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I once heard people say that in a relationship, once a man changes his heart, then even if he is gentle and caring for you, he will become hardened, even if you plead in front of him, he will not change his mind again.
In fact, whether it is a man or a woman, it is the case, the fate in the relationship is exhausted, then it is determined to say goodbye to the other party, and it may be the best result to get together and disperse.
But some women will not be reconciled, feeling that as long as they completely grasp the heart of men, they will not face the end of being abandoned, so they will desperately try to be good to each other, and even make concessions repeatedly without principles and bottom lines, just so that men can see their own efforts.
However, does this really make a woman get what she wants? When a woman chooses to be on call, when a woman chooses not to refuse, when a woman has no principles when she faces a man, perhaps she ends up with the result she really wants, because the man's heart is never prayed for.
Women who can really grasp a man's heart completely and firmly in their hands often know how to snub him in this way.
01 Don't be available
Friend Wang Yulin is a woman who is very persistent about love, starting from her first love, as long as she falls in love with a man, she will devote herself wholeheartedly to it, and even change her hairstyle for each other's preferences, and even dress up.
At that time, her friend was kind enough to persuade her not to do anything as soon as her boyfriend asked her to do it, so that serving her boyfriend 24 hours a day would not be cherished.
But Wang Yulin did not believe, in her opinion, only by being on call can she prove her sincerity and sincerity to the other party, and only then will the other party be inseparable from herself.
It turns out that men really can't live without her, but in disguise, they treat her as a nanny, not a lover.
After several emotional injuries, Wang Yulin changed her attitude towards men, and she began to have more opinions of her own, rather than being on call as before.
After doing so, she found that although she began to snub men, she got more care of men.
In fact, it is not difficult to understand that if women are too active, it will only make men not see what women's good is worth cherishing, and if women do not agree to every request of men, but appropriately learn to snub men, it will arouse men's interest, and even after being cold for a period of time, they will miss women's goodness.
Smart women will never let themselves become men's appendages and followers, but will let themselves first become independent individuals, snubbing men is not not cherishing this relationship, on the contrary, it is precisely because of cherishing and caring, so they will use the snubbed way to get the respect and attention of men, because only mutual respect is a positive performance.
02 Common sense snub
Now many women have also learned to use some small routines in love, be careful, not to play with feelings, nor to tease men, just to make the other party more obsessed with themselves, so as to completely grasp the other party's heart.
However, some women will be wrong, use the wrong way, and the final purpose is not achieved, but self-defeating, so that they completely leave regrets with each other.
I saw a female netizen on the Internet complaining, she said that men should use routines, that is, to snub and reject, only in this way can men be more interested in themselves.
At first glance, it seems to be very reasonable, but the experience of the next female netizen shows that she only understands its surface, not the inside.
Women often play with their boyfriends to lose contact, play tantrums at every turn, boyfriends ask her to eat, a second ago also promised to be good, before leaving suddenly refused to date; when the boyfriend has an urgent matter and wants her to help, she feels that she should let the boyfriend experience his feelings when he is anxious, so he will not care about the boyfriend's feelings and directly choose to snub him, and then the phone is turned off.
For a long time, men can't stand it, think that women are making trouble without reason, simply proposed to break up, facing the end of being broken up, women have grievances instead, and feel that men do not understand women's minds.
There is no doubt that even many female netizens have to stand on the side of men this time, because it is obvious that snubbing men is to have a scale and principle, not to snub it with the mood.
Women who can really attract men to be more interested in themselves by snubing will not behave irrationally, nor will they let their temperament do whatever they want.
Even if a man loves a woman again, he will not tolerate the woman's unwarranted oversubbing, and the degree of too much will only make him feel tired, and even directly give up the relationship.
When women snub men, they cannot put themselves in an unreasonable situation, and under the premise of reason, snubing is a kind of interest and a means, but unreasonable snubs become self-destructive feelings, and they will not make men more interested in women.
When a woman snubs a man, if it is reasonable, then the man will reflect on himself and think about why she snubbed himself? And the process of thinking is the stage of being fascinated by women's exploration, which is the most correct choice for a woman who understands men's psychology.
03 Know how to overcome aesthetic fatigue with snubs
Two people have been together for a long time, no matter how deep the feelings are, they also have to face the test of aesthetic fatigue, if two people have been tired of being together, there is no doubt that the shortcomings and deficiencies of the other person will consume each other's love little by little.
And if women know how to use moderate snub to alienate men, maintain their sense of distance and freshness in front of men, they will safely pass the aesthetic fatigue period.
When women blindly show all their beauty in front of men, they neglect to open the aesthetic distance, but they will make their beauty become tired in men's eyes, so that men's hearts gradually leave themselves.
Know how to properly snub men to create a sense of distance between two people, but will make men often miss the woman's good, the mind is here in the woman, naturally will invest more love in women.
Grasping a man's heart will make himself the one who is favored in this love, although there are many ways, but no matter which one a woman chooses, she must consider a big premise, that is, to understand the man's mind, grasp the man's mind, understand the man's psychology and thinking, and will be fundamentally closer to the man's heart.
Therefore, the woman who can conquer men must not be simple, because she knows how to make herself love men as much as she wants.
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