People are able to keep their duties at all times, be cautious in words and deeds, and do not try to be quick at any time.
In life, the reason why many people make mistakes and cause trouble is mostly because they have not managed their mouths well. It is said that the speaker has no intention and the listener has intentions, which means that a word without a heart can also offend people with a heart.
Therefore, even if your relationship with others is good, you must think twice before speaking, and before speaking, you must make a turn on your tongue and think about what you can say and what you can't say. Generally speaking, the following few things, rotten in the stomach do not say.
01 Things that are difficult to export
Everyone has some unspeakable secrets, once they come out of your mouth, it will make each other very embarrassed, so even if you are a good friend with yourself, don't say something that makes the other party embarrassed.
For example, when you are in difficulty and in urgent need of financial assistance, knowing that your good friend is also not financially rich, don't open your mouth to ask for help in this case, after all, after you open your mouth, the other party will be very embarrassed. Promise down, he is not capable; do not agree, and feel ashamed of you.
Therefore, saying such words is just to make each other uncomfortable, in this case, or try to think of your own way, rather than talking to each other.
02 The other party's obvious defects
In life, we often have some people who are accustomed to saying each other's flaws directly, and they think that they are straightforward and fast-talking, and they think that they will say so if they take each other as friends.
As a true friend, if it is at the right time and occasion, it is right to point out the other party's shortcomings and help the other party correct. But he overlooked that flaws are not the same as flaws.
Defects are often obvious things, and the parties themselves are very clear. Like some girls, the figure is relatively fat, they themselves are sad about this, inferiority, but there are still some people who are self-righteous, from time to time to mention each other's body defects, but also the name is to stimulate each other, so that the other party's weight loss becomes more perfect.
But in fact, this kind of behavior is not helping the other party, but embarrassing the other party, so if you directly point out the flaws of others like this, it is better to say less in the future.
03 Still doubting things
No matter what kind of relationship they have, whether it is a husband and wife, a friend or a friend, the most important thing is the trust between each other.
The disintegration of many couples and friends begins with doubt, especially couples, once they have doubts about each other, it will seriously affect their feelings.
Some couples are often suspicious of each other because of some small things, even if the other party is a normal interaction with the opposite sex, it will make them fidget, and even have some extreme behaviors, from time to time to check the post, asking the other party to send themselves positioning, open video.
Such an approach will inevitably cause the other party's disgust, and even make the marriage break up.
This is true between husband and wife, and it is also true of friends.
Therefore, when you find that you have doubts about others, but have not been confirmed, do not easily say these things, but wait and see, even if there is such a thing, you must wait until it is confirmed before saying it to solve.
04 A half-understood thing
Some people are always eager to express some of their views when communicating with others, but in fact they do not really understand these things, and the words spoken at this time are like half a bucket of water, which will only attract ridicule from others.
Therefore, when people who live thoroughly communicate with others, they will not rush to say their own views, but will keep quiet, listen to what others say, and after having a comprehensive understanding of things, they will evaluate things and express their own views.
05 Words of mutual praise
In this world, there are always some people who are used to sneaking around when interacting with people, and there are always some people who like others to wear high hats for him. Being put on a top hat may satisfy vanity, but it also shows one's own hypocrisy, and it does not lead to any growth. For a truly powerful person, he will be very disgusted with the person who sneaks and shoots the horse.
People who want to be self-motivated should not put their energy on patting their ass, and sincere people will not accept other people's sloppy patting, especially those who get along better with themselves and have a closer relationship, and they cannot be touted at will, which will make the other party feel that you are not sincere enough.
06 Teasing each other's words
There are always some people who think that they have a good relationship with each other, and they can joke about each other at will, but they forget that the so-called joke must make both parties feel happy, in order to be able to call it a joke, if it will hurt each other, or make the other party feel embarrassed, such a joke will become a joke on the other party.
In life, the cause of many bloody cases is just a joke that cannot be too small to be small. Especially among good friends, such tragedies are even more sad.
So, it's okay to joke when you're with your friends, but remember that jokes don't go beyond the bottom line.
A person, a lifetime, and several friends who can talk about it are very rare and should be cherished. Therefore, no matter how good the relationship is, these 6 things can not be said.