struggle, and you always have to learn to live with loneliness. Throughout our lives, we have a task that we cannot escape is to learn to face loneliness and control loneliness.

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Each of us who thinks about loneliness, thinks about the problems that people in the past thinks about, and is lonely and lonely. When it's time to fight loneliness, we never go it alone.

Loneliness, some people are often feelings, some people may appear once a while. It's not rare, it's not mysterious, but sometimes it overwhelms us, and if we can't enjoy it, it's time to find a way to get out of the loneliness of negativity.

The Masnot theory of needs contains a "respect for needs." It is both a need for self-worth realization, and also includes the recognition and respect of others for ourselves, and we instinctively seek external recognition. We need to embrace our friends and meet our social needs.

Chen Guo, a female professor in Fudan, said that for the rest of her life, she will be a lonely but not lonely person. Loneliness never equals loneliness, but loneliness can at some point become lonely. Learning to build a haven can help us enjoy our solitude better.

There is a friend who has known for many years, was the head of the student union when he was studying, a member of the varsity team of two types of sports, and after graduation, his career was smooth, left and right, and he was always the focus of the crowd. On the way to campus or work environment, I often met acquaintances to greet him, but he once told me that he had no friends, but envied me for having several friends. At this time, a rare loneliness appeared on his face, which was emotional.

There is a saying in Tagore's poem: Loneliness is the carnival of one person, and carnival is the loneliness of a group of people.

While we can enjoy the carnival of one person, we should also have three or two close friends, complain, and when we are sad, accompany us to drink a small drink. Friends, rather than indiscriminate, looking for a confidant, good relationships can bring us the courage to support each other.

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Like all maturity, there must be compromises and losses, and that's all my feedback. Loneliness, like an endoscope, we should learn to harness the power of loneliness.

Nansen said: The most important thing for man is to discover himself, so you must always be lonely and silent thinking.

There is a topic above about introverts who are less likely to be socially recognized and welfare than extroverts. This statement makes me, a person who often claims to love to be alone, feel inexplicable.

Carl Jung proposed the concepts of Extrovert and introvert in his 1921 Book of Psychological Typology.

I think I'm also an introvert who likes to be alone. Introversion and extroversion only refer to mental states, and there is no distinction between good and bad. Madeleine Inge, author of Wrinkles of Time, once said that if it were not for the fact that a person spent her time reading and thinking as a child, she would not have become such a bold thinker.

It turns out that loneliness and quietness make people more engaged in something, to get rid of the distractions and temptations around them, and to be more patient with things.

Some people see loneliness as immersion in the self-world, woodenness, no emotional intelligence, etc., and do not like social as the loser standard. In fact, lonely people can also be confident, beautiful, and wonderful, which does not mean that they lack social skills.

Some parents see that their children are not as articulate as others, and worry about signing up for their children such as "little host" and "rising star", seeing the like of being alone as a sick thing, ignoring the virtues of concentration and non-fuss.

Treat loneliness as usual, in fact, loneliness has power.

We look at the real Stephen Chow, Mr. Bean Rowan Aikinson, Chaplin, these famous comedy masters, their life records all show that they are lonely, but this loneliness gives them more investment, polishing and creation of the work.

Most of the geniuses in the world are lonely. If we can't be geniuses, we can draw on the strength of loneliness, but we can also cultivate a personality charm that is calm, profound, unfazed, and very insightful.

We don't need to be afraid of loneliness, loneliness is just a lesson in life.

We can't let all people accept us all our lives, and even some of the pursuits and persistences that only we understand, but it doesn't make us a bad person, accept those lonely moments, enjoy as a lonely individual, life is bound to be different.