Some people said: "I have something in mind, but I don't want to say that silence is not without emotion, but that I understand that it is meaningless, and silence may be better than the grievances and unwillingness of the prosecution." ”
When a person has experienced the ups and downs of the world and seen the warmth and coldness of human feelings, he no longer has so many emotions and unwillingness, but becomes more and more silent, and he does not want to say more and more.
In this world of thin affection, live affectionately, do not pin your hopes on others, but rely on yourself, step by step, to the end of the road.
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When a person is chilled, it is silent.
In Pushkin's story, poor fishermen and old wives are rewarded for releasing a goldfish. This was supposed to be an opportunity to change one's destiny, but it was nothing due to the greed of the old woman.
People often accuse the old woman of being insatiable, but few people can read the sadness and helplessness behind it.
Just like a plot described in the novel "Alive": one of the protagonists of the novel, "Bitterroot", died because of eating beans. Because of the tragedy of greed, he was really too poor, too hungry, and there were no adults around at that time.
On the journey of life, who is not in the face of difficulties, eager for a "life-saving straw" to appear. Because the expectations are too high, and the force is too strong, unconsciously, let yourself fall into another dilemma.
A person who is not loved is often more easily deceived, not because he does not realize that he may fall into the trap, but because he is too eager to find the feeling of being loved.
A marginalized person who is often more likely to be assigned dirty and tired work is not that he has not thought of struggling, but he humbly wants to prove himself with "strength", and can make achievements no matter what he does.
However, all betrayals and oppression will never happen for no reason, if you want to trace back to the source, then a person's weakness, a person's expectations are "original sin", once they are pinched, they can only be hurt again and again, and used again and again.
Whether it is to continue to endure or to let go completely, the heart that was once full of expectation has been chilled.
Mourning is greater than death, and when a person is cold, he does not want to say anything more.
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When a person begins to enjoy solitude, he begins to be silent.
A few years ago, there was a popular saying: "Loneliness is a person's carnival, a solo dance of the soul." ”
On the road of life, we continue to make friends, or accumulate contacts for promotion and salary increases, or find like-minded people for hobbies, or maybe we just want to have a companion to accompany in a certain part of the journey.
In order to show sincerity and express concern for this relationship, he often spends time gathering, drinking, chatting, and doing things that others like but do not agree with him.
How to be able to call brothers and brothers, not to be understood, not to be understood, often let us in the lively, feel suffocated loneliness.
With a heart full of hearts, who can you talk to? Full of talent, who knows?
Since everything around you can no longer get emotional support and resonance, it is better to enjoy a person's carnival.
Sit quietly and listen to the rain, read the mind alone, and when a person learns to talk to himself, begins to taste loneliness, and in a person's world, blooms a garden full of flowers, he no longer disdains to talk to others.
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When a person has experienced great ups and downs, he is accustomed to silence.
In Mr. Jin Yong's martial arts novels, the people with the strongest martial arts are not those who talk loudly, not those who are famous, but sweeping monks who no one will care.
The first half of the life of the "sweeping monk" should be as wonderful as reading Shakespeare's work: in the eyes of a thousand readers, there are a thousand Hamlets.
How many people, seemingly ordinary like a fallen leaf, fell gently, or returned to dust, or drifted away with the wind.
However, when we look up at the tree, we will see that each leaf is trying to stretch itself, accepting the nourishment of the sun and rain, blooming the tension of life, so as to accumulate enough energy before the storm comes, and play with it again and again.
Although those "high people" who belong to the ordinary have long faded out of the "jianghu", their stories have been circulating on the "jianghu".
As the protagonists of the story, they are no longer willing to mention the past, to mention the joys and sorrows between the ups and downs.
In the Analects, it is written: "If you do not say anything when you are accomplished, you will not advise you on what you have done, and you will not be blamed for the past." This means that what has already been done does not need to be mentioned again, what has already been done does not need to be dissuaded, and what has already been done does not need to be pursued.
This indifference and freedom is silence. Ren'er's east, west, south, and north winds blew, and I stood still.
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Conclusion:
When one becomes more and more silent, more and more reluctant to say, probably, has truly understood to let go.
Those losses, those regrets, those grievances, will no longer be a heavy burden, weighing themselves out of breath, no longer a shackle, making them unable to move.
No longer waste time and energy on unworthy people and things, but begin to concentrate on being yourself and live like you like.
Do not bother a silent man, for he does not need any consolation.
Author: Like the wind is light as a cloud.
Your happiness, my blessings.
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